IF YOUR CHILD WAS?IS BEING BULLIED……what advice/action ?

I was bullied throughout school, to this day I still hate raised voices, words hurt me far more than physical pain. i can only remember being hit once by my mum, my dad used to have a wooden spoon at the dinner table, I respected adults and never, ever answered back.
My daughter goes to kung fu, she is taught self respect and values but is also taught how to protect herself, I honestly, hand on heart would rather she flattened someone bullying her than walked away because I`m sorry sometimes it is the only language bullies understand. Sometimes it`s kill or be killed, hit or be hit. i`m not saying it`s right to throw your weight around, in fact, far from it, just that sometimes fair play and decency doesn`t come into it. I turned the other cheek to not shame my parents, where in fact I think I should have stood up for what was right.
It`s a sad fact there are, and always will be bullies all the time there are people that allow it.

If the bullying is taking place at school or is school-related … report it to the school. If it continues, report it again to the school. Encourage your child to keep a record of what happened/was said, when, where and who witnessed it. Schools can deal with bullying if they have the information. Pupils who continue to bully can be permanently excluded eventually. In my experience they usually stop straight away or move on to another victim (who should also report the bullying!).
It is very frustrating when parents contact school to say their child has been bullied for months, but cannot give any names/places or details. I have known parents phone to say there is a bullying issue, but won’t even give their name!!!
As regards hitting back – most schools will punish a pupil who uses physical violence, even in self defence. Far better to walk away and tell an adult, who can deal with it without resorting to violence.
Outside of school – contact the police if it is physical violence or cyber bullying. Also, if it is cyber bullying, print off evidence and then block the bully.

Just seen this on facebook and liked it.

A teacher in New York was teaching her class about bullying and gave them the following exercise to perform.
She had the children take a piece of paper and told them to crumple it up, stamp on it and really mess it up but do not rip it. Then she had them unfold the paper, smooth it out and look at how scarred and dirty is was.
She then told them to tell it they’re sorry. Now even though they said they were sorry and tried to fix the paper, she pointed out all the scars they left behind. And that those scars will never go away no matter how hard they tried to fix it. That is what happens when a child bully’s another child, they may say they’re sorry but the scars are there forever. The looks on the faces of the children in the classroom told her the message hit home.
Pass it on or better yet, if you’re a parent or a teacher, do it with your child/children.