Ladies Of JC! —Would you? :o

Like Melody said once the trust has gone then there is no relationship, regardless of wot the person has done.

I do believe in giving someone a second chance but i also believe if he has cheated or lied and you forgive him you are basically letting him know its ok for him to do it again.

Tough decision to make Cherrie…good luck!!

I voted NO!!

@cherriepie wrote:

I won’t go into my definition of trust & forgiveness…but..
It’s hard to battle between logic/reason/passion.
Forgiveness is something I truly believe in. I suppose I am able to forgive which doesn’t necessarily mean I have to give someone a second chance. Right?
Does forgiveness mean you are entrusting that person? I mean technically you are forgiving a “mistake” and moving past it. Does that automatically give them the “trust” card again? And if I don’t “trust” this person, does that mean I haven’t really forgiven them?

I feel that as humans, we are possible of anything and nothing concretes a promise. Not even those that haven’t given you a reason not to be trusted can truly be free of betrayal* so in a nut shell, I don’t believe in trust anymore. I do believe in Intention.

*Betrayal can be many things on many levels.

When you forgive, you are forgiving them for the hurt they caused you, not necessarily the mistake. That doesn’t mean that their mistake is now not a mistake, or that you have to give them a second chance, simply that you no longer wish to carry the hurt and have ill feelings towards that person. Forgiveness does not mean that you then automatically trust them again; they have betrayed that trust, now they have to earn it back, but only if you want them to be part of your life again. And being part of your life again does not mean that they must fulfil the same role that they did before the betrayal. A lover doesn’t have to be a lover again to be part of your life, but they can stay in your life as a friend if you chose to let them, but alweays remember that the choice is yours..

Trust and intention are two different things though…it’s saddening when someone loses the ability to trust in anyone because of one person’s actions. For ever person who betrays your trust there will be many more who value and hold your trust dear to them. Those are the people you want to surround yourself with, but thank those that betray your trust for helping you learn the lessons of life, however painful they may be, as they help you appreciate the others that are more worthy of your affection.

Nope. Once someone cheats, that’s it. The trust and love is gone forever.

what kind of cheatin r we talkin about just a kiss or full blown cheatin