I’m not kidding
In my current job, I commute 50 miles each way, which isn’t really that far, but I have to drive all the way across Leeds and invariably hit some amount of traffic, so it takes me an hour and a half on average.
I usually get up at 5am, set off at 6.30, get to work just before 8am, and often don’t leave until 7 or 8pm, getting home an hour and a half later.
I never see my kids in the mornings apart from Thursdays, when I have a 9.30 start, and in the evening, I often get home after they’ve gone to bed, or just have time to see them off…if I’m really lucky, I get to have dinner with them! It’s been a bit better lately, because I’ve tried very hard to leave earlier, knowing I was hopefully leaving soon anyway, so if I didn’t get everything done it wouldn’t matter quite so much.