where and what?

orson kart wrote:

actually defines the barrier between banter and downright insults?,im not on about me I get loads its like water off a ducks back to me im aware that the typed word is an unfeeling silent emotion and that’s why lol and x and emojis were invented but where is the actual to quote Madonna border line?

It’s actually an interesting question. Where I live, a downtrodden working class area, people don’t mince their words. They say it how they see it. But would that translate everywhere else in the UK, I suspect it wouldn’t, where there might be different social norms, culture, class etc. I would happily say and do “oh don’t be a silly c you muppet” as “banter” in a normal conversation and not mean any offense by it and 99.9% of the time none would be taken.

Yet online where facial expression and body language can not be gauged sometimes the most innocuous or remarks is immediately blown out of proportion. Personally I also think JC is quite cliquey at times and what might be acceptable banter within a close nit group, would not be acceptable if it was an outsider using exactly the same banter. When it is genuinely banter that is, there is a thin line to be crossed I suppose, when others don’t interpret it as banter. It is also used to disguise bullying in the real world, workplace etc, sexism etc. “it was only banter”.

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I have to admit I am not very impressed with Cosy, he starts these threads and then abandons them quicker than he leaves his 1,000 online JC girlfriends.

CONCENTRATE Cosy, CONCENTRATE, you complain no one contributes to the boards and then neglect your own threads.

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