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Its still a hard decision to have to make as a mum ..but I’d be with Dawny on this one… after giving her another pep talk on sleeping in her p.j’s and making sure she had the lock closed properly on her chastity belt :wink: 8) :lol:
While I was living at home, in all the years me and my bf were together, my mum and dad never let him stay over, damn it was ages before he was even allowed upstairs! But thats all down to my dad as hes an old fashioned git! He was the same with my sister, yet my brother, the youngest of us all, is allowed to have his gf stay over when ever he wants!
Luckily, my bfs parents were a lot more open minded, his mums view was much the same as Rubys, she would rather we were together under her roof than someone elses, and believe me sunny and bon bon, if you dont let them do it, they WILL do it elsewhere.
@sunny wrote:
@*Dawny* wrote:
@sunny wrote:
Wish mine had a bloke who would take her out insted of sitting playing f00king games all night or on my space
Low life lazy scrounging tw at :evil:
I dont like my Lauren’s bloke, think the same of him as you do your daughter’s. If only we could choose our kids partners eh
But she lives with him, having a baby, wants us to like him and by God we have become sooooo good at convincing them we like him :roll:
The more we as parents show we hate their partner, the more we push our children away into the arms of the cretin we dislike. So we suck it up, slap a smile on our faces, embrace the wee tw@t and pray to God the the thing dont hurt our baby, cos he will find problems getting around with no legs :evil:Agree there 100 % dawny i act like he is great to my daughter even tho i think he nos deep down i carnt stand him
But hubs dont hide the fact he hates him lol the tw at as a cold and hubs said and ment it give it me mate and il kick ya up and down the road :shock:
Pluty finds it hard to hide too, he wants to rip the wee scroat apart
They live so far away, have no family around them, his family lives even further away than we do, He refuses to move closer to us or even to them so that they can have some help when the baby is born. He dont do anything round the house now, so wont when the baby comes, neither of them drive. Oh its all a nightmare, I just want them a bit closer so I can help my baby with her baby
@bon bon wrote:
My daughter is a sensible 19 year old
She has been with her first boyfriend for 3 months.
She asked me last night if he could stay over sometimes
I told her to let me think about it till todayWhat would your decision have been?
I’ve already given her my answer
bon bon my answer would have depended on how i felt bout her boyfreind, i dont normally not take to people but one of the boyfriends my youngest had just freaked me out, dont ask me why he just did…. so when the inevitable question came i said i would prefer he didnt because i felt uncomfortable with him , she respected that and he dint stay…… turns out i was right tho….
apart from that the rules were, boyfreinds could stay as long as they had been going out for a while, and yes, as i said last night 3 months is more than casual then i would say yes.
hope that helps……..
There is no clear cut answer here, there are so many variables but…..
if she is a mature 19 year old (and it sounds like she is) and
if you are comfortable with having him in your homethen I would say yes. She is an adult now and responsible for her own decisions. She has respected you enough to ask the question rather than take it for granted, and I would respect her enough to allow her to make her own decisions and mistakes and be there to support her when those mistakes are made.
Waiting with bated breath now to find out what bon-bon said!
All of my nieces (and nephews) have carte blanche regarding partners sleeping over, which horrifies me..but then I’m just jealous because my parents never allowed me that kind of leeway..I wasn’t permitted a boyfriend in the bedroom even during the hours of daylight..so we would go elsewhere to have our fun.
The old parental refrain of “As long as you’re living in MY house you’ll do as I say.” seems confined to the dustbin of yesteryear.Stephen
Awwww come on Diane, we waiting to find out what you said!!!
Id say yes.
They’d find somewhere to do it, so it may as well be in the safety of your own home.
Id be big on being open about safety and everything though.
Show them your treating them maturely and they will hopefully behave maturely. If you treat them as immature they will return the favour….
Then again, it DOES all come down to what the guy is like, how long they’ve been together. The decision would have to be made each time depending on that, so its not a flat out YES have sex lol
Having read all this my answer would still be no if for no other reason than im lying in bed and my daughter and her boyfriend are in the other room and i know they aint playing monopoly
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