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:-k :-k :-k 80 eh PRATS not long now !!!
@ugo wrote:
:-k :-k :-k 80 eh PRATS not long now !!!
an unlike ur friend……….none of my family will be shoved in homes fa some uvver coont to care for. we look after our own where i come from.
@pats wrote:
@ugo wrote:
:-k :-k :-k 80 eh PRATS not long now !!!
an unlike ur friend……….none of my family will be shoved in homes fa some uvver coont to care for. we look after our own where i come from.
Have to agree with you there. Until somebody is dying, where there is a will there is a way.
We did it with my Father in law with little/no help.
But there are varying degrees of deteriation that have to be considered, that may be out of our realm.
Thats when you find you really need assistance but its not offered because the family insisted they could cope and the assistance you thought you could lean back on forgets you because there is no record as you have done it all yourselves…. scary stuff.
So …. to go back to the original story folks and perhaps put a slightly different spin on the way it was presented……:
@ugo wrote:
A close friend of mine had to have her Mother placed in a Nursing Home …….”
She didn’t HAVE to abandon her mother to the tender care of a Nursing Home … she made the choice to do so.
One option was for my friend to move her in with her after all she did have two spare rooms , but on second thoughts decided a retirement home come nursing home was the best option as she does have a full time job to consider ,
So she had a nice big home with plenty of room to accomodate her mother and clearly money wasn’t an issue as the “The cost alone to have her in there is astronomical …….” so paying upwards of £800 a week didn’t cause any problems. One wonders why this paragon of daughterly virtue couldn’t have hired a full time Nurse / Carer for her mother.
The Nursing home is a nice place in quiet tranquil surroundings mostly full of elderly women , my friends mother found it hard at first to settle in & was confused as you could imagine as she thought she was in a hotel on holiday & could`nt / would`nt agree that this was now her new home , So her character came out of its shell & she was one of those who would`nt stand for any sh1t & if something was on her mind she would tell the staff or have a quiet word with the individual in question .
So here we have a tough old bird, abandoned by her daughter into a nice quiet tranquil Nursing Home, totally against her wishes, and unable to accept it or to settle in and so she sets about upsetting everybody
I translate her ”wouldn’t stand for any shit” as meaning that she was loud mouthed, aggressive, belligerent and obnoxious. Can you REALLY imagine such a person having a “quiet word” with somebody ….. I think not. Chances are that she had daily screaming matches with the long suffering Staff as well as upsetting all the other ‘inmates’ with her apalling behaviour.
She has been there now for about a year ,
I went back up North to see my Parents last weekend & gave my friend a lift over to see her mum , I WAS IN SHOCK WHEN I SAW HER Its as if they give them drugs & ( Probably do ) just to keep them like cabbages , I looked around the room ( the TV Room ) & every one of them where sat there on cloud nine , they could`nt even string one sentence together . THIS CANT BE RIGHT Do the staff do this for there own benefit just so they can have an easy shift ….?
So we move on a year after the old girl has been abandoned by her ever loving daughter, who clearly doesn’t want the problem of caring for her Mum herself and prefers to let others do it for her.
The Staff at the Nursing Home have a number of patients to look after ALL of whom are paying for and entitled to a stress free existence. The belligerent loud mouth is constantly causing trouble so she is prescribed tranquilisers to calm her down and give everybody some sort of peace. no wonder she seemed different …. she was probably acting like a reasonable human being for once.
Everybody wants there Parents to live a long life after they`ve retired dont they ,
You dont want to put them into a Retirement home & pay extortionate fees to go visit & they dont even recognize who you are ….
I think something has to be done about these circumstances , after all they`ve worked there whole lives & retired & this is how they end up ….Yes I agree – and the best sort of care for an elderly relative is with their children and in the home NOT abandoned into a remote Nursing Home simply because the children can’t be bothered to look after them themselves. As you say they have worked their whole lives bringing up their children and supporting them …… this is no way for them to be repaid for all the sacrifices they’ve made. How true !!!!
This daughter ought to be thoroughly ashamed of herself !!!!!
Well we was having the house extension done after moms stroke to have her live with us
Then the silly sod gos and dies on me before i got the chance to have her with me
There is no way i could put any of my family in a home She looked after me single handed and done a f00king good job of it
Thing that does seem to get under my skin a bit People say how bad the OAPs are to look after Yep i bet they are after living 80 odd years trying to bring this county to rights
Bringing up their own kids gran kids To be shoved in a home where half the staff can’t be ar sed to look after them TALK to them they are human ffs
Its there JOBS they get PAID t look after ppl
So does that mean if a young baby in a home was playing up its ok to drug it up ignore it
I used to do voluntary talks it was called going to OAP homes love the stories they had to tell
All they want is to be classed as a human being not a f00king waste of space
People do the job then moan its hard work so lets get paid and drug the c00nts up yeah great world we live in
We will all be there one day.
PB…. how do you connect to the net from your home? Your family must have money to put you in a new all swish internet friendly one :wink:
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