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@jen_jen wrote:
@jen_jen wrote:
When I brought up the subject of discipline I wasn’t thinking of hitting children, it was verbal discipline that I had in mind.
If I get a chance tomorrow I’ll type up the event that led to me asking the question. It wasn’t actually the behaviour of the child that was the issue for me, it was the behaviour of the adults.
It took me a while, I still find it quite disturbing, but here’s what happened.
Scene 1:
An elderly lady on a mobility scooter, going quite slowly (slower than I walk) up an aisle of a shop. Two children are running along an aisle that crosses this aisle, laughing and playing. One of the children runs out in front of the mobility scooter and the woman brakes sharply. Startled, she shouts at the little girl “Don’t run, walk!” The little girl looks scared and runs off in the opposite direction, and the woman starts moving again, visibly shaken and muttering to herself “I could have hit her.”unfortunatly Children are allowed to run free is shops now, ( to be honest my kids were alway running ahead when they were little with me shouting at them to wait,and stopping messing about) But as someone who works in retail i often witness children left to do what they want whilst mummy is shopping. Often they are doing dangerous things, i have on occasion in a gentle bit firm tone, said to a child, be caerful you might get hurt. they normally stop what they are doing and wander off to find mum. I would never shout at a child that is not my own but i can understand why the old lady did, I will also hold my hands up and admit my kids are far from angels, as a parent i would haveasked the child what she/he was doing in order to be shouted at, i would never have verbally attacked the person shouting without finding out why
Scene 2, several minutes later:
There’s raised voices. A well dressed, well spoken woman in her late 30s is raising her voice at the elderly woman in the mobility scooter. “How DARE you tell my daughter off. No one tells my daughter off except me. She’s a 5 year old child and she’s in floods of tears. I hope you’re proud of yourself!” The elderly woman begains to explain what happened and the woman starts shouting at her “I don’t want to hear it, you made her cry, she’s sobbing. You’re nothing but a miserable old bag who thinks she owns the place. You’re as ugly on the inside as your are on the outside. Who on earth do you think you are to shout at a child and make them cry….” The shouting and verbal abuse goes on for several minutes, a crowd has gathered to watch and the elderly woman is surrounded. She tries to hold her ground but is shouted down and ends up telling the woman to f*** off and drives her scooter through the crowd which makes way for her, tutting.Scene 3:
The elderly woman gone, everyone stands around as the woman preens and crows to the crowd about how wronged her and her child are, that the woman was old enough to know better, her poor child is sobbing her heart out and her father has had to take her out of the store. Everyone is agreeing with her, poor child, they really shouldn’t allow mobility scooters in the town centre, they’re a hazard, have you seen how quickly they whizz around on them? Shocking.
I ask whether the woman is now going to tell her child not to run around the store. The man standing next to me asks what I mean, the mother glowers at me. I simply say that I saw the whole thing from start to finish and there are two sides to every story. The mother says “my daughter is upset”; I say “your daughter was running around the store and you weren’t around to make sure she was safe.” A standoff, she stands there glowering, I look back at her and she looks down her nose at me, sniffs and walks away.Scene 4:
A security guard comes up to the elderly woman and tells her that her behaviour is unacceptable and she must leave the store immediately. Meanwhile the mother is being given sympathy and a box of chocolates by the manager of the store.@melody wrote:
@desmondy wrote:
The title to this thread caught my eye. A few questions? sure I can do that.
On closer inspection it appeared to be longer than a Tolstoy epic.
So for the benefit of those infected with mongism and general ‘cantbearsedtoreadallofititis’, such as myself, is there any chance of a bite size version.
ie a FEW questions?
:?
Don’t be lazy – it only took 10 mins lol
most of the questions, the answer jumps straight into your head as you are reading the question. only a few i needed to ponder over :)
SORRY CAPS, NONE OF THAT MADE ME LAUGH :(
WHAT HAS GONE AND WHERE HAS IT GONE TO?
