Psychological manipulation.

@kent f OBE wrote:

Hi Hec…..you say you observe alot…therefore I am surprised you dont know the difference between whats said in there and what actually happens…I have chatted on and off for a long time now and to be honest I have not witnessed that scenario more than a couple of times….yes I agree it probably happens…but once contact is made regards to who likes who etc…surely the next level is taken into private conversation away from other chatters eyes…
I go back to an original point i made…unless you have spoken and know the truth from all 4 parties you cannot actually make an assumption it is PM….its impossible…along those lines whats to say any one of those parties will tell the truth 100?
In my opinion you are doing what you accused others of doing somewhere in another post….you are assuming alot of facts then making a situation of it….
Are you an avid chatter? Long term chatter?….you see…heres the thing…a few weeks ago i found out from a gobby chatter that I had a relationship wit h a chatter called Mcvicar…he stayed at my house for a week blah blah blah…when I put it to that chatter to ask Mcvicar in front of me she said he is dead…how convenient of him….You would have thought if we were so close that I wouldve been notified about his death! I have never met this chatter and he certanly did not come to stay at my house….
Now this gobby chatter probably told numerous other chatters and I actually believe Mcvicar told that lot that he did come to stay with me…its a lie…you cannot believe anything anyone tells you…you might not believe my version either..who knows…
Even simple things in chat are not simple

Yes I know the difference. Iv been in chat rooms nearly 20 years and jc about 7 years. I haven’t always chatted in the room, far to shy, When I saw people like sgt pepper or the likes of black kettle I would think wooow there amazing. I would sit chat in pm and watch the room for hours. Yes iv known people it have happened two, its real easy though to sit watch the room and its very clear after you’ve studied it, what happens. You know and there is no point in denying it to save a friend, or what ever. These things are seen and ignored, because that’s just how things are. Some people go to great lengths to protect certain people. Iv had some crackers told about me.
You don’t have to tell me lies have been told about people. I have seen the rubbish thrown at you. You begin to get that sixth sense though about truth and fiction. I have been told so much rubbish about people you wouldn’t believe the storeys. People know there not true but will pick up the ball and run with it.I have done that I have to confess. The reson,if some eject is going to try put me down, down they will come with me. Iv seen mean befriend who they think have money, for real. Others can see it but say nothing because they have there own agenda. Weave all had the lies told about us. That doesn’t excuse the nasty hurtful real evil head games played by people for the sake of a shag or a wank or any reason, games played buy people. To be honest your one of the worst people in jc for sticking up for a man who has hurt a woman with head games. If there’s a bloke challenged or up against the truth pound to a penny you jump in there and come to his defence. Rattling of reasons why woman should know better. Which does nothing at all to help situations. You have your own reasons for that, I don’t even know if you know why you do it.

@rogue trader wrote:

yeh but the likes of sgt pep and bk are legends truly awesome posters ,but theyd never put you down.

:roll:Whos putting them down. Pepper is ok and I don’t know bk

No no no no kenty,you do do that. I have been at the receiving end of it.It doesn’t help it causes jealousy resentment and confusion. Your not a bad person im very fond of you and love your posting. Helps the manipulation that goes on though. I know you know many people and they all love you, your friends. I totally understand your indignation. Im not trying to be unkind or condescending.

Im not a sucker for a sob storey but have empathy with people in such situations. Souley adores you and would defend you even if at any time your in the wrong. I put up a scenario, because you asked. The title of the thread is psychological manipulation. I used you as en example because you suggested I assumed, I know kenty.I have seen your reaction in these situations. Who the hell are you to minimize peoples feelings in to a sob story. If I were being manipulated kenty.Trust me id be away in some hotel, putting my health at risk with some strange man who has no intention of anything other than sha gging..Im not judging anyone who has just to me that’s manipulation. I wont shut my gob when some man is trying to put me in a corner, or any woman. We all suffer in these situations, no need to minimize other peoples pain for popularity with men. I don’t buy the I use men as much as they use me rubbish.