Relationships – your thoughts?

@(f)politics? wrote:

ok now here is where i have to disagree, flirting can in a way be quite selfless as people like to be liked and admired so flirting with someone can make that person feel good about themselves as long as it is only that it can be a way of being charming nothing more.

can make the other person feel good yeah, but if someone is in a relationship where they claim they’re madly deeply in love then why are they flirting. People dont flirt to make the other person feel good at least not with strangers

@cass_2000 wrote:

@pete wrote:

So if someone was being told by their friends that their partner is a terrible flirt they’re always doing it they could just say “oh thats what they’re like it’s harmless” and not have any doubt

Well yes obv you would get doubt, but what if you believed they mean no harm by it…. Someone once said to me “I have a flirty personality”… you cant change people’s personalities

All i’m saying is if someone says they really love someone else and the other person is affected by the flirting then it shouldn’t be hard to stop.

@cass_2000 wrote:

Does not having trust end a relationship? what if you chose to start again, try and rebuild the trust… which is what the post is orginally about really, forgiving and forgetting.

I dont think you ever can forget or ever should really, but you have to forgive otherwise you’re sort of bearing a grudge and that’s like poisoning yourself and waiting for the other person to die, and you’ll never rebuild that trust

@cass_2000 wrote:

So essentially jen and pete, you’re both saying if you don’t have trust, you don’t have much of a relationship?

dont think you have one at all cause one or the other is always wondering