It,s in our genes?

ive played sport all my life , i climb mountains , play football , jog 3 miles almost every day , watch me food , scaffold for a living , a mate plays no sport , sits behind a desk , eats like a horse , drinks , im 15 n half stone , hes 12 n half , not always to do with ur lifestyle and what u eat , in ur gene,s to an extent , deffo

@tictax wrote:

why do some women find it acceptable to be totally nasty to celebs that are thin, chat shows , press etc , u hear it ” she looks ill , she looks painfully thin , boney , to name a few , thses ppl wudnt dream of degrading a fat person in this way , they all sympathise,some of these ppl arent goin out of there way to look this way its often disorders etc

I suppose disorders can go both ways.. Make you lose weight, make you put it on.

And, it’s not that they wouldn’t dream of regarding an obese person in that way, it’s just that, critiscising a bigger person, will always seem more insulting than critiscising a thinner person…

Examples: “Oi – Fatty”.. “Oi – Skinny”.. To me, the first appears more insulting..

@pete wrote:

who ate all the pies

Now, what Pete said was directed at the more Obese person,… but yet, if i now say: “Who spewed up all the pies”, now, that would be directed at an anorexic, and in this case, i find that my line was more insulting!.. Funny Ole World!

@woohoo wrote:

@pete wrote:

who ate all the pies

Now, what Pete said was directed at the more Obese person,… but yet, if i now say: “Who spewed up all the pies”, now, that would be directed at an anorexic, and in this case, i find that my line was more insulting!.. Funny Ole World!

If you’re gonna throw insults around at least get your facts right – your line would be directed at someone with bulimia, not anorexia….. :wink:

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@tictax wrote:

why do some women find it acceptable to be totally nasty to celebs that are thin, chat shows , press etc , u hear it ” she looks ill , she looks painfully thin , boney , to name a few

Iif the media wasn’t so obsessed with appearance and highlighting every time an actress puts on 6 or 7 pounds and horror of horrors goes up to a UK size 10, then these women wouldn’t feel the need to be so skinny in the first place, and yes some do take it to extremes and look ill, gaunt and painfully bony – Victoria Beckham being a case in point. Like many women I’d love to be slimmer but that is definitely not a look I aspire to!

@tictax wrote:

thses ppl wudnt dream of degrading a fat person in this way , they all sympathise,some of these ppl arent goin out of there way to look this way its often disorders etc

Of course they degrade fat people in the same way, both in the media and in real life. If a celeb puts on a few pounds or happens to show some cellulite we suddenly have the zoom lense and the comments of how she’s letting herself go, age is telling, etc etc. If some of these celebs are fat, I want to be celeb-obese!

Skinny people and large people both attract attention, both draw comment, and the comments are equally insulting if you are on the receiving end (as someone who has been both ends of the spectrum, I feel qualified to comment there!). The comments can be even more hurtful if the weight issue is as a result of a disorder or illness. Just as one person may be skinny because of anorexia, bulimia, overactive thyroid, cancer and so on, another person may be larger because of comfort eating, an underactive thyroid, medication and so on. Yet people feel free to pass judgement based on appearances and make comments openly even to complete strangers.

Maybe the question is – why do we feel it’s ok to pass judgement on a person about their weight when we barely know them, yet we would never comment in the same way about, say, their acne?