How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are? *AGELESS
Which is worse, failing or never trying? *NEVER TRYING
If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do? *BECAUSE WE HAVE TO :(
When it’s all said and done, will you have said more than you’ve done? *YES. I ALWAYS SAY I WANT TO DO SOMETHING BUT NEVER GET AROUND TO DOING IT :(
What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world? IT’S SHAPE
If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich? *READING
Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing? *A BIT OF BOTH
If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?* I PROBABLY WOULD, THE LIFE I AM LIVING IS;NT A LIFE I WOULD HAVE CHOSEN IT IS THE LIFE THAT WAS CHOSEN FOR ME
To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?* FATE CONTROLS OUR DESTINY
Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things? *THE RIGHT THINGS
You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire. They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend. The criticism is distasteful and unjustified. What do you do? *TELL THEM I THINK THEY ARE TWATS THEN LEAVE
If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be? BE GOOD AND LIFE WILL BE GOOD IN RETURN
Would you break the law to save a loved one? YES, SERIOUSLY?? OF COURSE, PEOPLE I CARE ABOUT ARE MORE IMPORTANT TO ME THAN ANY THING ELSE
Have you ever seen insanity where you later saw creativity? NOPE,
What’s something you know you do differently than most people? HAHA, WOULDN’T YOU LIKE TO KNOW ;)
How come the things that make you happy don’t make everyone happy? BECAUSE EVERYONE IS HAPPY FOR DIFFERENT REASONS, SOME PEOPLE ARE HAPPY WHEN THEY ARE SMOTHERED IN MAKE UP, SOME WHEN THEY ARE SMOTHERED IN MUD :)
What one thing have you not done that you really want to do? What’s holding you back? *TRAVEL, LACK OF MONEY AND LOTS OF COMMITMENTS
Are you holding onto something you need to let go of? YES, WE ALL DO,WETHER IT BE A RELATIONSHIP THAT ISNT GOING ANY WHERE OR ANGER FROM SOMETHING IN THE PAST
If you had to move to a state or country besides the one you currently live in, where would you move and why? I WOULD MOVE TO IRELAND AND LIVE IN MY NAN’S OLD HOUSE. IT BRINGS BACK LOVELY MEMORIES AND IT WOULD BE A GREAT ENVIORONMENT FOR MY KIDS
Do you push the elevator button more than once? Do you really believe it makes the elevator faster? NOPE, ITS ONE PLACE THAT I AM HAPPY TO WAIT AND TAKE A DEEP BREATH
Would you rather be a worried genius or a joyful simpleton? WORRIED GENIUS
Why are you, you? BECUASE OF WHO I WAS BORN TO AND THE LIFE I HAVE LEAD
Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend? I HOPE SO :S
Which is worse, when a good friend moves away, or losing touch with a good friend who lives right near you? LOSSING TOUCH WITH A GOOD FRIEND THAT LIVE CLOSE
What are you most grateful for? MY UP BRINGING AND THE GREAT PARENTS I HAD
Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones? LOOSE ALL MY OLD ONE, I HAVE SO MANY PRECIOUS ONES :(
Is is possible to know the truth without challenging it first? NOPE YOU SHOULD ALWAYS QUESTION THE TRUTH AND CONTIPLATE ALL POSSIBILITIES
Has your greatest fear ever come true? NOPE
Do you remember that time 5 years ago when you were extremely upset? Does it really matter now? YES, EVERY THING THAT HAS LEAD TO THIS MOMENT IN TIME MATTERS
What is your happiest childhood memory? What makes it so special? I HAVE SO MANY BUT ALL OF THEM ENVOLVE SPENDING QUALITY TIME WITH MY FAMILY
At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive? DANCING ON THE TABLE AT MY FRIENDS HEN DO :)
If not now, then when? WHEN EVER IT HAPPENS TO HAPPEN
If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose? HOPE
Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever? NOPE NOT REALLY
