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I have just watched this channel 4 fly on the wall documentary. At times i wanted to shake kate (the mum) and at times i understood perfectly the support she was giving her daughter hannah, even to the giving money so that her daughter would not go through the horrors of needing a fix, giving her money and going with her to make sure when she bought her ‘fix’ she would be safe.
I watched her kate make sure that the 21st birthday presents she bought for hannah couldnt be sold for money to buy drugs
I watched as kate gave her child what she wanted in a desperate desperate effort not to alienate hannah from her
I watched as she explained her husband was for the ‘tough love’ option, cutting this child off, setting her free to destroy her life and hoping there was a life maybe to pick up again in the future.
I watched and thought there but for the grace of god go I
I watched and now i’m drained and feeling very very grateful that I am not having to make the decisions this mum is having to make, to help feed her childs habit so as not to alienate her?
I watched and i wondered, did feeding and giving into her daughters every whim make her feel more needed as her mum, was she just trying to hold on to the child she had given birth to, and actually revelling in the need that hannah had for her?
I watched and thought, who am I too judge?
I watched it too and it gave a great insight into that dark and murky world.
I think she is doing the best she can under the circumstances she is in. If she disowned her altogether she would be dead by now.
Im so glad she is off to a different country for her re-hab this time and I look forward to the catch up program in spring.
Im wondering if the whole of them should move far away from Brighton altogether when she returns though… too many temptations if she comes back to all those familiar surroundings.
Shame isnt it… seems like such a likeable girl with a mum lots would kill for.
Oh I see it too…god! I dunno what too say bout this…but all I can say is this….Drugs is so
easy too get hold of..and kids try it , just for the sake of it! We all av probs..but not everyone goes down that avenue..I have…I will hold me hands up! and im 42…didnt do it when i was youger…but yep iv done it! and it does ruin your life! BUT!!! there is help out
there! But its true when they say the addictive isnt the bad one, if you see what I mean..yeah they should never have tried it..but I did..and if your low, its so easy too go down the wrong road! So alot of you arnt gonna agree with me , but I think there should
be a (little) more help available! Ok Im ready for being told im wrong, Bring it on! I wont argue wiv ya!I think that’s very sensible.
@prettypink wrote:
Oh I see it too…god! I dunno what too say bout this…but all I can say is this….Drugs is so
easy too get hold of..and kids try it , just for the sake of it! We all av probs..but not everyone goes down that avenue..I have…I will hold me hands up! and im 42…didnt do it when i was youger…but yep iv done it! and it does ruin your life! BUT!!! there is help out
there! But its true when they say the addictive isnt the bad one, if you see what I mean..yeah they should never have tried it..but I did..and if your low, its so easy too go down the wrong road! So alot of you arnt gonna agree with me , but I think there should
be a (little) more help available! Ok Im ready for being told im wrong, Bring it on! I wont argue wiv ya!its drawing the line between it being a “social” drug to an out and out addiction. We all start with being social beings. like any addiction from cigarettes,drink or the odd quid in the puggy machine in a pub. yeah i tried it all back in the day, but i was not particularily fond of the effects of tuinal and mogadon, that were favoured, back then. the 3 blues for a pound were more me , and many a night id listen to lou Reeds “Berlin” while speeding out my nut.
It was the knowing when to stop. and i have seen many MANY pals die of AIDS with injecting. all good looking , good people.. i can safely say Hand on heart,that the old Northern Soul crew are mostly dead from that damm virus. And i thought quite smugly, that i was glad it was never me. Ya assume life moves on,, and it does. but for every generation, there are a new breed of drug users. That maybe do NOT have the self assurance to stop.
I took ectasy with my own son ! I had them warned that if they wanted to try it to tell me. i took away the street corner mentality, the post Rebellion. He trusted me, I felt like a theif in the night scoring E’s :) what a fooking laugh LOL ( sorry) .. ;) but he has never really wanted it since,as i took away the mystery of it all.
Some mothers would be horrified by this admission. Id rather have nown he was with me and safe.than downing rat poison from some buckshee dealer !
cocaine/base is THAT trendy that its all over toilets seats ! 50 a gram ffs.. ! My daughter once told me !”MUM everyone IS ON IT” And i assumed she was exagerrating. ! I find myself talking to peers my own age group. with the tell tale signs. The nervous sniff, and how everything seems most interesting !! I admit to having the odd line.
It doesnt make me big,and certainly NOT clever. but i dont pay for it.
Dont beat yourself up Pip.
Yet i cannot imagine having a child hooked on heroin, who started innocently enough,and it felt good. I cant even fathom self injecting,as one that faints giving a blood sample. ID go off me head getting them help to beat this..
and as Cath said at the very beginning.. ” there for the grace of god..”.
No clear cut answers really. and no magic wands.
DRUGS DO KILL .
There but for the Grace of God…..
never judge
just be thankfulI’d have locked her away from the drugs forced her to quit
@cath 55 wrote:
I watched and thought, who am I to judge?
exactly Cath, and there are no ‘soft’ options in such a scenario. Just a mum praying that she’s doing the right thing
the mum made me cross, but it was heartbreaking that even a girl with so much support could not find access to the services she needed
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