Mcanns under scrutiny

So what do the mcanns do?

go home and forget about it?

serious question here, you dont like them publicising it so what now?

go home and wait?

@token_male wrote:

So what do the mcanns do?

go home and forget about it?

serious question here, you dont like them publicising it so what now?

go home and wait?

IMO they should leave it to the police and stop hampering the investigation

They should take the two remaining kids back to the best degree of normality they can in their own home with their own rooms and possessions, let them be around friends and family and let them try to start living a normal life again BUT with parents that WILL be there for them this time and who will be putting them first and foremost above their social life and personal gains

Nothing more than all three kids SHOULD have been having to begin with really and which had they had it would mean there would most probably still be three of them

Whether they are capable of being conscientious parents nobody knows, but they should IMO at least be trying to be rather than (again IMO) trying to offset guilt by overplaying the “upset parents” not only to ridiculous excess and to the detriment of the two kids they HAVENT lost YET, but also in a rather unconvincing manner anyway so I reckon its time to pack up the showboating ficticious charade and concentrate on actually giving their remaining kids as normal as is possible under the circumstances childhood and grounding of familiarity and stability

Sharon, I can to an extent understand your disdain with a topic like this being meticulously discussed however I also think that people feeling that way about topics like this, paedophillia, rape, DV and countless other “uncomfortable” topics as well as “tedious” ones like childrens disciplines, infidelity and scores of others is part of the reason they are becoming so common place to be honest

A “society” is built on a fabric and framework of fairly standard(ish) ideals and morals which WERE in bygone days learnt without being taught by exposure to extended families and large socially active circles for the most part, where every maturing child would for most of their life be exposed to a mostly working relationship with their parents and others around them, would see childrearing in very finite detail from many members of their own family and other families, would pick up morality, integrity, honour, decency and countless other things by accidental osmosis purely from constant exposure to vast networks of relatively stable family units

Nowadays relationships are treated like video recorders and are thrown away at the merest hint of a problem in many cases, child rearing is often done as and when work socialising and countless other “needs” are met, or is fitted in around other things rather than being a clear and total priority, families are less contiguous and are spread around the country often just assembling for marriages, birthdays and deaths, and social networks are less intrusive and are far less numerous and involved on average

So whereas before the situation WOULD have been rife for indepth discussion on such “icky” topics it wasnt as needed, but also was rarer because of the ick factor, nowadays however I think such topics HAVE to be kicked wide open, meticulously discussed as often and as unemotively as possible as frequently as possible as this not only is the only way people can ever hope to form views based on much wider collections of views and opinions than most will ever socially encounter on a daily basis but it is also becoming one of the last bastions of knowledge and experience exchange as the more traditional methods of passing on viewpoints and social morality are being decimated by modern “mcfamily life”

Not being funny here but as with any tv show, film or anything really that someone doesnt like you dont HAVE to read it, I am sure there are other boards and other threads on here you also avoid like the plague if you dont like football, fishing, deluded people talking about ficticious versions of reality if a relationship breaks down and countless other topics but I bet whilst you dont read them because you dont like them you dont also try to persuade the contributors to not contribute to them because of your lack of interest in the topic, you simply dont bother reading it

And you are right, it wont bring her back, but enough public outcry at her parents behaviour WILL to varying extents hit home with people who MIGHT had this not happened have thought it was equally ok to do the same thing with their kids possibly ending the same way, something that should have been learnt was a complete no-no from more traditional methods I outlined earlier, in lieu of that public discussion and voiced disdain over such shoddy parenting without the touchy feely nonsense silencing such views might, just might prevent someone else reading a thread or hearing a heated arguement from doing the same thing and may make many people realise that crappy selfish parenting WONT as is expected by left wing molly coddling do gooders generate “poor you” sympathy but WILL cause blunt, direct and honest criticism

Whereas avoiding such topics because of their ick factor on the other hand merely perpetuates the likely hood of more and more parents thinking such behaviour is “ok” and if things go wrong they will just get sympathy WHICH our society has created droves of people who are addictied to by nature of our social lack of personal responsibility for our actions and decisions

That, IMO HAS to stop before this country sinks further into the gutter

Now I am not claiming threads such as this are a miracle cure, nothing of the sort. Merely a very small part of a very big change that is needed, but nonetheless IS one tiny positive contribution to an ever increasing social vaccuum of personal responsibility, accountability, integrity, decency, consideration, values, good parenting, solid relationships and countless other things rapidly becoming the stuff of the “good old days”

Nothing changes if nobody changes it

But wasnt your point that YOU dont want to read it?

That point could be more easily applied by not doing so, whereas suggesting other people dont post on it steps outside the criteria for merely expressing a personal view as it seeks to influence other peoples views and actions

Theres a subtle but very distinct difference between asking people if they think the topic SHOULD be discussed and stating that YOU think it shouldnt be any longer

As for “but I was only stating my view” and? You posted the view on a discussion so obviously it will get responses and counter views as that is the nature of “duscussion” so to then get all defensive about those responses is a subtle way of saying “MY posts on the matter should just be accepted and not responded to” if you think about it which again brings me back to the point that IF you didnt want response to your view then rather than excercising it by posting that you dont want to read about a topic anymore surely just not actually reading it anymore is a better path to take?

You didnt actually answer my earlier question, when theres a thread you ALSO dont want to read like one about stamp collecting, football, gaul stone operations or any topic you dont enjoy reading about or joining in discussions with do you also on those threads post that you dont want to read about it and that other people therefore shouldnt post on them anymore? Or as I suspect do you just exercise your preference and not bother reading them?

If the two responses are different why are they different? Because in reality this is no different to any other topic that you dont want to read but others still want to indulge in

Now obviously this is just me, but when I discover similar hypocrisies and double standards that I hadnt realised I did myself I tend to ponder why I do it, what makes me react differently to similar situations and where needed try to correct the lack of integrity and consistency but in all cases its an interesting voyage of self discovery