Here's A Thought!

Lol @ Pete…Blimey I’d forgotten about the ASL..lol.

When I used to use chat I wished at times that I should have had an interpreter as I had no idea of what some text on the screen meant.

WTF was one I had no idea about until one time someone mentioned to me what it was. Then there is a word IKKLE, no doubt appearing in a dictionary in the future. ?

As time went on there appeared to be CLANGER LANGUAGE…I just gave up in the end and wondered do people converse like that in reality.

orson kart wrote:

,I also hate ,and ive said it many times the hi,bye,wb,brigade,but ive come to realise thats what chat is,so you know let it be innit,so consequently I prefer boards,in all my years on boards ive never seen anybody say hi,bye,wb,brb,hb ltns etc.

Y’see I don’t see it like that, Some do TRY to join in with chat but theyre cut out of it, I left this morning after watching what I can only say I found utterly distasteful, a small group of regs pulling someone apart who wasn’t in the room, and yes, one was a guide.  it was like watching a pack of dogs with a fox tearing it apart

I don’t want or need to see what these few do for theyre own gratification and validation, so I left.

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Dixie

Dixie wrote:

Am I to believe that you are staff here Rosepetal? So.. Rosepetal in response to your points: You opened this chat community and you have to deal with everything that is thrown at you because that is why you have the role of owner/staff. We do by not taking most of it too seriously. So you are admitting you don’t take the abuse/trolling seriously nor are willing to help people who come to you for guidance because it shouldn’t be taken too seriously? What if the shoe was on the other foot and you were the subject for the trolls and you had no way of doing anything about it because you were a chatter only, I’m certain you would want things done by the staff members, wouldn’t you? Also laws are a lot different to when this place first started out whenever that may have been, i’m guessing years. for this place to get to this level of cruelty:- Indeed, however both NS and myself have had several dealings with the police in the past two years regarding some of the more serious trolling issues with certain chatters. Although most chatters naturally won’t believe that or believe that there are some on going investigations, I can assure you it’s true. Both of us of late have been impressed with the police response we have had but due to them having so many other things to deal with it takes time. And, again I’m going to have a wild guess that nothing has surfaced in any courts because the whole truth has been twisted to protect the ones that keep the money rolling in? It only takes time when evidence is not given, or the truth is twisted in as many ways as you want it to be to keep this community protected. You have the ability and the tools to stop the trolls. :- We have a ban and gag facility, the Hosts can cookie ban and gag any chatter at any time. The chatter can come back with 10 minutes. No Host or Guide can be here 24/7. There are no other tools. Come on now Rose we all know that’s wrong in every degree, you as staff have access to Ips?..Ips can be traced and you also will know what provider their internet is coming from, how’s about contacting their ISP and have their internet cut off for let’s say.. abusive ways? It can be done and it has been done on many occasions, so yes there is other ways to deal with it but as I said previously it seems that you can’t be bothered it’s too much hassle for this online community. NEVER trust them!:- Misogynists, egocentrics, narcissists, paranoid’s, schizophrenic’s and total FckWits are always trusted by those who think they can change them because they often misogynistic, narcissistic, paranoid, schizophrenic FckWits themselves. As hard as you try they won’t listen! Seems it’s not just the chatters that aren’t trusted here, the staff don’t seem to have a good record neither, maybe because people have come to you pleading with you to do something about the rubbish going on and you just tell them to forget it or use ignore, but that never achieves anything in the long run, you want a better place to chat then things need to be changed, don’t they? Listen to the users of this community without them you wouldn’t be needed here nor would u have somewhere to go neither. a duty of care:- Now I’ve heard it all! Seriously, these are adults who enter the Chatroom. The rules blatantly state, don’t give out personal information. There is no contractual agreement that says anyone should care about anyone! Yes, yes you do have a duty of care for the people whom come here to chat, if you didn’t then the laws would not have been changed, Ignoring a chatters plea to help them in whatever circumstance arises at whatever time is negligence and therefore that could lead to a chatter self-harming, drug use or worse, you know many of your chatters have mental health issues therefore all of above is possible, if you know of someone’s mental state and you chose to ignore that then that is wrong and the duty of care for that person has just been brushed off because all they are is a number or a name on your screen. It’s not about caring about strangers, it’s about you as staff doing the right thing by people, Yes some have problems some don’t but they all need the same amount of respect from staff members who are supposed to be online to help when they are logged in as staff! Live your lives instead of wasting your good years on pathetic people:- The best advice ever! I know that is why it was typed. But in all seriousness here, Why have you only picked up on a few of my points what about the rest?. Or do u fully agree with them? Auf Wiedersehn. x

Calm down now Dixie. I thought your post was great and yes I whole heartedly agree with many of your points.

But as unpaid staff it’s not our job to either care or delve into people’s mental state and issues they suffer or don’t as the case may be.

We are not counsellor’s we are there simply there to moderate the room when we can.

If a chatter chooses to self- harm or takes drugs that’s not our responsibility, no one forces them to come and chat and get caught up things they can’t get themselves out of. That’s what that little white X in the red box is for!

Having said that I would defy you to ask some of the chatters that have suffered severe trolling and ask them how much both NS and myself have gone out of our way to do what we can with the time we have available to devote to chatters.

This is often where all that whinging about us not being fair comes from. Simply because we do have respect for all people but for those who have seemed to suffer more strife than others we have devoted our time to help in ways that you will never know and therefore might seem we don’t care about others.

I doubt that will satisfy your need to bash the owner and staff for not being caring but you crack on, it will affect us not one iota. We do what we can, it’s an adult site and all adults are capable of making their own choices.

Rose wrote:

This really is an adult site isn’t it? Or am I living in a parallel universe?

hope so, its certainly cleared up a few things, I don’t bully.