Why do religions that support love cause so many wars? BECUASE RELIGION IS A SUBJECT THAT NO ONE CAN AGREE ON AND EVERYONE THINKS THEY NO BEST
Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil? IF YOU LISTEN TO YOUR CONCIOUS THEN YOU KNOW WHAT IS RIGHT AND WRONG
If you just won a million dollars, would you quit your job? YES, BUT I WOULD USE MY TIME TO DO CHARITABLE WORK, I LIKE TO KEEP BUSY :)
Would you rather have less work to do, or more work you actually enjoy doing? LESS WORK AT HOME, AS I NEVER SEEM TO GET ANYTHING FINISHED :(
Do you feel like you’ve lived this day a hundred times before? NOPE JUST ABOUT A DOZEN TIMES LOL
When was the last time you marched into the dark with only the soft glow of an idea you strongly believed in? I DONT GO OUT INTO THE DARK, ITS SCARY, BUT IF THE STREET LIGHTS ARE ON I WILL VENTURE FORWARD LOL
If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today? MY FAMILY
Would you be willing to reduce your life expectancy by 10 years to become extremely attractive or famous? NOPE, I AM WHO I AM, IF I WAS MENT TO BE MORE ATTRACTIVE AND FAMOUS FATE WOULD HAVE MADE ME THAT WAY, IF YOU DONT LIKE WHO I AM THEN :p
What is the difference between being alive and truly living? A STATE OF MIND
When is it time to stop calculating risk and rewards, and just go ahead and do what you know is right? WHEN YOU ARE 100% SURE IT IS RIGHT
If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always so afraid to make a mistake? BECAUSE WE WORRY TO MUCH ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK
What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you? OPEN MY CURTAINS MORE OFTEN LOL
When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breathing? JUST NOW WHEN I THOUGHT ABOUT IT
What do you love? Have any of your recent actions openly expressed this love? I LOVE BEING NEEDED AND WANTED, YES I ALWAYS DROP STUFF TO HELP OUT A FRIEND AND SARIFICE MY OWN NEEDS
In 5 years from now, will you remember what you did yesterday? What about the day before that? Or the day before that? I CANT EVEN REMEMBER WHAT I DID YESTERDAY NOW, NEVERMIND IN 5 YEARS TIME LOL
Decisions are being made right now. The question is: Are you making them for yourself, I or are you letting others make them for you? DECIDED TO FILL THIS IN, BUT NO NOT ALL WAYS SOME TIMES THE DECISSION IS MADE FOR ME, FOR EXAMPLE THE CHANGES AT WORK ARE OUT OF MY CONTROL :(@irish_lucy wrote:
Did i miss the forfit – wheres Animal in the dress
NO LUCY WE’RE STILL WAITING!!!
like in real life you cant like or be liked by everyone you meet in a chat room, most people i meet and know in real life i class as aquaintances. i class all jc *friends* as aquaitances too, you have to be very special for me to except you as a friend both on the internet and in real life. but it doesnt mean i dont care about you :)
1) What was the last thing you ate? midget jems
2) last film you watched? I robot
3) last place you went to? work
4) last item of clothing you bought? socks and boxer shorts for my boys
5) last time you cried? last week
6) last time you smiled? i’m smiling now
7) last time you got danced? saturday on the tables
Cool last time you were banned from chat (if you have been) never been banned
9) last pet you had?
10) last song you want played at your funeral? you raised me up, but i want it sung by my kids not played
11) last shower you took? on thursday on the camp site, we dont have a shower at home
12) last thing you do before bed? read
13) last song you bought? 100% old school
14) last foreign country you were in? Finland
15) last time you told someone you loved them? this morningI think thats how my son makes tea except he poors the sugar all over the work top before getting it any where near the cup :S oh and im pretty sure he doesnt leave it 1 and a half minutes as it always looks like cats pee
