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Maybe this will help others (or not), when you have to deal with a sudden death… I was madly in love with a woman from Texas, she lived with me for 12 years or so in Scotland. She went home to visit her parents and when she was driving in the morning to visit her sister her car collided with a horse, they both died…
It shows the mentality of the guests as when I once spoke about this in chat, he said, I hope she died and the horse was ok… (Lovely)
Regardless, I remember that call that morning, this is strange her mums address is calling me, I answered and she told me what had just happened. I could not believe, I had to go on to the Houston Chronicle website where there she was on front page news… My parents took it hard too, they loved her so much…
It felt odd for months, I was so numb, I would walk outside with my dog and I could hear all airplanes in the sky, my senses were so heightened, it’s so horrible.
You can deal with things like, your Gran passed away, as much as that is horrible, you some how expect it, but tragedy or sudden passing is a total different ball game, I hope none of you ever have to experience it, and for those who have, I am sorry…
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So sorry this happened to you. Many of us understand how a sudden death can affect you x
And that was not a ‘guest’ it was a troll.
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Thank you Mizzy, and you have experienced loss in another way hun, and I cant imagine how hard that would be x
So sorry this happened to you. Many of us understand how a sudden death can affect you x And that was not a ‘guest’ it was a troll.
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It’s quite weird, as months later I got myself into a zone where her parents had lied to me, even though it was all over the news and it was true, I said to her mother, you made this all up to me, why are making me go through this shit!!! your all fkn liars/// The sad thing too, you meet new girls, never tell them you have a dead bird :( so then just live a lie x
the parents are loving, it’s bullshit because the girl I was with I had told this, and when she wanted to fall out with me, you just love Monica anyway!!! wtf
So now I am with a woman, not much of a controversial person, peace x
i am 31 now with a small amount of friends, but in 2004 and before 2004 and to 2015, i had had no friends, so when my dad died in 2004 then a few weeks or months later my pet cats died, then other relitives but anyway i had no friends, my bro had friends and a gf, he always had friends he was not my friend he bullyed me and his friends bullyed me, anyway so me and my dad did jujitsu at a jujitsu club, we all where doing jujitsu moves, at the time i was doing a move with my dad, then a few minutes later my dad stopped doing the move we where practicing or just repeating, and he was looked at by the sensei, and he knew something was wrong with him i think, unless my dad said there is something wrong with him to the sensei, idk, anyway i helpped my dad to the car he got in and i got in, then my dad after a few seconds blackout, i thought he just went to sleep oddly, as i did not understand it then, anyway then a few more seconds, he puked they got the ambulance there, they used a defib on him in the carpark, then they took him to a&e, my sensei took me to the a&e for me, anyway i was obv standing there in my gee, waiting to see what is happening to my dad, anyway they sent me and my mum and bro and his gf to a smal room, then we waited there for a few minutes, then some person came in saying “sorry your dad is dead”, we all went in the room where my dad was, he had a oxg tube hanging hout his gob, anyway he died of a aortic ebbarrism aka a clot to the main heart artory, anyway so in 2004 since my dad died it felt for months or a year maybe, that i blv my dad was going to walk in the house from work, i even had a dream he was at the house door, my bro coped with it by getting even more drunk than he did before and more days he did it, as for me i distracted my self with tv and music that was when i found heavy metal rock music, what helped i liked singing the rock songs and feeling temp good, my bro got pissed off one day as i had the music on loud, but it is ok for him he had a gf and friends to talk to, i had no one not even him, tbh i think i delt with the death of my dad and cats better than him when he had more than me but got very drunk, anyway now in 2017 it is easyer for me, i feel like i forget bit by bit about my dad, while still trying to deal with life probs, and my own mental health prob, yes death changes people, it makes us more angery but tougher mentally, people who dont know me have no clue about how low in mood i have been, they will never know totally if at all unless they got super low in mood like i have in my life.
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Sending you my love just x
My father died suddenly too last year.
Christmas time must be hard for you x
I’m sorry for your losses x
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Sorry :(
Sending you my love just x My father died suddenly too last year. Christmas time must be hard for you x I’m sorry for your losses x
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