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I am disgusted with some of the abuse I have endured the past week or so. I can tolerate being called names, such as; slag, wh*re, ugly… even accused of having an affair at one point, but I’m thrilled you’ve taken such an interest in my personal life.
I don’t think I’m anything special but at the end of the day, those statements are not only un-true, but do not offend me in the slightest, nobody can make those judgments from a chat room :) quite clearly there are deluded people in here who think they know it all though.
Me personally as someone who has suffered bullying in ‘real life’, I understand people do it purely to make themselves feel better about their own life. Whatever. Go and see a counselor, do something, other than trying to bring everyone else down.
However, bullying, and threatening behavior online or not, should not be tolerated. I have seen many vulgar comments being made in F1 since I began using this site in April, some think its funny, and just banter, and totally harmless, and I will admit, a lot of chatters ask for it, they bite at the stupidest things, giving these people the reaction they want, which is still pathetic whether it’s really harsh or not, as I don’t know why anyone would spend their spare time just abusing people anyway, but whatever floats your boat I guess…But the day someone tells me they’d like to grab my hair, and smash my face into the ground and that they (and I quote) “f**ked your niece” (who is 5 years old), and asks “can I f*ck her again?” it becomes a bit more serious than a laugh and a joke. It becomes sick, twisted and actually, plain and simple, gives everyone the right to say they’re a pedophile. Which is ironic, as I often see the name-hiders/clones calling each other that? Along with the other popular choice of course that is a rapist. I’ll also add, the said person said a lot of these things under other user’s names. I’m aware it wasn’t really those users. I also got “my mums home now, think I will f**k her as I can’t slap Nicola up” “Dumb K*nt” “Can I fook your niece before you go, just two more times”.
It has horrified me, to think that someone can sit behind their screen and write such sickening things. (I bet some of you are actually hyperventilating with laughter right now though) It makes me laugh to an extent that it is all behind a screen though. I’d love to see the day whatever pathetic individual says these things, actually said anything like that to someone for real, you know.. in the real world? With real people, who have jobs, family, and friends… something they’re probably not that familiar with? I don’t know what I can do about any of this, apart from the obvious thing and ignore the abuse, report it!? (LOL) or leave the site; however I don’t see why I should have to be the one to leave. I’ve done NOTHING to anyone.I’ve met some lovely people in F1 (and you all know who you are) and I don’t see why I should stop talking to them, in order to please the few a** holes. I may not be everyone’s cup of tea, being a Geordie in itself gets me abused like I’ve just stood on a puppy most of the time anyway.
I don’t actually know where this is going; I just felt I needed to unload. I’m sick of seeing people bullied, and even leave because of these losers. The worrying thing is they’ll actually not see anything wrong in what they’re saying, as like I said, to them it’s just a joke. In all fairness I’m preparing for more abuse once this has been posted.
Anyway, I know nothing will get done, have even been told that the owner of JC, Martin Reed doesn’t even care about anything that goes on in here, whether that’s true or not, I don’t know “for every one person that leaves, another ten join”. Well all I can say to that is Martin, if it’s true, you can laugh it off, or think well, it happens all over the internet, we are all aware of these things when we sign up etc etc… People have actually committed suicide because of online bullying, vulnerable people do use the internet, as a way of escaping the real world, I myself have done this when I was a teenager and I was being bullied at school. If that makes me sad, or whatever else, fine. At least I have dealt with my problems and I’m not hiding behind a screen. But if anyone has to endure some of the abuse that I’ve seen on this site, and it happens to the wrong person at the wrong time, I wouldn’t like to think of the outcome. The person who said the awful things won’t care though; they’ll be using another name and abusing somebody else.I think if the chat rooms were only accessible using registered names (I’m not saying pay for it lol) but I mean, registering like we do on the forums, with an email address, and have profiles, it would maybe lessen the chance of clones and name hiders? (Then again, these people obviously have way too much time on their hands, and would sit and make several email addresses in order to register several usernames purely to abuse people :/)
Also, I have to add, the amount of times I’ve seen chat guides in the room whilst abuse has happened, and they’ve done nothing, I mean it’s not exactly their fault, but all they have the power to do is warn someone, I’m not sure if they can ban people, I’m guessing they can, but obviously because of the ‘Geniuses’ who can change their ip, it doesn’t do anything? Idk.
Anyway, I’ve typed enough lol. I just needed to vent my thoughts without being spoken to like sh*t in the room. Like I’m the one with the problem? I am only human and I am allowed an opinion. I just wish something could be done, and to the person/people who have said the vulgar things to me, especially about my 5 year old niece, I hope you rot. You’re clearly not right in the head, no matter how much you tell yourself you are. You’re a sad, sick individual, and I just hope to god you never have children of your own, and if you do, I hope it hits home how disgraceful you are, saying such disgusting things about a child.
Ok, finished!
(I feel better now… & sorry for spelling)
Nic xxxIt does make you wonder what these people are like in person :-s
I think people resort to typing vile things in chatrooms is that in real life i dunno maybe they have low self esteem or have no sence of accomplishment in real life, so they find themselves in here and because they are behind a screen trying to bully others trying desperately to make them feel small to make themselves feel bigger and better about there miserable lives.
