Name-changers and Sociopaths

@kent f OBE wrote:

Just to clear the record I did not even ackknowledge anc that day in the room…I have certainly never called her skank….I never acknowledge or comment on anything she says….I do know who called her a skank though…..however she is saying she isn’t nasty back? Her post directed at me shows she is…we can all stand our corner……it would help if some actually made sense in the process…..

and also to clear the record further….whoever Thin texts and accuses anything of about anyone has nothing to do with me either…I never told or tell him to text anyone or accuse anyone ….funny thing about some of the postings in this thread is….how contradictory…..post directed at me was accsuing me of bullying but ended with a threat….hilarious :lol: :lol:

and….no I wont lose sleep over it…just because someone types something in here does not mean it’s true no matter how you dress it up …add sprinkles and package it…..

now……how old are we again? :lol:

What a load of complete and utter rubbish – loads of peeps saw it Kenty! :shock:

@mrs_teapot wrote:

My post wasn’t directed at anyone… it was an observation about life really and how what seem to be significant happenings here really have no impact on our “real” lives. I have no idea what happens in chat which makes my life even more of a confusion than it already is :D

Blonde… its allowed :D

I know Mrs T….my post wasn’t directed at you either….I was merely stating facts…..however I will have to stand by my original reason for the poster to be “seeing” things :lol:

Sorry but ………

Can you both not chalk it up and move on???

Anc and Kenty … you both have different versions of what happened … neither said anything while the other attacked?

That’s B S …… I saw it all unfold and you both had your say!

We all know who made the skank comment and I’m sure as eggs is eggs she wont give a fig about having said it ….. because at the time …. i think you was being less than polite to her anc!

If you must behave the way you do ….. accept you had a part in it and deal with it rather than wasting time trying to be the victim ….. we’re all ars es at time ….. this i know from experience!

Now … I need to sleep ….. I am as you know – the wrong side of 40 and I cant party all night like i could ……

Sweet dreams all x

Oh the irony of how this thread has developed given the content of the opening post…

@omalleythealleycat wrote:

To my mind, there are three distinct categories of, for want of a better phrase, destructive chatters.

The Abusers
Those who have an overwhelming desire to be ‘known’ – but possess none of the attributes required to achieve this by conventional means. It can be very effective. There are several chatters I’ve never actually seen in chat – but I do know of them. Job done as far as they’re concerned, they’ve earned their notoriety. In a way, I feel sorry for them.. but I guess there’s not much we can do by way of helping them. You can’t give people a personality that others warm to.

The Ego Trippers
These are generally ‘thrill of the chase’ characters. It’s all about them ‘winning’ something. Actual goals vary from Tripper to Tripper. For some, it may be enough to gain your confidence. Others may need to win your heart. Some may consider themselves to have won only if they get you into bed. In any case, the motivation remains the same. Often, the Tripper will lose interest in you as soon as the ‘win’ has been achieved and may even resort to abuse in order to expedite a separation. Occasionally, Ego Trippers will engineer arguments over nothing, because to them your forgiveness constitutes another win. In the final reckoning, it was, is and never will be about you.

The Dreamers
There’s no harm in having dreams – not even in trying to pass off those dreams as reality, if that’s what floats your boat. The problem occurs when they bring other people into their fake reality. When they have you invest time, effort and become emotionally attached to what is, ultimately, a lie. I personally believe that the majority of such people aren’t fully aware of the harm they’re doing, at least not whilst they’re doing it. To some extent, their feelings towards you are true and genuine. I think they’re probably almost as upset as the other party when the ‘relationship’ reaches its inevitable conclusion.

There is one further type of chatter that often causes grief – but through no fault of their own. These are the people that just have the knack of making almost anybody they speak to feel special. It’s not intentional, it’s effortless, but it’s very powerful. These are the people who are genuinely taken aback when someone they considered a friend, or perhaps just a fellow chatter, suddenly declares deep feelings for them. Again, there’s little they can do to avoid this – and nor should they have to, given they are just being themselves.

Finally.. To Su.. I don’t really know you beyond a few words in chat, but you strike me as being a friendly, intelligent and fun person. When one person betrays another in the manner your post suggests, then I believe there is only ever one loser. Who is most likely to find true, lasting friendship or love – the trusting, trustworthy, loving, caring and loyal person or the one who, whatever their motivation, chooses to lie, cheat and betray? Who will ultimately live the happier life? I know who my money would be on :)

May I take the liberty of adding a category?

The Tornados
Easily confused with The Abusers but these people don’t care whether they are “known” or not. These are people who have no desire to chat but have a need to be rid of all the anger that is festering inside them and has been added to throughout the day. They sign in and immediately start berating anyone and everyone. They are oblivious to any response that doesn’t allow them to further vent their anger, they will carry on until their anger is spent then disappear as quickly as they appeared. They have no concern for the people they have abused, the carnage they have left behind, to them it’s just words on a screen, meaningless. In real life they are probably the yes-men (and women) in their office, at home, socially. They may well be “The Pleasers” in their real life, known as such nice calm, charming people…little do their friends and acquaintances know that their anger with having to be nice mounts throughout the day and that they get rid of all their anger in chatrooms. Nothing you can do about them but put them on ignore and let them vent their spleens to their heart’s content.