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This is from our local newspaper, it is written by a pupil of a local school, i was actually impressed enough with his thinking to post and share it here!
“is it selfish for someone to become a mum at 66 years old ?”
Contrast.. 2 mothers in the news recently, one young, 27 and the other 66 year old Elizabeth Ardeney, who was 66 when she gave birth to her first child. I can’t help thinking there is something wrong with having a baby at 66.
First of all it’s not biologically possible without intervention, so is it “natural”? She is a single mum will she have the energy to look after the baby?
Then the limited life expectancy, odds being the child won’t have a mum in his teens and early adulthood…… isn;t 66 just a bit selfish ?
i’m not saying she will be a bad mother though, the younger mother i was referring to earlier is baby P’s mum.
The suffering inflicted on Baby P is distressing and he would have infinitely better off with Elizabeth Ardeney wouldn’t he ?
so my point is, perhaps we shouldn’t focus all our attention on the time someone has with their mum, more on what their mum puts into the time she has with their child. i know who’s son i’d rather be.I have left out some of the padding in the article, but i was impressed the way he made the contrast, i know i for sure would just have told of the selfishness and wrong doing of what Elizabeth Ardeney did having a baby at that age, but this young man makes a damn good point, i guess it is down to quality rather than quantity as with many things in life, and i’m sure there isn’t one of us that wouldn’t, if in that situation, have chosen Elizabeth Ardeney versus Baby P’s mother, to be our mum.
Chances are he wont reach 14 before his mother is dead though… thats not exactly quality either
I agree Poli, good points made by the young man in question.
I was, well still am lol, an older mum. I was judged by the ‘younger’ mums at the school gates etc etc. My son nearly 21 now, he doesn’t seem to have suffered due to it. He is in fact an intelligent, articulate young man, who I happen to be very proud of :wink:
I take all those points on board.
Personally though, and I can only speak for myself, I sailed through my pregnancy, was never healthier.
There is a natural cut off point for women called the menopause, after that theres intervention. Who’s to say who’s right and who’s wrong, but as the young man who wrote article implied, baby P would have had a much better chance in life with the 60+ mum than with the one he had.
I’m not saying a 60+ mum is wrong or right, sitting on the fence I spose, if you like. Only people who really know is themselves. There are some 60+ who are a lot fitter than some pple in their 20’s!!
If it’s natural then fine, and even some help with younger women who cant conceive, but at 66 it’s just laughing in natures face and it’s not right it’s not meant to be it’s pontentially lethal for the mother and her child could easily be an orphan at 4 yr old especially if the childbirth takes something out of a system thats already on the decline
@pete wrote:
If it’s natural then fine, and even some help with younger women who cant conceive, but at 66 it’s just laughing in natures face and it’s not right it’s not meant to be it’s pontentially lethal for the mother and her child could easily be an orphan at 4 yr old especially if the childbirth takes something out of a system thats already on the decline
I understand that the statistics are higher in older parents, but children can be left orphaned by younger parents too, tragic accidents happen.
I think, and my doc thought too at the time, that I fell pregnant with Mike at start of my menopause. I’d been married almost 18 years, wasn’t because we didn’t want kids, it just didn’t happen, then the year i turned 40 I found myself pregnant. He’s best thing ever happened to me.
Ive no doubt he is Cas, and i’m not remotely suggesting “older” mums should terminate, thats not right, but to actively seek to become pregnant at 66 smacks of more money than sense both on her part and that of the clinic.
@pete wrote:
Ive no doubt he is Cas, and i’m not remotely suggesting “older” mums should terminate, thats not right, but to actively seek to become pregnant at 66 smacks of more money than sense both on her part and that of the clinic.
Thing is tho Pete, whether we like it or not, it’s something thats available these days, and people are living longer too these days.
To be honest Pete, I have much more of an issue with people like Madonna and all these other celebrities adopting these kids from africa and god knows where else. Whats that all about, making some kind of a statement? Ok, these kids might well deserve a better life, is a better life tho, being left with a team of nannies while she tours the world with her shows? I do wonder
Yeah cant say i agree with that she’s more buying them than adopting and lets face it the publicity cant be bad.
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