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30 December, 2010 at 6:00 am #457827
I’d like to meet _Eve, Kiwi, Powerman, and Minnie – all on the other side of the world, and probably will never do so! :(
30 December, 2010 at 9:47 am #457828It would have to be emmaree. :-
30 December, 2010 at 9:53 am #457829:-s
30 December, 2010 at 1:56 pm #457830Ha! Eve did you ever get those bloomers back?
Cheeky Mare :shock: lol
Ill have u know they were my best nix, black and red lace 8)
30 December, 2010 at 9:38 pm #457831id just like some one to turn up :lol: :lol: :lol:
30 December, 2010 at 10:25 pm #4578324 January, 2011 at 9:48 am #457833I was thinking about this one again, who would have thought the Internet could have impacted on all our lives to the extent it has, and its so powerful. Its easy to think you know someone here because of the time spent chatting, but is that ever really possible?
I have come to a decision that here is not real, its fun but it should never be allowed to influence your “real world” Chatting opens up temptations and opportunities to meet people that would never be pursued in your real life. It makes you feel it would be ok just to meet someone, when actually you would never do that in your everyday life. Its dangerous for the person you are meeting too, people who had reasonably happy lives suddenly feel they could be missing out… its all just so confusing and dangerous emotionally…. I’m rambling… sorry
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4 January, 2011 at 11:39 am #457834I haven’t replied to this before now as I simply don’t like threads like this, they feel like a popularity contest to me…that’s not a criticism Mrs T, just how I feel.
The internet has had an amazing effect on our lives, no doubt about it. All this wealth of information at our fingertips, but not all of it is true therefore a degree of common sense and logic is required to discard the chaff, look behind the smoke and mirrors and whittle it all down to what resonates and is important to us. And so it is with message boards, chat forums, and the people we find there.
One of the double-edged swords of the internet is that it is removed from reality to a degree and we can come in here and be whoever we want to be. Stephi was one example of that and there were many more before her. Despite that, there are still a lot of people who are the same in chat and on the boards as they are in real life. I think as we become more experienced in chat, we become more adept at knowing instinctively who is exactly as they seem and who should be taken with a pinch of salt and who we would prefer to avoid like the plague. However even when someone is exactly as they seem, you still only see the aspects of them that they want to show you…but isn’t that just the same as in real life?
Is here real? Yes, of course it is, we are real people sitting at real screens typing real words.
Should it be allowed to affect your “real world”? Well to an extent it is bound to unless you are able to fully compartmentalise your life or remain completely detached from the people you chat to here. The extent you allow it to affect you “real world” is another matter though.
As for meeting people that you would never do in your everyday life, isn’t that one of the beauties of it? To broaden your horizons? If you have been chatting to someone for some time, you share common interests or a sense of humour or just click, and you’re intrigued enough to meet, why shouldn’t you? As long as you’re clear on why you’re meeting, that both parties are agreed on the purpose of the meeting, you meet safely in a public place etc. and you don’t ignore any internal alarm bells and meet someone when it just doesn’t feel right, then why not?I’ve met a few people from JC, at a meet, in a small group and one to one. I’ve met just for a coffee while I was in their area, or gone for dinner, some have visited me at the shop while they were in my area. Yes some of them were people that I wouldn’t have met in my “real life” but they were interesting people and I don’t regret having met them. I have met one person that I found disturbing and one person that quite frankly scared me, but both of those were at a large meet so I felt reasonable safe. Everyone else that I’ve met have been lovely people from all walks of life, and some of them I now consider friends…not quite like “real life” friends of course, but friends nonetheless.
Internet relationships….the modern equivalent of pen friends…it can be platonic or otherwise…you can be someone else or you can be yourself…it can stay in the ether or you can choose to meet…the choice is up to the individual.
4 January, 2011 at 11:47 am #457835@jen_jen wrote:
I haven’t replied to this before now as I simply don’t like threads like this, they feel like a popularity contest to me
Is here real? Yes, of course it is, we are real people sitting at real screens typing real words.
Oh dear.. :roll:
4 January, 2011 at 11:49 am #457836Are you not a real person then Terry? Very selective editing too :roll:
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