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Once someone has broken your trust can it ever be earned back? Whats your ideas on this?
Personally for me NCB the answer is NO. I can move on, be civil, even appear friendly but its always there in the back of my mind. I sometimes wish I could be more forgiving and give people a second chance but I seem to have become less inclined to do so with age.
It depends on how and why the trust was broken and how important the relationship is to both parties.
In some cases the damage is so severe that the trust can never be regained and you have to let that person go. Even when the trust has been detroyed this can easier said than done as our natural inclination is to be hurt, to want to know why, then to turn to anger and recriminations, and we prolong keeping that person in our lives for far longer than is good for either party.
In other cases then a degree of trust can be rebuilt over a period of time if it’s something that both parties want, but the person who broke the trust has to work hard and sincerely to regain it and the person whose trust was damaged has to be prepared to let the past be the past and move on. Even so, I think it’s unlikely that even with best efforts the original levels of trust can ever be regained.
NO. Like Velv I can be civil. If a person is so untrustworthy to break your trust why would they change in the future?
Yes i think it can ….people do all types of things they then regret deeply, to have the ability to forgive is an ability not all will have or agree with. The reason the trust was broken does have a bearing, this goes without saying so to give a blanket responce to your question is not possible. I like to think that if i have done wrong, and i have like most…..then the person on the recieving end will upon remorse, have forgivness in their heart.
I do agree with you Gaz to a certain extent and i’m not saying that i can’t forgive someone, what i’m saying is that once trust has been destroyed in whatever form i think the person let down would never truly implicitely trust the offender again
Yes, no doubt this will happen but to cast away someone that shows true remorse is i think, a very harsh penalty…i myself will always give a second chance knowing full well that at times, people all being different will always falter at some point, its the type of scenario that only time can heal……maybe :?
I guess so, after all if we were all perfect the world would be a very boring place, sadly i’ve given 2nd chances but the ability of humans to let others down never ceases to amaze and sadden me. The occasions when my faith in human nature are restored are becoming very rare. We seem to have become a very selfish race interested only in self gratification at the expense of people we are supposed to care for
When my ex broke my trust, like a fool I believed the it won’t happen again and continued on with our wedding arrangement… (love is apparently blind) anyway… 3 months later I found out he was still with the same girl so in answer to your question… Trust has to be earned and once someone has broken it, they never have the right to earn it back.
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