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Yes of course I care. I wouldnt be taking part in this discussion otherwise would I? And I have three children myself. Two of them were picked on at school, badly enough for me to involve the police. Didnt happen again.
It’s hard to tell the difference between people who are virtue signaling, and people who genuinely care about an issue when I don’t know anything about them.
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Lord have I felt exposed to bullying on JC site many many times myself. As an adult, hard often defending, if others see you different, do not understand you, believe you to be false because lifestyle different, and writing it not able to speak openly with some one. Big difference. In over explaining made it often at times even worse.
But a survivor to situations which strengthened me while going thru stages of adulthood, had different support. Have had some here at times as well. Also have been very independent since 19, never relying on others and parents. Have survived barely here at this jc place too, Bullying has taken me down here often, but again still not going to take thoughts of giving up. Word often is hope… Will survive if accepted and trusted, and if not tried in any event. Trial is a good thing if you don’t suceed you to not think of taking ones life, just find something else to do.
Again thank you. Opinions are new learning experiences.P.s. I type and speak fast. Ha ha.
I do understand. You are looking at it with adult eyes in the context of a site like JC. Children network with people they know, they belong to the same network groups. They socialize in the same network groups. Blocking one individual, or five, will not halt online bullying. In fact it will probably make it worse as has been explained, the blurred lines between online and offline.
It is the role of a parent to advise them on what they should do. As they have ‘adult eyes’ as you descibe it. And yes, blocking the people involved will halt it, words cannot hurt you if you can’t see them. (Not that they should hurt you when you can see them)
Drac, what exactly don’t you understand about this? If my daughter had a problem with online bullying and my only response was to suggest “block them and it will halt” I know for a fact that my daughter would not approach me with that problem again. I know that for a fact. You talk as if it is random adults randomly coming across other adults, online. That isn’t how children, but particularly teenagers, socialize online. They socialize with their friends and friends of friends etc. Blocking one will often escalate a problem, as it does offline, with children.
The world is NOT black and white. Never was and never will be.
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Lord have I felt exposed to bullying on JC site many many times myself. As an adult, hard often defending, if others see you different, do not understand you, believe you to be false because lifestyle different, and writing it not able to speak openly with some one. Big difference. In over explaining made it often at times even worse. But a survivor to situations which strengthened me while going thru stages of adulthood, had different support. Have had some here at times as well. Also have been very independent since 19, never relying on others and parents. Have survived barely here at this jc place too, Bullying has taken me down here often, but again still not going to take thoughts of giving up. Word often is hope… Will survive if accepted and trusted, and if not tried in any event. Trial is a good thing if you don’t suceed you to not think of taking ones life, just find something else to do. Again thank you. Opinions are new learning experiences. P.s. I type and speak fast. Ha ha.
Can you point out when you have been bullied many times on JC please Linda, I am genuinely curious because you have only typed on this site for a few months or less. I thought you said you worked in high profile academic jobs are highly qualified and have academic qualifications related to those jobs. How on earth is it possible for you to be bullied on a site like JC and then compare it to the bullying some children endure online?
Ge- are you really serious proposing this? Go back to some old threads in defending my actions, opinions. Not only one has gone after me, few as well same time actually leaving me, yes, an adult in tears. Perhaps low esteem that day, bad day, sad day.. Challenged so often had to be nasty in tone and remarks.
Weak, low, down to point wanting to try something I never did before and rock bottom….Called troll, which took me little time to figure out.. yoda? Still do not know what that means, multi – name user, liar because could not provide title as safety issue may be for me. Accused of having all these jobs, people stating don’t bother with me, ignore her, cursing me read it all clear making me feel like fool and jerk with my honesty…
Live 2 life’s daily and human.
Professionally my standards of performance have to be at excellence, and yep made mistakes too. Not perfect.
My private life is one live with in which has too many challenges lately. Plate over filled, cup running a muck! You understand? Strength which have to use daily gets weak at the end of day, so looking for another outlet stress reducer came here few months ago.
I hope this helps some. And not naming any names as confidence shared with me no matter what,never on my own life would be disclosed is just ONE female here at JC who has been kind, caring, made me feel better. Even feeling dependent on her for strength when too weak in what to do, shared tears and so forth has provided me support to keep trying at least till all hope is gone. Oops and also one male responder who has been kind, looked up too, think some times has abandoned me so does not get in the mix of crap, and understand that too.In my day was easy. Computer games played in Arcade. Space Invaders and Astroids both of which Edski had highest score! Phone calls where made in call box if you didn’t want parents overhearing. Simple cheap and easy!
Oops Ge-sorry….
Trying to respond on professional level not mentioned, maybe not understood in my postings, failure to comply full request:
Living in society today, “bullying” is not only considered for children on line but for many adults as well today Eg..weight, difference of opinions (oh was cursed at and called names did I say that before, then retaliated making me feel worse). Information based on opinion rather than facts or even some knowledge challenges provided in person, not only social media.Thinking after closing before, actually you do not have to go back too far on what I felt like bullying.. week and half ago, and really feel sad on this truly, as I was having much fun sharing information with another, it was real good…I still think, but some one started a game, others got involved, and then this one person had fun with attitude changed drastically, and final blow, like the rest comment…lalalala….boy did that hurt….so guess backed up too. See what my honesty has done to me. Reversed it to question if it all worth it to get away from pain at the end of day if professional downs, or my own challenges and sadness.
Would not then what happened with some at JC to me directly not considered being bullied?Can not be any more honest as always stated. Wish you all a pleasant day..
Having physical issue myself this week my Doctor has literally been on my ass all week to keep my legs up, relax, put me in hospital. Hee.. yesterday did good convincing am safe for now, making a visit every 2 days a pain.. sharing this only was to say today did feel better chatting and felt a peace of some sort the nasty did not follow me out and attack me as some times get…guess depending on what it is…
Only offered help from knowledge. So hope no one thought blew it out of my arse as have been accused before….muscle relaxants make you guys feel this sleepy..?? Feel like a zombie…..
So thanks….reading/sharingCan you point out when you have been bullied many times on JC please Linda, I am genuinely curious because you have only typed on this site for a few months or less. I thought you said you worked in high profile academic jobs are highly qualified and have academic qualifications related to those jobs. How on earth is it possible for you to be bullied on a site like JC and then compare it to the bullying some children endure online?
Listen and believe …
Or does the Duluth model only apply when it is convenient?
(I wanted to bring up femminist critical theory in this thread too)
there are morons online who say it is not real life online, them people obv have (toddler brains), words can hurt people, online and offline. so when u see these trolls/bullys/(toddler brain) people in this video, u think why do they think it is acceptible.
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