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a very big reason, the bizarre thing is very often the person that says they love the other person despite the things they are doing half the time believe it is love they dont even realise themselves its control need greed etc.
@(f)politics? wrote:
a very big reason, the bizarre thing is very often the person that says they love the other person despite the things they are doing half the time believe it is love they dont even realise themselves its control need greed etc.
Makes you wonder if relationships are worth all this crap doesn’t it.[/i]
@cass_2000 wrote:
@jen_jen wrote:
@cass_2000 wrote:
What if the person had claimed to be single to others, and arranged to meet them but had been found out before they had chance to follow through.. would you consider that reason pete?
Oh that’s a biiiiiiig reason!
What if they claim they was never actually going to follow through with it?
Why start it in the first place ??
Maybe they are soooooooooooooo badly insecure they felt the need to see if they could do it but they still have a problem and if they truly loved the person they would love them enough to let them go and not torture them atleast until they sorted out their own insecurities.@cass_2000 wrote:
@jen_jen wrote:
@cass_2000 wrote:
What if the person had claimed to be single to others, and arranged to meet them but had been found out before they had chance to follow through.. would you consider that reason pete?
Oh that’s a biiiiiiig reason!
What if they claim they was never actually going to follow through with it?
They’re a liar or a coward one of the two
@cass_2000 wrote:
@(f)politics? wrote:
a very big reason, the bizarre thing is very often the person that says they love the other person despite the things they are doing half the time believe it is love they dont even realise themselves its control need greed etc.
Makes you wonder if relationships are worth all this crap doesn’t it.[/i]
yes at times i suppose it does as someone said to me only this evening, a love is meant to make your heart sing not sink and yes ok so the fact that they are able to do both means you have a deep love for them and there will always be a degree of both but the singing should out weigh the sinking 10 fold it is too easy to hang on to that 10 % that does make your heart sing but that isnt enough every person deserves more than that x
Online it’s easy to be something you’re not and as long as that doesn’t hurt others then ok, it maybe gives the person a little bit of self esteem as long as it isnt a total fantasy, but i cant see the point really cause 9 times out of ten you get found out.
Anyway the captain has just said were ready to up anchor cause i’m taking the yacht to Cannes for a few days going to see if i cant cheer up Cheryl Cole, Sandra Bullock and Tiger Woods missusBelay that the dozy sod has dropped one of the oars in the water :?
@cass_2000 wrote:
Not sure where I should post this to!
Anyways, just wondered what all you thought about trust in a relationship… can it be built up again if its been knocked down? Have any of you had to forgive and forget and did it work out? Has it changed any of you in any way ie more cautious about things or made you more easily jealous etc…
Have any of you tried to forgive and work things out but realised it couldn’t happen? If so how long before you realised it was better to “give up”?
Do any of you know your partner/ex is/was unfaithful but simply cant/couldn’t live without them therefore you had to forgive and forget? Does there come a point where you have to say I cant take anymore, its over?
I’ll approach the subject from the perspective of someone who’s been guilty of causing distrust and I have to say, the process trying to re-store that trust after an affair, especially, is something of an insurmountable task.
@aston wrote:
@cass_2000 wrote:
Not sure where I should post this to!
Anyways, just wondered what all you thought about trust in a relationship… can it be built up again if its been knocked down? Have any of you had to forgive and forget and did it work out? Has it changed any of you in any way ie more cautious about things or made you more easily jealous etc…
Have any of you tried to forgive and work things out but realised it couldn’t happen? If so how long before you realised it was better to “give up”?
Do any of you know your partner/ex is/was unfaithful but simply cant/couldn’t live without them therefore you had to forgive and forget? Does there come a point where you have to say I cant take anymore, its over?
I’ll approach the subject from the perspective of someone who’s been guilty of causing distrust and I have to, the process trying to re-store that trust after an affair, especially, is something of an insurmountable task.
But it must be achievable as I’m sure there is couples out there who have overcome trust issues.
No two relationships are the same, and eventhough I am a woman scorned, I have never held that against future success for relationships…. there is no point.. just coz one person can’t resist temptation doesn’t mean another can’t and similarly the whole.. once a cheat always a cheat is rubbish too… if a relationship is meant work it will….
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