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@~Pebbles~ wrote:

If you havent got something worth while to say, say fook all.

Blimey, if that applied to everyone there’d be hardly any posts here!

(Sneaks into corner and hides)

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Gives Jewel a tissue, says “there, there, time is a great healer” while pinching her chocolates……. :twisted:

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@pete wrote:

The question is has he genuinly got a mental disorder ? It’s difficult as I aint seen any interaction and where i agree the encouragement to kill himself is dangerous if he has got a serious mental disorder it aint gonna do any real harm if he’s just a prat.

Sorry but I don’t think whether or not he has a mental disorder is important here, the bullying and abusive behaviour and pack mentality is abhorrent and is causing more disruption and bad feeling than the target himself does.

By the way, love your siggy pics with the cats.

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@fastcars wrote:

The lobby is a ghetto. Full of lifes wasters… no hopers…. easy ugly woman… weirdos…. and perves. The whole place should be burnt down with as many regs in it at the time as possible.

Ooooooh wonder which category I fall into………

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Well if Ben is an attention seeker he’s certainly got what he wanted hasn’t he? There seems to be a mass-hysteria – you can’t be in chat for more than 5 minutes without his name coming up, but those of us who have been chatting for a while have seen it before and we know it’ll all blow over – won’t it? :?

One thing is for sure, commenting on this situation is a “damned if you do, damned if you don’t” – if you don’t comment you’re seen to be either wimping out or condoning the situation and if you do comment you’re guaranteed to have one of the camps on your back.

So hey-ho, I’m not a wimp, so here’s my tuppence-worth! :lol:

Personally I find the topics that Ben chooses to discuss, his manner of discussing them, and his behaviour to women quite abhorrent – it goes far beyond the normal JC perv. However as long as he isn’t breaking the site rules and people are prepared to talk to him then he has as much right to be here as anyone else. When he steps over the line of decency I – and others – will comment but all that gets you is the accusation of being a bully because he allegedly has a mental illness. And before anyone jumps on my use of the word allegedly, everything anyone says in JC is allegedly as few of us know each other in real life and none of us ever knows if what others say is true. Well sorry, but having a mental illness does not excuse bad behaviour, and if anyone comes in here and says something that many people find offensive then persists even when people have told him how they feel, then they must expect a backlash and if they’re not strong enough to deal with that then they shouldn’t be here. We are all responsible for our own behaviour and our own well-being.

Then we have the people who are “rallying the troops” to goad Ben into taking an overdose. My god, what kind of people are you? Would you do this in real life? How do you react when you see bullying in real-life, be it in the workplace or of your children or grandchildren? How do you sleep at night? This is as abhorrent as Ben’s behaviour, but if anyone speaks out, as I did yesterday afternoon, then you get accused of supporting Ben and his behaviour. This is harrassment of an individual, which does break the site rules, and also you people are disrupting chat for the majority who have no axe to grind one way or the other.

And then we have the attacks on one guide in particular, who gets abuse for not acting when he’s in the room just to chat. Funny how several other people who are guides have been in as regular chatters during all of this unfolding over the last few days and taken no action but no-one mentions that. If we’re going to complain about the action and/or inaction of guides in all of this, then imho we should be commenting on all guides, not just one in particular. But remember, they are all volunteers, they have set shifts, but they are not on duty every time they come into chat – rumour has it they’re even human beings with feelings! :shock: And if you’re unhappy with the standard of guiding and want a better chat experience (tongue firmly in cheek there!), why not volunteer to become one?

The saddest part of all this is that whilst all the controversy livens the room up and might be exciting for some, for the vast majority it is upsetting and driving many of the decent chatters away – and god knows that with all the pervs in here we need all the decent chatters we can get! It might just be words on a screen to some, but there are real people behind those words.

OK, I’ll get off my soapbox now, and being a typical Libran will continue to sit on the fence and see all sides of the argument and continue to be abused for not taking sides but such is life :lol:

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@dead_on_arrvial wrote:

Why didnt you just walk to the shop and buy some bottle water?

cos I had a shop full of customers and couldn’t shut up shop…….

Water came back at 12.30, never has a glass of water and a cup of coffee tasted so good! :lol:

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I’ve lived in England for 23 years (wow doesn’t time fly!), I now live in southern England and I love the area and the very good friends I’ve made here, but I am – and always will be – fiercely proud to be welsh.

And before anyone says “if you’re so proud of it why did you leave Wales” (someone always does :roll:) I left with my now ex-husband who was in the RAF, then stayed in England for work. Wales will always be home though…….

Jen_jen aka chirpy_chick

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@the big hill wrote:

lol chirp ok u can ave the bottle 2 lol, and thanks for the fork and spoon, they’ll come in handy in the the lobblol. oh and plz can i have the teasmade lol :lol: :wink:

OK you can have the teasmade, i’ll even throw in some charles and camilla mugs – anyone want the bottle of port i found under the stairs? i think i won it in a raffle some time ago, got about three inches of dust on it so it must be vintage by now…..

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Aw big, i’m touched (must be to be in here!) but can i have the bottle to got with the lid please? How can i carry on having food fights with just the lid fgs?! i need the whole bottle……..

to big i leave my best food-flinging fork and spoon
to welsh-fem i leave my stuffed welsh dragon, i know she’ll give it a good home
to blonde i leave my left over bottles of hair dye from doing my friends hair
to diane i leave a packet of bon-bons from the back of my kitchen cupboard – no idea how long they’ve been there….. :shock:
to hero i leave my mobile phone cos you can never have enough phones can you hero?
to scribe i leave all my half-burned incense, smudge sticks and crystals

ok now who wants a slightly used rabbit (with cleansing wipes), a teasmade without the plug and one cracked cup, a how-to-read-tealeaves book, one battered looking elderly cat, and a garden full of weeds (not the kind you smoke)……

jen_jen aka chirpy_chick

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Happy birthday Soulbabe!

Here’s to many more…… :D/

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