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Awww nice to see you on here again O’Malley ya scraggy cat xx
Your wit and humour will liven things up as only a cat like you could do !!! Very Happy Very Happy Very Happy Very Happy
Awww ty LL! xxx I feel under so much pressure now tho.. *desperately searches for whoopee cushion – and invites you to smell my flower* :D
Jadey! Ty! xx *jumps on up* This has gotta be the longest welcome in history… what’s the date of the first post again? 2008! I’m gonna phone that McWhirter bloke…
Good addition to the list (your Tornadoes) JenJen :)
Ty minim for your comments – good additions too :)
Just want to remind other readers that my post was predominantly about ‘destructive’ chatters. Fortunately, I believe the good ‘uns still outnumber the bad ‘uns. It’s just a shame that the bad ‘uns get so much ‘press’. I know the natural reaction is to fight your corner, to retaliate in some way, to defend your honour, but it’s exactly the reaction the bad ‘uns are looking for.
In my world, people are split into two distinct groups 1) those whose opinion I value, 2) those whose opinions mean absolutely nothing to me. The only people who are able to have any significant impact on me are camped firmly in the first of those groups. It would’ve been water off a ducks back, for example, had Harold Shipman had ever labelled me cruel.
For the sake of clarity, I would like to point out I’m not actually a cat. There, I’ve said it. Oh the relief.
Casserole – “to be done slowly for 4 hours”
I’d go casserole every time
Hiya Penny… and thank you for the welcome!! :D
I’m just wondering if I should mention that on crashing through the window and landing on the floor, I immediately adopt a super-hero type pose, hands (paws) on hips, chest pushed out… maybe not.. we don’t want any swooning… :D
To my mind, there are three distinct categories of, for want of a better phrase, destructive chatters.
The Abusers
Those who have an overwhelming desire to be ‘known’ – but possess none of the attributes required to achieve this by conventional means. It can be very effective. There are several chatters I’ve never actually seen in chat – but I do know of them. Job done as far as they’re concerned, they’ve earned their notoriety. In a way, I feel sorry for them.. but I guess there’s not much we can do by way of helping them. You can’t give people a personality that others warm to.The Ego Trippers
These are generally ‘thrill of the chase’ characters. It’s all about them ‘winning’ something. Actual goals vary from Tripper to Tripper. For some, it may be enough to gain your confidence. Others may need to win your heart. Some may consider themselves to have won only if they get you into bed. In any case, the motivation remains the same. Often, the Tripper will lose interest in you as soon as the ‘win’ has been achieved and may even resort to abuse in order to expedite a separation. Occasionally, Ego Trippers will engineer arguments over nothing, because to them your forgiveness constitutes another win. In the final reckoning, it was, is and never will be about you.
The Dreamers
There’s no harm in having dreams – not even in trying to pass off those dreams as reality, if that’s what floats your boat. The problem occurs when they bring other people into their fake reality. When they have you invest time, effort and become emotionally attached to what is, ultimately, a lie. I personally believe that the majority of such people aren’t fully aware of the harm they’re doing, at least not whilst they’re doing it. To some extent, their feelings towards you are true and genuine. I think they’re probably almost as upset as the other party when the ‘relationship’ reaches its inevitable conclusion.There is one further type of chatter that often causes grief – but through no fault of their own. These are the people that just have the knack of making almost anybody they speak to feel special. It’s not intentional, it’s effortless, but it’s very powerful. These are the people who are genuinely taken aback when someone they considered a friend, or perhaps just a fellow chatter, suddenly declares deep feelings for them. Again, there’s little they can do to avoid this – and nor should they have to, given they are just being themselves.
Finally.. To Su.. I don’t really know you beyond a few words in chat, but you strike me as being a friendly, intelligent and fun person. When one person betrays another in the manner your post suggests, then I believe there is only ever one loser. Who is most likely to find true, lasting friendship or love – the trusting, trustworthy, loving, caring and loyal person or the one who, whatever their motivation, chooses to lie, cheat and betray? Who will ultimately live the happier life? I know who my money would be on :)
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Poli..ya do look after me, it’s true! I particularly enjoy those sbk’s ) xxxx
Tinks – thankya for the welcome back xxx (can’t stop staring into those eyes!)
Anc – hiya! Still lovin’ those mwa mwa’s xxx
Eve – it’s been here aaages but ty xxx (and.. maybe.. still thinking about it)
and Su, I don’t use catflaps! I come through the window.. open or otherwise… SAS-like! xxx
Thankya kindly Mrs Teapot! :D It may be just a fleeting visit (Poli coerced me with promises of tickles and fish). I may just lurk in the shadows until something catches my eye (and they say this place ain’t like real life eh?)
@(f)politics? wrote:
@omalleythealleycat wrote:
Surely No.1 should be “Stroke the Cat (males are exempt)”
4 years and you find your way back here and are now on post 5 :lol:
That deserves an extra special stroke :wink: xxJust trying to think what I musta done to deserve all the other extra special stokes :wink:
