We have to check SHR, because as you well know when a woman says to a man “can you” …..whatever, whether it be bins planted bulbs, emptied the dishwasher etc (you pick), we all know men will say yes, but then rarely actually do it, why? because there is a vast difference male brain wise to “can you” and “have you” or “will you do that now.”
quote from a book…….
a woman brings plants home from shopping but has to dash out again and says to her partner “can you plant those plants for me”
“yes” he replies.
hours later the woman returns home and the plants are wilted and not planted, she looks at her partner and says ” I thought you said you would plant those plants”
he replied, “no, you asked whether I can, and yes I can, but you didn’t actually ask me to plant them”