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I DONT say much as you know, but in answer to your question can internet freindships work? of course they can ive got loads of mates men and women,take away the bullshyte from here go to a meet,and most ppl are ok,yep you get the odd exception but hey ho,whatever,anyway lucy your from lancs so you should be able to get on with anybody.
@best man wrote:
I DONT say much as you know, but in answer to your question can internet freindships work? of course they can ive got loads of mates men and women,take away the bullshyte from here go to a meet,and most ppl are ok,yep you get the odd exception but hey ho,whatever,anyway lucy your from lancs so you should be able to get on with anybody.
:) Il take that as a compliment
after much thought…. yeah it CAN work. sad as it may sound, my online pal was the best buddy i would ever meet. I still have a drunken picture of Her and I on a Dresser and folks always ask.. She was from kent and me North east Scotland. we would arrange to meet in the funniest of places. Whitly bay caravan site and in the Middle of Crystal Palace maze. Good god we laughed and sent each other really Naff gifts.we would bombard and yet reply with Poetry..cackle with glee.. yet pour our wee respective hearts out.
I was the wilder one, especially after the loss of someone close to me.. she listened to me and we became pen pals of 14 page missives..One day she appeared on msn and said she was tired. I told her to get checked as it was NOT her.
2 weeks later i got an e-mail from her husband telling me she had 6 weeks to live.. I was on holiday. I came home .packed anothe holdall and headed to Tunbridge wells.. sh died seconds before i got there. man i cursed her for not waiting.. she woould have gotten the joke btw. :)
so Yes. It can happen and I am proud i Knew this Lady.(gulp) Love ye Ju.. x
@rubyred wrote:
after much thought…. yeah it CAN work. sad as it may sound, my online pal was the best buddy i would ever meet. I still have a drunken picture of Her and I on a Dresser and folks always ask.. She was from kent and me North east Scotland. we would arrange to meet in the funniest of places. Whitly bay caravan site and in the Middle of Crystal Palace maze. Good god we laughed and sent each other really Naff gifts.we would bombard and yet reply with Poetry..cackle with glee.. yet pour our wee respective hearts out.
I was the wilder one, especially after the loss of someone close to me.. she listened to me and we became pen pals of 14 page missives..One day she appeared on msn and said she was tired. I told her to get checked as it was NOT her.
2 weeks later i got an e-mail from her husband telling me she had 6 weeks to live.. I was on holiday. I came home .packed anothe holdall and headed to Tunbridge wells.. sh died seconds before i got there. man i cursed her for not waiting.. she woould have gotten the joke btw. :)
so Yes. It can happen and I am proud i Knew this Lady.(gulp) Love ye Ju.. x
Made me cry rubes,… and made me realise that yes for some internet friendships can work. Ruby,,, you should write a book about your internet experiences reading what you say and how you say it is enthralling :?
@mrs_teapot wrote:
@rubyred wrote:
after much thought…. yeah it CAN work. sad as it may sound, my online pal was the best buddy i would ever meet. I still have a drunken picture of Her and I on a Dresser and folks always ask.. She was from kent and me North east Scotland. we would arrange to meet in the funniest of places. Whitly bay caravan site and in the Middle of Crystal Palace maze. Good god we laughed and sent each other really Naff gifts.we would bombard and yet reply with Poetry..cackle with glee.. yet pour our wee respective hearts out.
I was the wilder one, especially after the loss of someone close to me.. she listened to me and we became pen pals of 14 page missives..One day she appeared on msn and said she was tired. I told her to get checked as it was NOT her.
2 weeks later i got an e-mail from her husband telling me she had 6 weeks to live.. I was on holiday. I came home .packed anothe holdall and headed to Tunbridge wells.. sh died seconds before i got there. man i cursed her for not waiting.. she woould have gotten the joke btw. :)
so Yes. It can happen and I am proud i Knew this Lady.(gulp) Love ye Ju.. x
Made me cry rubes,… and made me realise that yes for some internet friendships can work. Ruby,,, you should write a book about your internet experiences reading what you say and how you say it is enthralling :?
I agree Mrs T – I love reading what rubes has to say, although this one was bitter sweet :( Bless ya Rubes x
(((((((( hugs rubes )))))))) xxxx
Yes online friendships can work if both people are honest and neither are role-playing and pretending to be something they’re not and neither has a hidden agenda. They are of course different in nature to real-life friendships, but friendships none the less.
I got bitten quite badly early on in my chat life and find it hard to trust or let anyone close online now. I’m a regular chatter but I doubt that many would say I’m a friend. However sometimes someone will get passed my barriers and I’d say I now have 3 people that I consider online friends rather than just fellow chatters. One of those I know would move heaven and earth to help me or be with me if I needed it, and I the same for them.
