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At this moment, how do you feel about your life?
Do you love it?
Do you hate it?What would you change if you could? (and why can’t you?)
What wouldn’t you change if you could?What are your favorite things about your life?
What do you miss the most.C’mon… be genuine with me… the weather’s fine..
Ok, I will go first — test the waters, if you will. :)
At this moment, at midnight-thirty, I am happy with my life. Really, really happy. Sated. Comfortable.
Yes, I love my life — but it *IS* busy..
No, I don’t hate it, but I have certainly had time when my life when I did.. and I didn’t understand why. I think we all have moments like that sometimes.. at least a lot of us. The important thing is to keep moving forward, never give life the time to go stagnant – keep moving forward. And I have.What would I change if I could? I think we would move into a house, from our small flat – we are a wee bit cramped and it is outdated. I have plans for decluttering it and making it more beautiful, though, so that can make us comfortable for now.
There are a number of reasons why we can’t right now. The kids need time to safely come into their own – away from parents dating, divorces, and big moves or big changes. The best thing I can do is support them now, and that gives me some time to move into a house. I’m also trying to get my degrees – four of them, to be exact. I’ve no idea if I will make it all the way, but I am willing to try and, as we all know, it can be expensive.
I think I would like to be rid of some of my past, but at the same time, our pasts help mold us into wha twe are. I also would like to shed some pounds.. but if I really want to, I will make many changes to do it. I thank God I am curvy! :)I wouldn’t change my children or my Unk for the world. I like them in my life. I wouldn’t give up my faith. I love it. I wouldn’t change my church, my car, or my location. Just the house, I think..
I love the beach – absolutely. I love everything in my life, really.I miss freedom the most. I can’t delve into that on a public board, but that is what I miss. Maybe in a few years, I will have it.
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Hi Chowa,
Good question as this something I have been mulling over for few months now.
After a battle with depression where this year it really was rock bottom, I have managed to pick myself up again. This year has not been good health wise for me or my family (all unexpected). My grandmother who I adored passed away unexpectedly in May and although she was a grand age and had a great life, it still broke my heart :( as she was everything to me.
My life is okay. It is not necessarily what I would like it to be but I am being positive because life is too short not to be. I have my off days like anyone but need to keep my spirits up for my daughter.
I love my job but would like to work more hours but on other hand I absolutely hate change and I have lost a lot of confidence. I would like to study something but don’t know what. It just seems to be a lot of ifs and buts at the moment. I am 42, divorced, single mum, single and I kind of just don’t know where I am going right now
At this present moment I hate my life. Nothing has gone right for the last three years. So many changes and usually not for the good. And I haven’t a clue how to change anything as confidence is rock bottom.
At this present moment I hate my life. Nothing has gone right for the last three years. So many changes and usually not for the good. And I haven’t a clue how to change anything as confidence is rock bottom.
I think we all reach this point at some stage in our life. Keep looking forward, take each day one at a time, and know that we’ve all got your back
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I’m just happy that I am alive still.
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Hi Chowa, Good question as this something I have been mulling over for few months now. After a battle with depression where this year it really was rock bottom, I have managed to pick myself up again. This year has not been good health wise for me or my family (all unexpected). My grandmother who I adored passed away unexpectedly in May and although she was a grand age and had a great life, it still broke my heart :( as she was everything to me. My life is okay. It is not necessarily what I would like it to be but I am being positive because life is too short not to be. I have my off days like anyone but need to keep my spirits up for my daughter. I love my job but would like to work more hours but on other hand I absolutely hate change and I have lost a lot of confidence. I would like to study something but don’t know what. It just seems to be a lot of ifs and buts at the moment. I am 42, divorced, single mum, single and I kind of just don’t know where I am going right now
Hi HeadintheClouds. Thank you for posting! I am so sorry that I haven’t replied back in so long. Just life has left me so busy that I mostly fall asleep when I get home, minues an hour or half an hour of half awake in the chat room(s).
