stephi has passed away

@thin ice wrote:

@angeldust1 wrote:

why are u taken this as a joke

stephi has passed away i was ask to

put this on the boards by her husband

i have allso ask for it to be removed

this was a request from mark and stephis family

loseing stephi was upsetting enought for them

now they read wot on the boards about her

u upset cath and barney and myself

if this wot the boards are all about slagging

the dead off then it stinks

angel no one is doubting you
im sure every one thinks you honestly belive it
i dont know the truth
several are doubting it for good reasons
i think we all need concrete proof
ill ask the same question again has any one actualy had a voice converstion with mark
if she has died then her death will have been registered
and that is information available to the public so when and where did she die lets check the registar

Thats why I asked for the funeral details thin… they are easy to check. I feel so sorry for everyone involved here.. I didnt know the woman, or maybe its a man… who knows. I know to my cost that there are many people who have alternate identities in chat. Going through that experience makes you feel hurt betrayed bewildered, eventually though people involved will just feel angry and let down. I hope you all survive the experience better than me.

Teapot

OK if you’re gonna read this, grab a cuppa, it’s a long one, don’t say you weren’t warned!

I gave it a lot of consideration before my posting yesterday, everyone was giving Pixel a hard time for what she was saying, including me initially. I knew it would upset several people to find that things were not as they thought. I fully expected to be vilified in the same way that Pixel was, but I couldn’t sit back and say nothing. To my surprise I got several pm’s, both here and on Facebook, with messages of support and more evidence, thoughts, concerns. I didn’t get slated as expected, and I thank you all for that.

Angeldust, please know that I haven’t slagged Stephi off as you put it, that was never my intent in making the posting. I am truly sorry for the people who have been hurt by this.

Since posting, a lot of people keep asking me the same questions and rather than going over and over it in the room and causing more upset, I thought it best to cover it all here.

Firstly let me make it clear that I only know Stephi from the room, the boards and facebook. I haven’t had the close relationship that some people here have had. Also all of the following is only my opinion based on what I have observed myself and what others have since told me. I may be way off the mark and making 2+2 make 5.

So questions that I’ve been asked.

Was Stephi a real person?

The obvious answer is yes, as in there was a person going by the name of Stephi who posted on the boards, facebook and chatted in the rooms. She also had phone conversations with a few from here and offered them her advice and support.
However, was she the person she portrayed here? Who knows. One of the double-edged swords of the internet and this kind of interaction is that you can be whoever you want to be. A stay-at-home mum can have a high-flying career, someone in the relationship from hell can paint a picture of an idyllic homelife, someone in a wheelchair can be able bodied and a marathon runner. You only have to look at how many “firemen” we have in JC to know that! The only thing for sure is that all the photos that Stephi posted up here and on facebook of children were photos taken from the web and not her own. She isn’t the first to fabricate a life, and she won’t be the last.

Is Stephi one of Kate’s characters?

I might be wrong, but I don’t think so. Stephi has been chatting here for 8 or 9 years, even Kate hasn’t sustained a character for that long, and I can’t help thinking that if it was Kate she would already be gloating and calling us suckers etc.

Why would someone do this?

An obvious question when you feel so badly let down.
Whatever the reasons why we’re here now, we all initially come here for different reasons. Whether its because we’re lonely, or we need to escape aspects of our life, or it fills a need for social interaction or attention that we don’t have in our real lives, and so on. Some people come here and are simply themselves, what you see is what you get, others construct a fantasy life as a form of escapism. It builds and builds, and sometimes it gets out of control. How many chatters have we seen disappear and return in different names? The story might be different but we recognise the writing style or just get that feeling. For someone who has fabricated a life and is finding it impossible to sustain, the only option seems to be to kill off their character, and those of us who have been chatting for a while have seen that happen before. It is of course still possible that whilst Stephi may have fabricated parts of her life for the sympathy and attention, she might also really have died. Without seeing an obituary, death notice or death certificate, we may never know.

I thought she was a friend but she wasn’t was she?

For those who had a relationship with Stephi, who found her to be a lovely lady, the fact that she fabricated part of her life may make you question who she really was but it doesn’t change the fact that you found her to be lovely. If she gave you advice and supported you through tough times, then she was still a friend when you needed one wasn’t she? You should still feel free to mourn the loss of a friendship, even if it may not be quite as you thought it had happened.

And finally, there are those who say this thread should be deleted. Personally I don’t think it should, I think it serves as a useful reminder to us all to be cautious and that things aren’t always as they seem on this medium. However I do feel that this thread should now be locked, but that is in the moderator’s hands.

And if you’re still reading, you deserve a medal! :D

Kate I tells ya or whoever Kate was or is.

She’s got dozens and dozens of characters on these boards. She rotates all of the different characters.

yay, I shall pin it above my Left Breast.. there are enough right t.its on here already ;)

well said jen, thats exactly how i feel , and i wil mourn the loss of the freindship, she was there for so many people and even with all the other theories she was a good and loyal and totally trustworthy as a freind, she never ever repeated anything i said to her , nor do i ever remember her repeating anything else that anyone else had told her. so, i say again r.i.p stephi xxxxxxxx