They are not worth getting upset over but when they attack your family and make disgusting remarks about chatters children or in Nicola’s case her young neice god alone knows what issues they have to do this, i couldnt even hazard a guess its a pity a guide cant b in at all times to eject them as soon as they start
anyway love to u all xxxxx
times are a-changing i think…….they wont get away with it for much more ……..the internet is such a massive part of ‘our’ world today so something will have to be done…….and facebook is taking that step see Poet’s post on ‘Getting Serious’ section
I dont think it has anything to do with self-esteem. These people simply get amusement from this. Its the modern day playground where some will abuse and insult simply to amuse themselves or ‘impress’ others. Of course in the playground you could fight back whereas these types are nice and safe behind their computer screens.
Some insults cannot be stopped. Crass ‘mum’ jokes and generic ‘you’re this’ or ‘you’re that’ (usually fat etc) will always be in the chatroom environment as they are everywhere else.
This behavior also goes on on these boards too.
From my own point of view I will not talk about family or personal things in the room. Trusted people will be told things in pm or msn and assuming that trust is well placed (?) then that information will never get into the hands of these people.
Never any gaurentees of course….
I agree with you des and your proberly right, you did put that better than i did. But i do think people who have had some sort of social rejection are more likely to bully n inflict pain on others, and your right it gives them amusement/ power to write this stuff in here. Yr very wise also to be careful who you give out info too but in here u feel you have friends n share stories its sad when chatters live to regret this.
Thanks for the reply’s, I like reading what other people think of this situation. I agree with everything you’ve all said.
I don’t care about petty name calling, it happens everywhere your right. However my point, I think, I was trying to make, is I’m sick of the vulgar and threatening abuse, & I just wish something could be done.
Also, I never give out personal information about my family. all I had simply said was “I’ve just built some lego characters for my niece”. and that’s when those comments were made. There was no need at all, whether it was for as you say, their own amusement, or to ‘show off’,it’s sick and twisted, and nobody in their right mind would go as far as to say something so sick for a laugh. At least I hope they wouldn’t.
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If it’s any help (probably isnt though lol) I know how you feel. Everytime I go in f1 I get abuse mainly about my kids and always by a certain foul mouthed little p_rick and his best chum. Yeah u know who you are. (Essy and third) In fact I wont repeat some of the stuff the jumped up little doley says as lets be honest he will love all this attention he gets and also because the stuff is so vile I can’t even bear thinking about it. I then get people turning on me saying you encourage it tiff as you respond.
Well let me just say, iggying doesnt work as the little p_rick just changes names every couple of minutes so it starts all over again, chatguides are either not around when it’s going on or he shuts up when they are in the room. You argue back you get more abuse, you laugh it off and it still carries on.. and trust me it is very hard to ignore somebody when they say sick things about your children. The other option would be to change my name, but i tried that once and it didn’t feel right. Even using my real name doesn’t feel right, god knows why lol.
I have had my email address posted non stop in the room for hours at an end and I have heard that my picture has been put up on a dating site. Rumours have been spread about how I am a tart and meet people of JC, well the truth is I have NEVER met anyone of JC. And I am one of these people who will speak usually in the main room.. I very rarely pm anybody. So don’t believe everything you hear. There is only one person I spoke to regularly on here and they dont come in anymore because of the abuse and the sh*t stirring and the trouble it caused them.
Anyway, i’m sure I had a point somewhere in that rambling.. lol Basically, you are f*cked if you iggy and f*ucked if you defend yourself. I think certain ‘regular’ members of this site with the names of Essy and Third need to be banned permanently as there sole purpose in their sad little lives is to abuse. It makes you wonder if they were bullied as children or something, as no normal person would result to this kind of behaviour. Now everybody loves a wind up, (I often have a good laugh with my clones if they aren’t too bad )but this goes beyond the level of banter it’s not even borderline and should be stopped. Chatguides have the option to read the room history like we all do.. so the proof is often there if they need it but still nothing is done. What is sick as well, is how other regulars suck up to these two muppets as if they cannot do no wrong. They are no better themselves if they think that kind of sick abuse on innocent children is acceptable and should be ashamed of themselves, and again they probably know who they are.These are like really massive moans and a half. Will say that much like in life you take the rough with the smooth. If you don’t like it, don’t log in. Kind of like watching Points of View on the TV. I used to laugh at the letters when people said ” i sat through two hours of utter drivel…….etc etc etc “
Begs the question why the feck didn’t they turn it off?
Anyways I like you both but honestly grow up and failing that grow a pair
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Point is Danny, if you don’t like somewhere, don’t go….if you don’t like something, avoid it. Expecting others to change to fit around our own perfect expectations is unreasonable and immature. Especially in JC. Some people may find your behaviour at times offensive, does that mean you should be banned? Some people more than likely find me offensive at times….does that mean i should be banned???
JC will ALWAYS have rude, obnoxious, horrible peeps in it. It isn’t right, but it will never change.
If you don’t like it……..type to yourself in word format and offend no one and be offended by no one.
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