I can understand having a broken heart from losing someone you love. There is a very big difference between KNOWING in our MIND that someone is old and can go and that death is a necessary evil, and another thing, wholeheartedly, to FEEL it and to EXPERIENCE it. I don’t think I know you well enough to give you true words of comfort. But I do remember losing my great aunt Ruth a long time ago and I still think of her fondly all of these years later – but it changed me greatly at a young age. So hang onto yourself, sweetie.
I think it sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and I am glad to hear that you have a great job. I understand needing more hours but do warn you to be careful with what you wish for. I searched for a part time gig and ended up with a just under full-time one and it’s CRAZY busy. I work extra time almost every day and I do miss the time with my littlest son. So, yes, my dear, it sounds like you are right about waiting.. as long as your family can handle it.
I wonder if change comes harder for each of us as we age? I’ve always handled anything life would throw at me – whether its consequence sof me or someone else or just some random thing… but I do find that as I age, I am a little more daunted by major changes and requirements. ;o I wonder how much of that is in the head..
Don’t worry – over time you will get your bearings and I’m sure figure out in what direction life is leading for you to go. I get the whats, ifs, and buts problem. I haven’t any solution for that, either. I know single parenting is quite demanding – I struggle with it, too. It’s the best thing and the worst thing. And even though my ex wasn’t the best, I do miss being married. I always wanted to be a mother and a wife, and a career woman, last. I managed them all but my marriages didn’t really last as I married too quickly.
But I have met so many different people from so many different walks of life. Seems that life always gives us plenty of opportunities to change our life in just about every way – for good and for bad. I think you can make it and I think this will pass. :)
You sound like a great mom!
At this present moment I hate my life. Nothing has gone right for the last three years. So many changes and usually not for the good. And I haven’t a clue how to change anything as confidence is rock bottom.
Hi Sueh1960,
I am really sorry to hear that. I hope that you know that this too will pass. In 2010, my heart failed and I had to have emergency surgery. My family and friends – some wanted to be with me and couldn’t, and some didn’t bother. I didn’t even get a phone call before and I was SO scared. A year and a half later, I was hit by a car. And a year and a half after that a car ran me and my fam into three other SUV’s.
It took me a long time of being stressed to come to a point of.. these things happened. They were mostly out of my control but I responded the best I could. All I can do is forgive myself for the things I did wrong and the choices I made ignorantly and move forward and try to do better.What I would suggest is finding a good friend and confident that you have known a long time.. or even speaking to a licensed psychologist or counselor if you must. They have a bad rap, but spent years and years in school to try and help people. In the US, they aren’t allowed to release anything you speak of to anyone unless it involves a crime.. so can help one get some ideas.
Sometimes, it’s like Martin said – just putting one foot in front of the other.. and a lot of times it’s baby steps.
For me, it’s outlook. it’s all about taking inventory emotionally, spiritually, physically, and then figuring out where I should be vs where I am (and why I think those things). Then, I make a plan. I figure out what one thing I want to work on.. and I move forward.
Man, this degree has taken me years longer than I first planned – due to the many hardships. but I have things to be grateful for. So, I just realize that things are what they are, and I was ablt to see things to be grateful for. It’s weird but the sense of gratitude and the inventory of what I didn’t realize I had – along with the freedom of getting to make my own choices finally – really has helped me. I would say I am a different person than a year ago. :) More like who I once was – and I rather liked that girl.
Martin is right, I think. It’s a journey. Just gotta take it a day at a time. I don’t know if I helped at all. And I’m sorry it’s been rough. I wish there were some kind of help.
For a lark I will tell ye that when things were really bad, I used to fantasize about writing a letter to Oprah or going to one of her shows – – maybe she would give ME a car or a house like so many haha. I’m glad I am self-made now. :) Hang in there, kiddo. :)
Is there some reason that you wouldn’t be?
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