relationships and sex

I agree with every word that thin said on the beginning of the post. :)

@thin ice wrote:

@eve wrote:

I agree with every word that thin said on the beginning of the post. :)

well done eve
now do you fancy a sh ag :P

Lol, i thought i was at the end of the list!!! :D

@thin ice wrote:

right i have a few theorys about what floats your boat in a relationship
and more importantly how a relationship starts and develops over time

i believe how a relationship starts is how it stays
for example
if you meet some one say on a night out and spend the night together have wonderful sex
and continue to see each other afterwards for a while and continue with mind blowing sex
then thats all it will ever be
wonderful sex and eventually will die a death

another example
say you meet some one briefly nothing happens
you might not even think you fancy them
but you bump in to them again and again for what ever reason ie you might have mutual friends or through work etc
over time you build up a frienship even learn to respect each other
and as time goes by you fall in love do the dating thing and become lovers
then this will prob be a deep meaningful relationship

also i belive the sort of sex you have when you loose your viginity becomes a repeating theme in your life
if your first time is say a drunken episode with some one you dont hardly know then thats going to keep happening even when your married or in a relationship
if your first time is group sex then thats going to keep you wanting that from time to time
or if you slowly get to know some one and your first time is with some one you really know and care about then the chances are your not going to put it about too much

just a few lil thoughts for you all
prob too deep for many of you
but ill watch this thread with interest
and hopefully its not deleted or hijacked too soon

some interesting points thin, however, over time people change, not many people are the same in their 20s as they are in their 30s.40s.50s etc, and unfortunately in a full time relationship folk lose sight of each other and common interests and indeed the reason they were first attracted to each other go out of the window along with evey day life, bringing up children, working etc.

you cant generalise really , i.e if your first experience was a drunken one it doesnt necessarily mean that will shape your future, some may be so appalled by it they never do it again.

its a funny thing the physical side of a relationship tho it can take ages to feel comfortable with someone then it can become mundane and predictable, the one thing i do know is that things have to be ok ‘downstairs’ ie every day life before things can be ok upstairs.