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Following on from jen’s startling revelation that a friend seems to have taken umbrage with a birthday wish not being expressed via Facebook, has the Internet (and in particular social networking) reached the point of hypersensitivity?
Has “netiquette” become all consuming.. to almost ludicrous levels?
A lot is being said and printed nowadays regarding “Internet Trolls” and the amount of online abuse encountered by many. Does this factor in to a disproportionate amount of offence being taken on the web? Ranging from seemingly trivial examples such as caps usage to the number of Xs offered upon greeting to jen’s unfortunate episode and beyond?
What do you think?Yes i think it can be hyper sensitive, from debates, to x’s to indeed the likes of jen’s instance with her friend. She gave her friend a present and card but the fact she didnt duplicate it on face book seems utterly absured and very highly sensitive.
As for the trolls, getting abuse from someone on the net constantly is very unpleasant, so i wouldnt see that as sensitive, but sometimes especially in the chat rooms people do fire off at the most silly comments, that i don’t think would happen in a real life situation. We can’t see how the person means something from voice, facial expressions and body language i suppose, but maybe we should try and laugh it off more see the positives rather than always looking for a negative within.I was quite a latecomer to facebook. I could see the point of social media for people whose friends and family were spread around the country (or indeed world!) but I didn’t see the point for me as all my friends are close by. Eventually I opened a facebook account because I could see the benefit to having a business page to keep my customers updated on news.
I really didn’t expect to use it for personal use but slowly my friends started to find me via my email address and send me friends requests. My first faux pas…not accepting them straight away! Phone calls or emails…
“Have I done something to upset you?”
“No, why would you think you have?”
“Well you haven’t accepted my friend request”
“Oh…but I’m only planning to use it for business use.”
“Oh go on, accept me, you don’t have to post anything but it will be fun….”
…and so I did.Next faux pas…not updating my relationship status to show my connection to Mr Jen (we both only intended to use it for business and tend to keep personal stuff and business stuff separate)…
“Are you two still together?”
“Yes…why do you ask?”
“You need to update your relationship status then.”
“Ummm…no I don’t.”
“Why not? are you on the pull then? or ashamed of him?” :shock:Next faux pas…not accepting game requests and not playing games…nuff said!
Next faux pas…not putting photos of holidays, nights out, my new pot plant, my toenail clippings etc online…
“Anyone would think you never go anywhere or do anything!”And now the latest faux pas…not realising that wishing someone a happy 40th brithday on their facebook wall shows I’m a good friend more than the greeting card and lovely present that I delivered in person.
When I do post anything on my personal (as opposed to business) facebook wall it tends to be observational, something that’s amused or bemused me enough to want to share it, and it’s analysed to the nth degree for hidden meanings…”Have I upset you?”…”Was that a dig at me?”…”Are you ok? You don’t sound like yourself…”
Meanwhile my friend and her husband have just come back from a 2 week “US Road Trip” (the same friend with the 40th birthday) and for the last 2 weeks we have all been deluged with photos…photos of hotels, swimming pools, meals, coffees, cocktails, the various landmarks that adorn postcards and on and on…495 photos at the last count. I thought “thank god they’re home, no more photos”…except now they’re going through the other 7,000 (yes, 7,000!) photos they’ve taken and promised more photos of their wonderful holiday soon…
I think I’m one end of the Facebook scale, they’re the opposite end. It just seems to me to be a sign of insecurity, a need to join in a big popularity contest…who can get the most “friends”, who can get the most “likes”, who can portray the most wonderful life but the insecurity comes through in the over-analysis of comments made. People put far too much in the public domain, often more than they would share in person, then feel vulnerable hence the overreactions. What happened to privacy, dignity, self-respect?
Do you want to add me as a friend on facebook Jen? :lol:
@a certain sadness wrote:
Do you want to add me as a friend on facebook Jen? :lol:
Depends…are you going to post pics of your chickenpox spots? :lol:
:shock:
Im allergic to penicillin and country and western music so i was hoping it was an allergy. But doctor wyzvolwolski thinks not.
Anyway we are straying and Pepper might be cursing us both even though i gave him a winner today.
grr certain u cudda told me i had 7 losers :twisted:
Facebook is the spawn of evil and I refuse to have it despite being begged endlessly by friends. Mostly for the reasons Jen highlighted, it has its uses but I much prefer picking up the phone and calling a friend or meeting them. It suits some people, just not me I’m afraid.
Been using this neat system over the last week. ive had 8 winners out of 10 since last friday.
Let me know if you want it, the system that is :lol:
I so want it Cert [-o<
Grrr I’m raging I didn’t get to follow through on your tip earlier. Cheers for the heads up anyway.
What price was it?
I’ve been having a torrid time of it of late :? .. Picking up a couple here and there on the golf and football, but has to be my worst year yet for horses :evil:
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