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Great post Su. However, I am not sure if people who behave without empathy on the net could all be classed as sociopaths. There is a dehumanising element to using the net. I am trying to think of something to compare it to, and as its late and my brain is tired, all I can think of right now is people who steal or mug people. They break into people’s houses and ransack them, or knock them down in the street and take their belongings. They dont’ care about the people they are stealing from, don’t know them, don’t want to know them. It is all very impersonal. If they are later confronted by their victims, face to face, and hear what effect their actions have had, and if their victims become real to them, they are ashamed (or at least that is what we are led to believe). Apparently they are less likely to reoffend. So is it just thoughtlessness? Fun? The misguided view that the people they come across on the net are in some way .. not real people?
Who knows.
I don’t know what happened to you Su, but I am glad that whatever has upset you so badly has not broken your spirit.
It is trite to say, “well its just the internet, its just words on a screen”. But I do believe that if people are too deeply affected by the c rap that is kicked up on the net, they would do well to switch off for a while. Sociopaths and internet trouble makers may not have off buttons, but computers do.
sighs…. that was the biggest load of pish you ever claimed mims ! so su is to therefore press the OFF button ? you know damm well one of your main Friends is one of the biggest stalkers here? thing is yer dagger is not the Main man ! ok your tired. but WHY should folks cower! and switch off ?
Dagger and joker have been quiet recently, as has Doa himself. Thats the thing , when the main givers of abuse go quiet, it opens up another avenue for wannabes.and therefore much sadder folks,to step into the breach. a negative attention is better than none, to some Sad Fvckers.:evil:
Gosh Im here so early… cant sleep. I was thinking about Sue’s post and wondering if there are any solutions…. if there is anything we could all do to try stop the hurt abusers cause.
I dont think there are any easy solutions but one thing occurred to me… perhaps It would be helpful if people stopped enabling bad behaviour… just because they haven’t picked you out specifically… yet….. does not make it OK… saying well he is always OK with me and I take as I find isn’t good enough… maybe we should operate a zero tolerance on these people… Im not sure how that could manifest itself…..
Maybe there are some simple solutions…. we just need to have a united front… ideas anyone?
:D Glad she got me to tell her to tell ‘it’ or ‘them’ to feck right orf!!!
When you booking your flights girlie?!! lmao
I agree with all that has been said, however, I think everyone – hate to be feminist, but ‘it’/’them’ does tend to prey on the ‘newbies’, of which, like everyone knows, you are niaive when you first come into jc.
Good for you to bung it in here, and, you always know where I am – thank god you never know what I am wearing, but I do think you know I am female, so no need to ask asl eh?? rofl!
Basically, in a nut shell, my motto is (feck right orf naturally) – DELETE AND BLOCK
mwa mwa xxx
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@mrs_teapot wrote:
Gosh Im here so early… cant sleep. I was thinking about Sue’s post and wondering if there are any solutions….
The chatroom is far better than it used to be. The ignore button is brilliant and I use it a lot. Termy and myself have competitions to see who can ignore the most people during any particular chat session.
The main room in chat still has people ‘giving it large’ though. I know it’s distressing to have someone saying stuff about you and not being able to do anything about it. But what’s the solution? Tracking IP numbers and banning them? Definitely.
The messageboards need moderating too. If you don’t moderate them and remove unwanted comments you’ll end up with something similar to pats’ place and what a disaster that’d be.
Well said Su xxxx
My motto is …. don’t let anyone get close online unless you are very very sure who they are! Time is a great revealer!
I agree about the bullies …..you can’t let them take over and affect what YOU want to do …. the fact that you are still around proves you have won and are most definitely the better person. Believe in who you are – friendly, funny and kind (cept when you nick my beanbag!!)
xxxx =D>Chin up Su…very brave and heart touching post
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@kent f OBE wrote:
Chin up Su…very brave and heart touching post
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Hmmmm, very interesting, I actually think you are one-two faced biatch – bullying me with Tracey in the lobby this morning, and what is even worse, is the peeps who normally say hi to me, jump on the band-wagon -weaklings! Nice the peeps tho’ who could recognise what the two of you were doing (I had some very nice pm’s)!!
At least I don’t suck-up, and can stand my ground without having to ring/m s n someone else to back me up!
Bullying is obviously not just reserved to those who are doing it – good job I am my personality and can take it – there are, however, some, who can’t!!!!! :evil:
ps, edited ‘cos I put too many e’s in weaklings and not enough in Traceeeeeeeeey
Oh, forgot something, which is fairly important to those who wonder why I have typed the above, being called a skank is not very nice!
Very hard dance to learn btw!!! :lol:
@rubyred wrote:
sighs…. that was the biggest load of pish you ever claimed mims ! so su is to therefore press the OFF button ? you know damm well one of your main Friends is one of the biggest stalkers here? thing is yer dagger is not the Main man ! ok your tired. but WHY should folks cower! and switch off ?
Dagger and joker have been quiet recently, as has Doa himself. Thats the thing , when the main givers of abuse go quiet, it opens up another avenue for wannabes.and therefore much sadder folks,to step into the breach. a negative attention is better than none, to some Sad Fvckers.:evil:
Its not pish rubes…. it is simple truth. If online folks cause you aggro, and you cannot deal with it, take it too seriously or are too hurt by what is going on, then of course people should give it a rest until some form of perspective returns. Stalking on the net is a form of bullying that you can avoid. Try avoiding bullying in the workplace! On the net, you can block and ignore and delete and if that fails.. yes, switch off.
Online, just as in the real world, we cannot expect everyone to like us and we in turn cannot expect to like everyone we come across. It just isn’t possible. There are also some very mentally disturbed people using the net, vulnerable people and people who have persecution complexes and the like. Sites like this, facebook etc, they feed into people’s paranoia if it exists in the first place.
The bottom line is.. if you can’t take the heat, get out of the fire. I do think this site tries to moderate and keep scum to a minimum, and they take acusations of stalking and the like seriously. But when you get people falsely accusing others of stalking and abusing them, when in fact they have just been dumped or scorned, how can this site deal with the real cases? There are plenty of people trouble making and lying for the hell of it. Things are not always what they seem. And I know I didn’t moderate for very long, but I was very aware of that happening when I was doing the job.
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