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would you stay with somone for the sake that you are the father to her kids?
is it true also that a mum and dad play a big part in a childs life, are they really that important? or can somone else bring a child up just as succesfull?
a mate of mine grew up without a father or a mother figure, it never did him any harm, from teenage years nearly he brought himself up, i guess if you don’t have somthing, you never miss it
a lot of people today are also guilty of being with some for the sake of a child, recently i said to myself i would never be with somone for the sake of bringing that child up to a happy family background, i think i could give a child a better future if i was happy on my own, rather then unhappy with somone. i know my ex was brought up in a unhappy family.. and it was the best day of her life when her mum and dad split up
i think having both parents together these days is a bit of a myth, i rather be a good single parent myself i had to be, then unhappy in myself with somone i don’t want to be with
i was’nt meaning mags to be honest, i was just kind of saying, a lot of people stay with somone for the sake that they think they are doing good for thier kids, but kids are more clever then you think.. they can sense the tention, and i think it points towards unhappy upbringing
who’s warning who :shock:
I find it hard to answer this question given that I haven’t been in the situation. Guess unless you are, you’ll never really know. If I’m being honest, I think I would probably try and make a go of things at least… although thats prob not the best course of action in reality. Hopefully i’ll never find myself in this position.
I haven’t been in that situation tbh – my parents are still together and I’m still happily with the father of my boys.
I would say though – if we ever got to the point where any tension or bad feeling was affecting the kids, I would as Sian says ‘rather be happy and alone’ :)
i was fetched up by my dad and it never did me any harm not havin both parents
I probably would. No way I’d be able to live without my boy. Either stay or make her look real bad so he could come with me 8)
@kangawallafox wrote:
I probably would. No way I’d be able to live without my boy. Either stay or make her look real bad so he could come with me 8)
:shock: :shock: :wink:
well i stayed with my sons dad for 4 yrs for my 2 kids. he isnt my daughters dad but i thought they both needed a dad around. it didnt do them any good as all we did was fight and argue. now im a single parent they are much happier :D
sometimes its better to have just one parent.
my best mate was raised by her nana and grandad and shes ok. just depends on the situation etc but whatever is best for the kids workswell i was raised by 2 parents. i have bin with my hubby 29yrs……..he was also raised by 2 parents.
my eldest son walked out on his girlfriend (it was either that or kill her) when his son was 6 weeks old. he took him with him and raised him for almost 4 yrs…i’m the only mother figure he as ever known.hes never had so much as a birhday card from his *real mother*.
my daughters partner never knew his dad………he was systematically beaten for yrs by his stepdad. his mother died of cancer when he was 15……..he was pretty much left to his own devices after that. yet he dotes on his 4 children with my daughter.hes one hell of a dad!!!
i think in some circumstances kids brought up in one parent families………or by other family members………make BETTER parents.Kids should be given more credit, they have an amazing ability to sense problems, in the home environment. Despite us adults pretending to be happy, if there is any hostility the children are usually effected even if we dont notice. I dont agree with the idea of staying with a partner for the sake of the children, as long as the children know that both parents are there for them or in some certain cases the relative or guardian has their best interests at heart they would be better off, than living in a hostile environment.
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