Open letter to Martin Reed – re. treatment of Bencase

@pats wrote:

most of the cr.ap on here started when martin changed the format and introduced the lobby. u get thrown in there when u sign in. plz dont asociate the lobby with 40s an 50s room.
i was in 50s last night and it was sprising how many chatters came in to escape the abuse in the lobby. to be honest that place gives the rest of this site a bad name.
all the fights and abuse on the boards….(mainly over the past few months) as come from lobby users.

Yeah right …… me thinks the abuse i got and accusations of me being a multiple named poster came from the “boardies”,and explain pLebbles going into forum 3 and kicking off in there,spouting her shyte about sarah being a multiple user,she was made to look quite silly when she was informed by a guide that sarah is not kate as pLebbles keeps protesting.

Me thinks you PATS want to start looking a bit closer to home.

Remember ….. i don’t foookin care

@reason wrote:

@pats wrote:

most of the cr.ap on here started when martin changed the format and introduced the lobby. u get thrown in there when u sign in. plz dont asociate the lobby with 40s an 50s room.
i was in 50s last night and it was sprising how many chatters came in to escape the abuse in the lobby. to be honest that place gives the rest of this site a bad name.
all the fights and abuse on the boards….(mainly over the past few months) as come from lobby users.

Yeah right …… me thinks the abuse i got and accusations of me being a multiple named poster came from the “boardies”,and explain pLebbles going into forum 3 and kicking off in there,spouting her shyte about sarah being a multiple user,she was made to look quite silly when she was informed by a guide that sarah is not kate as pLebbles keeps protesting.

Me thinks you PATS want to start looking a bit closer to home.

Remember ….. i don’t foookin care

pebbles rarely uses the rooms.i think i have seen her once. i’m talking about the lobby users who only register on the boards to slag someone off……if the lobby users wanna rip each other apart then feel free…….just keep it out of 40.s an50.s an off the boards.

who am i then ? On second thoughts dont answer that

@ratchet wrote:

Several people in the Forum 3 chatroom have been talking almost obsessively about their ongoing attempts to encourage a well known chatter, Bencase, to commit suicide.

Bencase is known to have mental health issues and claims to be taking medication for bipolar disorder.

There has also been an enormous amount of abuse aimed at Bencase, based solely on his mental illness. This is offensive to anyone whose life, or family life, has been affected by mental illness, which is actually very common.

The justification given by these individuals for their bullying and abuse has been along the lines of:

“He deserves it by coming in here and talking about his mental health”
“He’s a fruit loop so deserves everything he gets”
“It would do the world a favour if he killed himself”

Bencase may or may not be a perfect individual, I don’t know. He may have rubbed people up the wrong way, or been rude or offensive. I’ve heard conflicting reports about him. But it’s worth noting that many people claim to have been friends with him for a long time but are also being intimidated and bullied for defending him, and are often too afraid to speak up when a number of regulars are holding their witch hunt in the room.

However, whatever he might have done wrong, absolutely nothing justifies the concerted efforts being made by a number of chatters to “push him over the edge and make him end it all”, as one of them said today.

If Bencase is a problem to anyone, they should simply ignore him.

This is bullying of the worst and most disturbing kind. There are approximately five “regulars” at the centre of this.

One “regular” in particular has been rallying the room to “stick together” and “work as a team” to try and “break him”.

She spoke for half an hour about what she called “Operation Overdose”. She said in no uncertain terms, that she was on a mission to make Bencase commit suicide. She said “if we work hard enough, we can get him to take enough of his loony pills to finish him off”, and “i know we can do this”.

These comments have now become sinister and vile in the extreme.

It is also deeply unpleasant to watch how other people in the room will jump on the bandwagon and join in with the bullying, even though they don’t know Bencase and have never heard of him before. They want to belong to the crowd and are prepared to say the most odious things to a mentally ill person in order to achieve that.

