I’m also a bit puzzled that as an educated psychologist that you are you would think there is an answer, and seemingly not understand that there will be several answers, why you dont already have that answer you seek,
Clinical Psychologist , yes, but i’m a human being first, and doesn’t mean I have ALL the answers to life’s questions. to assume so would be a little Narc lol.
and yes I agree probably several answers, some of which you list. as stated in my question. I’m trying to understand it.