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@taffygirl wrote:
Lucy – what a beautiful idea to create a safe space to share the pain and emptiness of trying to celebrate this holiday while coping with the grief of loss. I am sorry there are those who have attempted to make a mockery of your effort.
I am raw with pain at the loss of my husband and keep these feeling inside as to not dampen the spirit of the season for others around me, especially my children. But every night I go to bed I cry. There are times I can barely make it though supper so that I can retreat the safety of my room to sob into my pillow as to not be heard. I know there are others who feel the same way and are supportive. I enjoy the times in chat when things are lighthearted and fun and I can just dissociate for a little while and forget about the real world.
I know there are others out there who are hurting too and I cringe each time I see cruelty typed in the room but the good seems to outweigh the bad and I think I am finally able to brush off the slag attempts at myself though I still bristle and confront the nastiness towards others and not always in the most charitable manner.
I guess what I am saying is kudos for your lovely idea and safe or not I feel better for unloading that. Thank you honey and Merry Christmas to you. xxxx
Thankyou Taffy……….and I don’t waste my ink giving the trolls a reply they can rant on all they want and make themselves look pathetic……..I’m sorry for your loss taffs Christmas is suposed to be a happy time but so many ppl suffer heart break, stay strong and Merry Christmas to you too xxxxx
Thank you J and Lucy for the kind words – happy holidays to you both xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
8 years today I was attending my father’s funeral…it’s a surreal experience, grieving and planning funerals one minute, going to parties and trying to be happy and cheerful the next, going shopping for a black jacket for the funeral and red shoes for a party, getting back to the hotel in my funeral clothes thinking all I want is a JD and coke and finding a Christmas party in full swing in the bar. What did I do? Go up to my room and change then join the party of course, it’s what the old man would have wanted :wink:
Hugs to everyone missing loved ones, let’s raise a glass to them on Christmas Day xx
jen – I have always thought a funeral should be a celebration – a celebration of the life of the person who is no longer here – so putting on the gladrags and having a good time despite the loss was the perfect thing to do
Both my parents are no longer here but they still are very close to me and I feel their presence simply because of the people they were and you obviously feel the same with your father – cheers to him
Actually J, Today I was buying fireworks for a New Year party and the guy was telling me they are selling more and more fireworks for funerals…… have to admit seems peculiar to me but he assured me funeral celebrations were becoming more and more popular :? Takes all sorts I suppose.
My view Mrs T is that when someone lives a rich and full life they touch the hearts of many people.
When their time comes the people they have touched realise the impact those people have had on their lives.
To me it is not a time to be sad but a time to celebrate the person who has made that impact on your life
A firework display I think is a great idea
For me – and hopefully not for a while yet – I hope everyone gets to enjoy a really good glass of red to cheer me on my way
@janus wrote:
Lay off the drugs then toy your paranoid and nasty. Flipper won’t be with you much longer. We’ve all seen that coming.
Hi Dora . . . . how’s things ? are you good ?
OH THANKS, but I really don’t need to worry about trivial things such as important family relationships.
Because if I ever had to then I’d just simply check on your posts for an important update!You big fount of wisdom you.
x.
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