I think it’s a Mars, Venus thing, what seems bad to one sex may not be perceived in the same way by the opposite sex, so you can argue this one till you’re blue in the face, unless you have experienced both it is impossible to say.
When some lad picked on his lad, he confronted the bully’s dad and punched his head in in front of the dad’s boy. I mean punched his head ion – the guy was beaten to the ground, then lifted, and then had his face punched again and again relentlessly until it was a bleeding pulp. It was done in front of the 8 year old boy to teach him a lesson not to pick on his kid or else. I assume the boy was absolutely traumatised.
Sigh. It’s been a long day but felt the need , gezza not sure how well you know malley from the room ? I’ve chatted on and off a few years, I have to say I have never, ever seen him be confrontational to anyone, nor nasty , abusive, or loud. Only pleasant and good fun. Maybe tho this is a valid point, as I know him to a certain extent, I didn’t see the thread as at all confrontational ? I assumed it was posted as the words ‘ bully” victim ‘ ‘ fake’ etc etc had been bandied about like confetti on the threads that have now been removed. Maybe however , to ppl that don’t ‘ know’ him it could have come across as ‘confrontational’ ? I don’t know the answer to that one ! I’m sure you’re both ‘ Alphas ‘ off home now. Laters !!
It’s not a battle of “alpha’s” though is it. Just debate and interpretation of that debate. Have no idea why you thought I was being personal. *shrug* Get yourself home and pour a nice glass of wine.
No its not a battle at all , or at least it shouldn’t be
Erm I didn’t think you were being personal ?
I was just saying that as I have knowledge of Malley’ s MO, we may have seen the thread from different perspectives, that’s all ……..
Just my method to keep a topic going that interests me. *smiley face* I agree Moose with your last few sentences, absolutely. However the OP made a set of specific, if you like, judgments. I think a direct response in relation to those specific judgments and the logic behind them is an understandable reaction. Then his view can be directly analyzed, questioned and challenged, or not. In my opinion no one responded to his question directly, because it was so confrontational. Maybe out of good manners for others on this site, he should explain the difference between an “alpha”, a “wannabe” and a “bully in direct relation to this site and which was the meat behind his initial question. As he asks Sceptical for a further explanation, it is entirely reasonable to expect the same courtesy from him.
Sigh. It’s been a long day but felt the need , gezza not sure how well you know malley from the room ? I’ve chatted on and off a few years, I have to say I have never, ever seen him be confrontational to anyone, nor nasty , abusive, or loud. Only pleasant and good fun. Maybe tho this is a valid point, as I know him to a certain extent, I didn’t see the thread as at all confrontational ? I assumed it was posted as the words ‘ bully” victim ‘ ‘ fake’ etc etc had been bandied about like confetti on the threads that have now been removed. Maybe however , to ppl that don’t ‘ know’ him it could have come across as ‘confrontational’ ? I don’t know the answer to that one !
I’m sure you’re both ‘ Alphas ‘ off home now. Laters !!
Oh and finally, in my opinion the OP’s response doesn’t give an opinion in reference to his original question, nor attempt to. He asked 3 questions about “alpha”, wannabe and bully” in reference to this site and the question was quite specific . What’s the purpose of the thread if he doesn’t provide an opinion of his own and provide an explanation to support his question. Of course it could well be my own Internet paranoia, but having read his response a few times, I distinctly get the impression he threw the hook out and has waited to see what the catch would be, before committing. Nought as strange as folk.
Hmmm I must have read malleys post completely differently to you gezza,lol, I think he gave a very full opinion on what he believes a REAL Alpha Male is, and funnily enough , apart from Scep, posters seem to be of a pretty like mind and that the Alpha Male is in fact a ‘ good guy ‘ but tough when needed, doesn’t bully or throw his weight around and is never cruel for no reason. That said surely the ones who do the opposite are , indeed , the bullies and wannabe’s. The ones who shout loudest and longest are not anywhere near Alpha. However I’d like to point out that in my opinion there are other ‘types of bullies’ , apart from the tree swinging abuse hurlers with far too much nose hair ( women inc), there are the sly, inciduous , manipulative bullies, pulling strings and getting others to do the shouting while they sit back looking lilly white…. or maybe they are just sociopaths ……
good thread fleabag
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