I do wish though that people wouldn’t air their dirty linen and all their grievances in the chatroom when people fall out and an online friendship comes to an end…dignity and self respect seem to go out of the window with the friendship and self-rightousness and venom comes flooding in and put on display for all to see. :(
@rubyred wrote:
after much thought…. yeah it CAN work. sad as it may sound, my online pal was the best buddy i would ever meet. I still have a drunken picture of Her and I on a Dresser and folks always ask.. She was from kent and me North east Scotland. we would arrange to meet in the funniest of places. Whitly bay caravan site and in the Middle of Crystal Palace maze. Good god we laughed and sent each other really Naff gifts.we would bombard and yet reply with Poetry..cackle with glee.. yet pour our wee respective hearts out.
I was the wilder one, especially after the loss of someone close to me.. she listened to me and we became pen pals of 14 page missives..One day she appeared on msn and said she was tired. I told her to get checked as it was NOT her.
2 weeks later i got an e-mail from her husband telling me she had 6 weeks to live.. I was on holiday. I came home .packed anothe holdall and headed to Tunbridge wells.. sh died seconds before i got there. man i cursed her for not waiting.. she woould have gotten the joke btw. :)
so Yes. It can happen and I am proud i Knew this Lady.(gulp) Love ye Ju.. x
Awww bless u Ruby <3 thats so sad, ur lucky 2 av met such a good friend xxx
@jen_jen wrote:
(((((((( hugs rubes )))))))) xxxx
Yes online friendships can work if both people are honest and neither are role-playing and pretending to be something they’re not and neither has a hidden agenda. They are of course different in nature to real-life friendships, but friendships none the less.
I got bitten quite badly early on in my chat life and find it hard to trust or let anyone close online now. I’m a regular chatter but I doubt that many would say I’m a friend. However sometimes someone will get passed my barriers and I’d say I now have 3 people that I consider online friends rather than just fellow chatters. One of those I know would move heaven and earth to help me or be with me if I needed it, and I the same for them.
I do wish though that people wouldn’t air their dirty linen and all their grievances in the chatroom when people fall out and an online friendship comes to an end…dignity and self respect seem to go out of the window with the friendship and self-rightousness and venom comes flooding in and put on display for all to see. :(
I like some of the points u make ere jen iv also been bitten with someone who had a false persona, however i b lame myself cuz i kinda knew all along that sumit wasnt quite rite, on the other hand iv got a couple of ppl ere that i wud consider good friends and we do intend meetin up and wen friends fall out in main i just think that if a friendship can cease and turn so nasty then it was never real in the first place x
Good question Lucy.
Ruby, thanks for sharing your experience…sorry the way it ended, but you got to have a good friend so… :)
For me, I’ve been chatting on and off for about 12 years or so now – originally used a site that was message board only and it began my addiction with online pontificating :)
The site that I originally used, I met some good friends on. Chatted to many aquaintances (same as here) but also was lucky enough to come away with a handful of good friends who I see regularly and the friendships survived the transition from ‘online chatting’ to what I think is termed ‘real life friendships’ :wink: For me, personally, friendships can be real both on and offline…anyway, that’s another story.
There are again a handful of people here who I would term as friends, although have never met them, and probably won’t…not for any reason in particular but I think that doesn’t make the ‘friendship’ any less real…
I guess you do need to be careful and not become mates with Uncle Tom and Harry, although am sure we’ve all been friends with a few Richard’s at some point!
I would hate to become someone who’s always suspicious of others, someone who has to check people out constantly and ask a million and one questions…I like to believe if someone is genuine – it will show through…we’ll all get burnt at some point, it’s a case of trying not to let it cloud the future friendships you may have/which can develop (here and in the dreaded real life scenarios too).
Having said that…I do like odd people :P
I think yes some internet friendships can work, im lucky because 8 of my best friends i have met from chatting, and one of them even proves that men and women can be just friends. Ive even had one internet friendship that survived despite it having been based on lies because at the end of the day i could see past it and see the person who was my friend, and start again based on truth.
On the other hand, ive also had internet friendships that weren’t real friendships, i was being used because im a good listener and i noticed that there are some people who only talk to me if there is no one else around and if im being honest, those are the people i don’t lose sleep over.
I will say one thing though, i won’t let the false friends put me off, because my 8 best friends mean the world to me and i wouldn’t be without them. I also don’t blame people who want to retain some privacy as they get to know me, its all about trust in the end isn’t it, and, do you let a few false people hold you back from finding the people who genuinely want to be your friend.
Just Saying x
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