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@coathanger wrote:
Its my perogative to head them under any name i choose to.!
Is it not Kenty’s prerogative then to comment on what, it appears, she considers a cowardly practise.
@coathanger wrote:
If you don’t like them, or think I’m being unfair don’t read them. Simples !
.. could easily be turned back on you – “If you don’t like some of the comments on your posts, or think they’re unfair, don’t read them – or don’t post in the first place. Simples!
How is the whole “Don’t read it if you don’t like it” thing supposed to work anyway? How are we supposed to decide if we dislike a post or think it’s unfair unless we first read it?
It’s just a tad unrealistic to think the only comments posted should be those agreeing with your submissions and method.
@kent f OBE wrote:
Good post Malley…..did I tell you, you look gorgeous today? :lol:
Doesn’t matter if you told me – tell me again.. I can never hear that enough!! :P I do tend to look my best in type though, whilst your pic matches your general loveliness :)
I’ll tell you what I’m taking from all this. Call me perceptive, but it seems some people don’t like some other people. It’s come as quite a shock.
I’m reminded of a childhood friend who, around the age of 8, reeled off a list of other neighbourhood kids he disliked. His mother pulled him on it:
“Anthony, it’s unrealistic to think everybody will like everybody else. There are people in this world that don’t like you , you know”.
To which he indignantly replied: “Who??!!”.
I see now why we were friends :)
I gotta say I’m a bit surprised how worked up people appear to get about this kinda stuff. The only opinions that matter to me are those held by my family and friends (and even then, only when they match my own) :D
@rogue trader wrote:
hey omalley fancy a picture contest?
Sure. I’ll take a picture. You have as many guesses as you like as to the subject matter of said pic. If a guess is greeted by complete silence on my part, take that to mean your guess was incorrect. Closing date for entries is a Wednesday a couple of years from now.
@kent f OBE wrote:
You silly tart… :lol:
Aww, I’m only a bit silly :lol:
@kent f OBE wrote:
…personally I think it is nice to put a face to a name….I often imagine the chatters totally different to how they actually are….just saying….nothing negative about that its just we all have a perception of others and in our minds eye we imagine what they look like
I did think about posting my pic, but then decided against it when I thought about all the gushing and swooning and the relentless pm bombardment that would follow. Then there’s the reaction of women to consider too… :P
@sceptical guy wrote:
for once, a long post was worth reading, Mr Alley-Cat.
Why thank you kind scep!
@sceptical guy wrote:
But what you’re saying is what’s wrong wiht people, not what’s wrong wiht the boards.
But what’s wrong with the boards in my opinion is some of the people that frequent them – exhibiting behaviour that deters others from posting. Take the example of someone posting a pic. I can almost guarantee that amongst the first comments will be someone commenting on the ‘bravery’ of the poster. These are people who go about their daily lives with no need to be ‘brave’ – despite being seen by tens or hundreds of people – yet many of us are wincing at the thought of what is likely to come next once they’ve shared their pic with us.
So, technologically speaking, there’s nothing wrong with the boards. As a medium, they live or die (or shuffle along with the help of a walking frame) by the contributions of the users.
I think the problem with the boards (and chat for that matter) comes down to one of two things (or both):
Lack of respect from certain contributors – most apparent in feeble attempts to ‘shock’.
Intentional provocation – unfortunately regarded by some as a form of entertainment.
In both cases, the perpetrators are usually compensating for something, e.g. they don’t possess a personality that anybody in their right mind would warm to, which leads them to seek attention in other ways. Some such people would have you believe they’re mavericks – the rules don’t apply to them. They do what they want, when they want, unchecked by social convention or morals. In truth, the most rebellious thing they’re ever likely do is type, safely cocooned as they are in their bedrooms, hoping mummy doesn’t realise they’re not in bed.. and it’s after 9!
There are plenty of examples, but I won’t name names, I’ll leave that to those narcissistic enough to actually believe that their opinions of other individuals are worth documenting in a public forum (despite never being asked for them). Still, I suppose there’s that ‘shock’ factor that someone dare say such things. *Yawwwwwwwwwn*
And so we’re led, screaming and kicking (or typing and clicking) into conflict, because many people feel the need to repel ‘attacks’ and fight their corner (which of course equates to sustenance for the aforementioned attention-starved). We can throw some loyalty issues into the mix too.. who will back who? Who will stand by doing nothing? Who will think it’s all ridiculous and hand out virtual Lego in the hope of diffusing the situation? Alliances formed. Friendships tested. Virtual Lego stocks depleted.
Finally, we can add the spectres of trust and confidentiality – and the fact that 99.72% of people are unable to keep supposedly private information to themselves. (I made that figure up, obviously – but it has been said 88% of statistics are made up on the spot).
So all that, I believe, drives the majority (decent people) away. It all starts with those first two things. In ‘real life’ I have my own ways of dealing with them. Online, the need to deal with them is usually usurped by the feeling that the poor things have so little going for them that they need to resort to such measures.
Oh, on a related note, don’t you find it ironic that the unwashed use that “You say you’re not bothered.. but you replied.. so you must be” shoite, whilst claiming everything is like water off a ducks back to them – conveniently forgetting that usually, on word count, they themselves are way ahead of anybody else (and sometimes were even ‘bothered’ enough to initiate the thread in the first place). Who’s putting in most effort there, eh?
Speaking of word count…
