Shocking!!!

I have never even let the buggy go while in a shop and i can put my hand on my heart to that! I have never “nipped” anywhere leaving any of my kids alone for even a split second. I am a responsible parent and yeah i probably do make the odd mistake but those little mistakes can never lead to a situation like this. How can anyone even think to see what they did as a mistake Its the worst one they will ever make! They didnt just pop out they went out for 3 hours!!!! For a meal FGS! And i dont think for a second they deserve whats happend not for a second at all, no one does. But they will have to live with this and thats punishment, yet i do think the should be charged in some way shape or form for neglect. As i said NO parent should leave their kids for 30 seconds even. I read the Jamie Bulger story….she only turned to pay a butcher and her son was taken. She never left him anywhere!!!! TRAGIC!

@abitofmary_j wrote:

jee’s O…. this fair gettin strong with comments…. so many folks wishing to judge the parents…. word of warning each one of us have made a mistake with ‘our children’ at some point of their lifes’. I do hope you or another mother or father has to be put in this situtation and know the so called ‘everyone sending their best wishes and thoughts’ their a few saying they deserve what has happened…

I don’t see anybody wishing that the parents DESERVED what happened to little Maddie. I do see loads of parents heavily criticising Maddie’s parents for their GROSS negligence and for putting their own pleasures before the safety and security of their three children.

can anyone say they havent left their child in a buggy and nic’d into a shop for a moment…?? thought the child was with the other parent till you both realise there not..?? left your child in the car and popped into a shop..?? there’s loads of comparsions…

Again I have to disagree with you there Mary. Speaking as a parent, I would NEVER … EVER do any of these things …. and I have NEVER done so. Leaving a child unattended in a buggy outside a shop or unattended in a car while you pop into a shop for a few moments is an act of the utmost folly and these days (sadly) is almost guaranteed to put your child in harm’s way. There are simply too many people out there who want to kidnap a child or hurt it in other ways for ANY parent to take the risk by leaving their child alone like that.

The thing is tho ABOM, that if someone pointed out it was a mistake I’d feel like shit for the oversight, probably a bit embarassed but thankfull someone pointed out the mistake and I’d try to learn from it. If like in this case something terrible had happened as a result then the criticism would still fell deserved because its STILL a mistake

When did our culture change into rewarding mistakes with platitudes and sympathy? That hardly makes the lesson learnt nor does it encourage dilligence in other people when the only outcome is attention

If you fuck up you should be told you fucked up, simple as, anything less isnt for the person who made the mistake, its self justification of existence for the pandering victim hugger

One of the biggest deterrants to make mistakes used to be the ear bashing you would get from everyone you know if you did, when you couldnt avoid it then it was just par for the course but still made you more careful to avoid making msitakes, especially silly ones in future

Currently we shower people in affection for making mistakes, tell them they did nothing wrong or it wasnt their fault when it was, or try to pursuade people tio walk on eggshells around them and then we wonder what happened to pride, common sense and personal responsibility in our kids haha, well if the parents have none of those and the kids grow up in a society that lacks them well DUH

Anyway, what exactly is WRONG with “judging”? The word is wheeled out by the feeble minded to avoid having to have a discussion or think, a “judgement” is a decision, a view, an opinion. Trying to taint it with a negative sounding word only confuses the terminally idiotic as it doesnt alter the thing your describing in the slightest just because you deem to call it a judgement every single person on the face of the planet makes judgements about every single person they meet, its an inherrent subconcious reflex and is totally unnavoidable, infact by you using the word judgement rather tha saying “why are you all voicing opinions and views” you are showing that you yourself have already made several “judgements” about the people posting which would make the question itself a bit hypocritical

But to answer it anyway, because we can, because its a genetic trait that cant be avoided, because it passes the time, because it SHOULD be done as its how a society learns and grows and forms social ideals on what is and isnt acceptable AND because its a flipping discussion board DUH, its kind of the point of the place

I’m sure there are touchy feel victim stroking boards on the net somewhere but they dont tend to cloud the issue by calling themselves discussion boards and having serious boards on them for people to then NOT have serious discussions on

I hope that help :lol:

Im not digging or having a go. But MAry what if your daughter had done it? Gone out for a meal and your grand daughter was taken? Would you hug her and sa honest mistake or go to town on her? I know which my mother would do, and to be honest i would hope for nothing less. All i am thinking about is that poor NEGLECTED little girl, and hope she is alive and well. NO ONE else matters in this, and when the get her back she needs monitoring for her parents “responsabilities”.

One quick point to back up what I have said before on here, and this came up last night when I was talking to my mum about the wee girl. My parents know what it’s like to lose a daughter and I know what it’s like to lose a sister – different circumstances but same thing and I’m not going into detail but we were both very young.

But she told me a story she had told me before, and this wee story is an example as to my way of thinking. Years ago, when we were kids, there was a group of us in the park – us and some of our friends – between 7 and 10 years old I reckon we were as a group at the time. A man approached us and went with one of the girls into the toilets and my mum along with many other people in the area saw this and phoned the police. The guy dropped dead as he was being taken away. So how long do you think it was before we were back in the park? Couple of days? Couple of weeks? No, a couple of hours. And it wasn’t just us that went back.

And after my sister died – I was eight or nine, my memory isn’t good after what happened – my friends and I still went out and played on our own. Be alert but not afraid was how things were around here and still are. Like it or not, that’s how I grew up in spite of everything. To you it may sound outrageous, to me and many others it was normal.