single mothers

Single mothers should never be judged like this Shiddy they do a marvellous job of bringing up there child alone, usually under a great deal of strain and financial responsibilities which they must bear alone,

No woman i would imagine sets out to b a single parent, why would they, either the man leaves, perhaps they are widowed, or they have had to leave a violent or difficult relationship.

saying they couldnt keep there man Shiddy is sheer stupidity.

does it not depend upon their circumstances 2 why they are or have become a single parent ….. what if the father / mother had died? through illness or a road accident or if one parent decided to leave the family ……

I am proud to have been a single mother bringing up my two children on my own through
their infant years, primary and secondary education and watching them both grow into well adjusted, stable young adults……my eldest is now married with two children of his own…..their father chose to dip out of their lives when they were very young and i was told by a good friend that ‘what he sowed, he would reap’ and today that is so very true….

whilst unable to work as a single mother i was able to do many hours of voluntary work at a local school and for the charity Shelter as i could choose the hours to suit my children’s school day……….i felt i was giving something back for the benefits i was claiming at the time plus i was able to keep myself abreast of what was going on out there in the big wide world……. as i’m sure most single parents will say it can be quite isolating at times………some weeks i was doing 20+ hours a week voluntary work and so i never felt anyone was justified in saying i was a ‘taker’

if there is one piece of advice i could give single parents or parents who could be on the verge of splitting up it would be quite simply ………to live by your means and cut your cloth accordingly………..there is no need to get yourself into debt……..and the most important thing……enjoy your children.