Missing loved ones at christmas time

@toybulldog wrote:

and Santa,

Help me to ignore this self-serving crap that might impress other people ,because I’d really like my kids to be slightly normal.

thanks santa

But Toy darling ..with a dad like you …………… :lol:

I have been laid awake for hours thinking of a time when you were here, and all of us were one big happy family excited and looking forward to Christmas, your first, this one would have been your 18th and sadly you can not be here with us, i have been thinking about My mum as well tonight i have put your present under the tree as i do every year its the very first one i bought you, sadly you never got to open it, and picture in a tiny framed decoration and hung it on the Christmas tree so you can be part of this with us
We are all feeling so empty with out you here, so we will remember you both with fondness and wish you both a Merry Christmas
I am gonna share a song with you all it shows how i feel about loosing him and my mum :( :( :(
Sweet Dreams My little AngelBabe and Mum look after him for me till i get there
xxxxxxx

@jen_jen wrote:

Dear Santa,

Can you please give the pretentious, up their own arses, judgemental people who think making sarky comments at others makes them look clever a pair of blinkers so they can ignore the posts that so obviously offend them and allow them to concentrate on their own self-preening.

Those that have gone ahead that I miss so much already know but they’d better be planning my welcoming party for when I eventually join them…hopefully later rather than sooner!

Thank you (and please just drink the sherry in the glass and not the whole bottle this year)
xx

well said jen

Lucy – what a beautiful idea to create a safe space to share the pain and emptiness of trying to celebrate this holiday while coping with the grief of loss. I am sorry there are those who have attempted to make a mockery of your effort.

I am raw with pain at the loss of my husband and keep these feeling inside as to not dampen the spirit of the season for others around me, especially my children. But every night I go to bed I cry. There are times I can barely make it though supper so that I can retreat the safety of my room to sob into my pillow as to not be heard. I know there are others who feel the same way and are supportive. I enjoy the times in chat when things are lighthearted and fun and I can just dissociate for a little while and forget about the real world.

I know there are others out there who are hurting too and I cringe each time I see cruelty typed in the room but the good seems to outweigh the bad and I think I am finally able to brush off the slag attempts at myself though I still bristle and confront the nastiness towards others and not always in the most charitable manner.

I guess what I am saying is kudos for your lovely idea and safe or not I feel better for unloading that. Thank you honey and Merry Christmas to you. xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

@taffygirl wrote:

Lucy – what a beautiful idea to create a safe space to share the pain and emptiness of trying to celebrate this holiday while coping with the grief of loss. I am sorry there are those who have attempted to make a mockery of your effort.

I am raw with pain at the loss of my husband and keep these feeling inside as to not dampen the spirit of the season for others around me, especially my children. But every night I go to bed I cry. There are times I can barely make it though supper so that I can retreat the safety of my room to sob into my pillow as to not be heard. I know there are others who feel the same way and are supportive. I enjoy the times in chat when things are lighthearted and fun and I can just dissociate for a little while and forget about the real world.

I know there are others out there who are hurting too and I cringe each time I see cruelty typed in the room but the good seems to outweigh the bad and I think I am finally able to brush off the slag attempts at myself though I still bristle and confront the nastiness towards others and not always in the most charitable manner.

I guess what I am saying is kudos for your lovely idea and safe or not I feel better for unloading that. Thank you honey and Merry Christmas to you. xxxx

Taffygirl I do not know you nor do I know the one person on my facebook page that I have never met or who I know as a personal friend but who today sadly lost her mother.

The Christmas period is a sad time to lose a close family member as I lost my mother at this time 9 years ago

What I do remember though is that she touched the lives of many people and those people still remember the effect she had on their lives.

I am sure your husband will have touched many lives too