A certain guide who can be found in Forum 3 late most evenings/nights has witnessed all this bullying and to my sheer amazement has actually joined in with it. I’m not going to name names here, but if Martin Reed wishes to investigate or check logs, it won’t be at all difficult to identify the guide I’m talking about. (Hint – this is the same guide who says “lol i’ll pretend i never heard that mibs” when Man in Beds talks about his desire to put rubber tyres around the necks of black people and set them on fire).

This might be one big joke or form of entertainment to some people, but the line is being crossed. There was a case reported in the news where a man did commit suicide whilst using a chat room, and the police did actually trace and interview the people who had been in the room at the time.

So I ask people to think very carefully about what they’re saying, if not for Bencase’s sake then for their own sake.

I call upon Martin Reed to take decisive action instead of allowing guides to tolerate and join in with this behaviour. If no action is taken I will report this matter to Easily.co.uk, Parachat, and any other company affiliated with this website, as they would undoubtedly not want to be associated with a company that condoned this kind of activity.

Again, I reiterate that whatever Bencase has allegedly done wrong is besides the point. Nothing justifies the things that have been said to him. If you don’t like him, just ignore him.

Taking this at face value…. and assuming you do actually care. Wouldnt it have been wiser to name the perpetrators rather than the aggrieved? All you have succeeded in doing is place him on a pedestal to be shot down by all and sundry. The abusers have been spared from your comments when in fact it is them that should have been named and shamed.
And wouldnt it have been more productive to have sent this post directly to the authorities of this site so they could monitor the situation for themselves and be able to gauge the facts of the matter before your concerns reached the public domain. Thus leaving them with options on how to proceed if they saw fit.
A bit of sensible thinking on your part may have paid dividends…… instead of the adverse effects that will now occur.

@pats wrote:

@reason wrote:

@pats wrote:

most of the cr.ap on here started when martin changed the format and introduced the lobby. u get thrown in there when u sign in. plz dont asociate the lobby with 40s an 50s room.
i was in 50s last night and it was sprising how many chatters came in to escape the abuse in the lobby. to be honest that place gives the rest of this site a bad name.
all the fights and abuse on the boards….(mainly over the past few months) as come from lobby users.

Yeah right …… me thinks the abuse i got and accusations of me being a multiple named poster came from the “boardies”,and explain pLebbles going into forum 3 and kicking off in there,spouting her shyte about sarah being a multiple user,she was made to look quite silly when she was informed by a guide that sarah is not kate as pLebbles keeps protesting.

Me thinks you PATS want to start looking a bit closer to home.

Remember ….. i don’t foookin care

pebbles rarely uses the rooms.i think i have seen her once. i’m talking about the lobby users who only register on the boards to slag someone off……if the lobby users wanna rip each other apart then feel free…….just keep it out of 40.s an50.s an off the boards.

PATS …. I don’t wanna fall out with anyone here but does it not stand to reason that as the lobby has the biggest capacity in forum 3 you are gonna get a few numpties in there??

The reg lobby users I think it would be fair to say are sick of the name changers who come in picking fights & abusing chatters (that were probably were their best mate a week ago) but hide behind phoney names.

My mate pebbles might not be a reg room user but she came in with the sole intention of having a go at certain individual from forum 1 who was alledgedly cloning.
So I have to ask ….. why bring it into forum 3? :-k Then she ripped into me when I asked why she had brought it into the lobby. :roll: :roll:
No doubt she will be sharpening her claws somewhere to have a go at me on the boards. (shakin in me wellies here)

As for you claims that the lobbites as we are sometimes known come on the boards to spoil your fun …. well personally I see it as the boardie regs getting ar sey bacause there are some very amusing folk in the lobby that like you have opinions & like a bit of a laugh on the boards. Please don’t judge all us regs by the behaviour of the minority. I too chat regularly in 50’s to escape the bickering so I can see you point there.

It’s a shame these phoneys haven’t got the courage to speak in their reg names when they start spouting – if you peeps don’t want your private lives to be a subject of room gossip the don’t bring it into chat in the first place.

Have a nice day :D/