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Tell them to fuck right off then play them at their own game by promising to set their house on fire while the sleep in it if the open their traps.
aaaah Real Life “friend” can be the worse.. a great leveller,when it comes to cutting the chaff from ones life. I am sure everyone on here has a tale. Mine was basically a very good pal i met later on in life.She was terrible with money, but that was part of the appeal, her total spontainiety> she got herself in a bit of a rut and i bailed her out.I did wonder at the time why her other “remarkable” friends did not help.God ,, the bother i had getting it back, and to this day have still never received the final amount. she would be weeping , pleading poverty etc, then i would find out the next day she had been spotted in a night club etc. It gets to the stage you wipe yur hands of them. Ironically I miss this female, as she was on my wavelength, but i could not afford her and her “remarkable” friends had all been bitten too. she now has not a friend in the world ! She calls me up at we half heartedly say we shall meet up, but we both know we never will. Tis a shame..
@wakeupdeadisgodlike wrote:
Tell them to fuck right off then play them at their own game by promising to set their house on fire while the sleep in it if the open their traps.
THATS actually GREAT advice with online folks !!!!
Tell them to naff orf and don’t be intimidated by anyone!
@mrs_teapot wrote:
Serious question here
OK, I have a general rule in my life and it has always served me well, Neither a borrower nor a lender be.
My hypothetical question for you all is this. If you were approached at JC by a person you had come to know reasonably well, (maybe you had met them a couple of times) and they asked you for money how would you deal with it? Even worse what if that person inferred they would make life difficult for you if you didnt comply? An example could be telling a loved one you had met them.
We are all subject to acts of random kindness so I don’t really understand the not borrowing bit. Sometimes life can be hard.
If I’d met a person from JC a couple of times then I’d have absolutely no hesitation in lending or giving them something, hell I wouldn’t have met them once if I didn’t absolutely trust them. But like someone said, expect nothing in return and that way, when re-paid, you are rewarded with renewed faith in human nature.
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If I had it, I`d lend it, and to be honest I`m a soft touch, I run a bookshop and I had this lovely old guy totter in a week or so ago, he was 90 if he was a day, asked mr for £3.80 for “parking”. I knew he knew I knew he was going to spend it in the pub, did I lend it to him? yes, should I have done? Probably not but hey, I had it. Kindness is priceless, and costs nothing.
Kindness is indeed priceless Nemesis.. but rip off artists know what they are doing.I was not on about helping someone out.but a rip off merchant that is basically a stalker. The original question being ” if someone asked for money with a threatening angle”. Hell I buy the Big Issue from Paddy at the back of my Local Marks n Sparks,I will gladly help a mate out ( and HAVE) But i refused point blank to be blackmailed. I had to admit all and was left with a husband roaring and laughing at my predicament, and holding onto car windscreen wipers to stop him heading off to The Regents park area of london. this guy is still out there !
I met an online friend, and she asked if she could confide in me.. Turns out he did it to her too, now how spooky IS that ! same guy !
a 40 something man with the non de plume of a fantasy cartoon !!no wonder my man laughed at my confession ! :) :)
@rubyred wrote:
Kindness is indeed priceless Nemesis.. but rip off artists know what they are doing.I was not on about helping someone out.but a rip off merchant that is basically a stalker. The original question being ” if someone asked for money with a threatening angle”. Hell I buy the Big Issue from Paddy at the back of my Local Marks n Sparks,I will gladly help a mate out ( and HAVE) But i refused point blank to be blackmailed. I had to admit all and was left with a husband roaring and laughing at my predicament, and holding onto car windscreen wipers to stop him heading off to The Regents park area of london. this guy is still out there !
I met an online friend, and she asked if she could confide in me.. Turns out he did it to her too, now how spooky IS that ! same guy !
a 40 something man with the non de plume of a fantasy cartoon !!no wonder my man laughed at my confession ! :) :)
I agree with you totally Ruby, your man sounds lovely btw
Teapot
Firstly I wouldn’t lend them money , I may gift it if I felt generous and the circumstances deemed it necessary say , a sick child etc. I would not just hand the money over but actually see to where it was going.
If the person made any threats ,,lol “thats black mail” id say fck it go ahead tell the world we have met.:lol:
I have lent money, when I had it, and don’t really expect it back! However, here in France, it is totally different to the UK – people will help each other out, like cook a meal or fix your boiler/plumbing/cooker/electronics, powercut? lend you a generator, for nothing – that means more! No blackmail involved, you just know that someone will try and help, BUT not expect anything back in return. A friend of mine fixed some clothing of mine (I do not have a sewing machine), in return, I went up the road (local farm) and got her a dozen eggs! That kind of thing. So, money doesn’t buy friendship, actions do, and mean more.
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