WOULD YOU,COULD YOU,HOW WOULD YOU?

I want to take this a step further.

I’ve never seen you use this sort of humour when discussing migrants and dead toddlers being washed up on shores ; infact I recall you criticising ( rightly), someone who happened to humour that very sitauation.
Is there a difference between that situation and the topic at hand?

Where do you draw a line?

Blossom. wrote:

I want to take this a step further. I’ve never seen you use this sort of humour when discussing migrants and dead toddlers being washed up on shores ; infact I recall you criticising ( rightly), someone who happened to humour that very sitauation. Is there a difference between that situation and the topic at hand? Where do you draw a line?

Blossom, with all due and genuine respect,

I remember talking a lot to you during that time. My dad was dying at the same time as your mum. It was a terribly sad and trying time for me, and I was getting a lot of stick on here; it was a much more traumatic time for you.

Let me say that in the face of the death of a loved one, there can be no appropriate humour that I can think of. It’s a sombre event, full of deep memories of love and care and feeling bereft in a major way. Humour is impossible. If people made fun of you or me – and while I was in the room in my dad’s final days someone anonymous did come to taunt me about him in pm – or anyone, then it’s reprehensible. I would think that even people who disliked us would step in at that point, unless they lacked all human feelings.

This thread isn’t about the deaths of our parents, though it involves terminal illness, from which they both suffered. That means that the posts are more wide-ranging, and cover a lot of stuff from the trauma of memory to the whole legal and moral question of suicide and beyond..

I could tell you where humour is appropriate, but you actually make me anxious in doing so. I feel that I’m going to be accused of being Alfie, or being part of some monstrous set-up to get at you – you’ve accused me of both of those things on this thread. It’s wearing and demoralising. I also don’t want to get involved in your accusations against other people.

I think the deep insecurities touched off by the awful events of last year are still affecting you badly, Blossom. I’m not going to attack you, but I don’t want to get involved in discussions with you unless and until i feel they’re not going to lead to further accusations and bad feelings.

I wondered about writing that in case it led to more accusations, but you were demanding an answer. That’s the best I can give. Sorry if it’s not good enough.

sceptical guy wrote:

I could tell you where humour is appropriate,

No, you can’t, no one can, we all view this world differently and my dry humour might not be yours.

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sceptical guy wrote:

Blossom. wrote:

I want to take this a step further. I’ve never seen you use this sort of humour when discussing migrants and dead toddlers being washed up on shores ; infact I recall you criticising ( rightly), someone who happened to humour that very sitauation. Is there a difference between that situation and the topic at hand? Where do you draw a line?

Blossom, with all due and genuine respect, I remember talking a lot to you during that time. My dad was dying at the same time as your mum. It was a terribly sad and trying time for me, and I was getting a lot of stick on here; it was a much more traumatic time for you. Let me say that in the face of the death of a loved one, there can be no appropriate humour that I can think of. It’s a sombre event, full of deep memories of love and care and feeling bereft in a major way. Humour is impossible. If people made fun of you or me – and while I was in the room in my dad’s final days someone anonymous did come to taunt me about him in pm – or anyone, then it’s reprehensible. I would think that even people who disliked us would step in at that point, unless they lacked all human feelings. This thread isn’t about the deaths of our parents, though it involves terminal illness, from which they both suffered. That means that the posts are more wide-ranging, and cover a lot of stuff from the trauma of memory to the whole legal and moral question of suicide and beyond.. I could tell you where humour is appropriate, but you actually make me anxious in doing so. I feel that I’m going to be accused of being Alfie, or being part of some monstrous set-up to get at you – you’ve accused me of both of those things on this thread. It’s wearing and demoralising. I also don’t want to get involved in your accusations against other people. I think the deep insecurities touched off by the awful events of last year are still affecting you badly, Blossom. I’m not going to attack you, but I don’t want to get involved in discussions with you unless and until i feel they’re not going to lead to further accusations and bad feelings. I wondered about writing that in case it led to more accusations, but you were demanding an answer. That’s the best I can give. Sorry if it’s not good enough.

Thanks for your response, but I don’t see an answer to my question in it.

Indeed, it’s not about our parents, but nevertheless about death, as “terminally ill and suicide/assisted suicide” suggests.
As I said previously, to me it’s beyond any logic and train of thought to create any humour around ‘terminally ill and suicide” , whether it’s about our parents or not..as I couldn’t possibly find any humour in a thread about dead corpses being washed up on a shore.
Please, tell me where the humour is appropriate…as I fail to see it.

milkman of human kindness wrote:

i asked Gerry about his bogus charity work with the refugees he ignored my question then called me right wing this right wing that wont bring this argument on somers thread hes no better that’s my point and ask yourself what sort of people pretend to work for charitys. wrong uns

Why don’t you give an example of any “bogus charity work” I have undertaken Mr Postman. To make such an infantile accusation you must surely have some hard evidence and of course you reported my other thread where I outed you as a racist and football hooligan and got it removed. No one takes you seriously, now hurry up with my parcel, there’s a good little boy.