Here's A Thought!

Good night in jc tonight, well most of it.No fighting, biatchin, lots of love going about, must be something to do with valentines

Pete wrote:

Tapioca wrote:

Beautifully written, such poise and grace. I suspect you will hit a nerve or two with this one.

Nah

You should really try and be more to the point, Pete 

Dixie wrote:

All i’ve seen on here is Moaning, Bitching with lashings of Paranoia. It’s really simple, you moan about the place being ruined by all the rubbish going on, well do something about it, what is coming on here going to achieve? but let them know they’re getting to you, the staff of this place all need to come together and stand strong and not allow it, no favourites! we’ve seen the favouritism, dont say it don’t happen, IT DOES. It’s okay saying ‘Use Ignore’ kind of a catch 22 there..the trolls are doing it for shock tactic behavior and the chatters will ALWAYS defend themselves as would anyone being abused/trolled online. What we cannot change is how people feel, some are more vulnerable than others and do you not have a duty of care towards your chatters? The simple fact is YES you do. You opened this chat community and you have to deal with everything that is thrown at you because that is why you have the role of owner/staff. Also laws are a lot different to when this place first started out whenever that may have been, i’m guessing years.. for this place to get to this level of cruelty. You have the ability and the tools to stop the trolls, but it’s clear to see that you don’t want to because so long as they are in the place causing havoc it’s keeping numbers up and money in the owners pocket! It’s correct every log in earns money, right!? “The need for control always comes from someone that has lost it.” Think about this, why do the trolls/abusers do what they do online? Because the reality is.. in reality they have NADA. They choose to do what they do because they are clutching at the short straws left by them that left their world and they hate the fact of losing control totally, so here they are in their sad existance to try and belittle everyone else to make themselves feel better, when infact they probably cry themselves to sleep more than a person with a troubled life. They hide behind a persona they have spent years building and they thrive on drawing people to their world, but it never lasts because their true colours show eventually. Then comes the paranoia because people never know where they are at with the people they ‘think’ they know, infact you never fully know somebody online, NEVER trust them! It will drive you insane and that there then sets another set of wheels in motion for the trolls, something else to thrive on. Live your lives instead of wasting your good years on pathetic people, who don’t deserve the breath in your body and love those that love you back and treat you well, Arrivederci x

In response to your points Dixie:-

You opened this chat community and you have to deal with everything that is thrown at you because that is why you have the role of owner/staff.

We do by not taking most of it too seriously.

Also laws are a lot different to when this place first started out whenever that may have been, i’m guessing years. for this place to get to this level of cruelty:-

Indeed, however both NS and myself have had several dealings with the police in the past two years regarding some of the more serious trolling issues with certain chatters. Although most chatters naturally won’t believe that or believe that there are some on going investigations, I can assure you it’s true. Both of us of late have been impressed with the police response we have had but due to them having so many other things to deal with it takes time.

You have the ability and the tools to stop the trolls. :-

We have a ban and gag facility, the Hosts can cookie ban and gag any chatter at any time. The chatter can come back with 10 minutes. No Host or Guide can be here 24/7. There are no other tools.

NEVER trust them!:-

Misogynists, egocentrics, narcissists, paranoid’s, schizophrenic’s and total FckWits are always trusted by those who think they can change them because they often misogynistic, narcissistic, paranoid, schizophrenic FckWits themselves.

As hard as you try they won’t listen!

a duty of care:-

Now I’ve heard it all! Seriously, these are adults who enter the Chatroom. The rules blatantly state, don’t give out personal information. There is no contractual agreement that says anyone should care about anyone!

Live your lives instead of wasting your good years on pathetic people:-

The best advice ever!

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jamief

I actually kind of liked that post of yours Rose.Because it was honest, and true and how I would Imagine a guide would look at things.

I was not littered with words,frases or anything of any sort directed at certain people who you have fell out with in the past, that would hurt, inflame an argument, or embarrass anyone.I have no elusions about you or NS anymore.I myself have been embarressed,and very hurt by your actions on so many occasions.NS I have no clue about before the last cupel of years.I don’t think the woman has ever had a nice word to say to me or about me.there have been some other chatters treated in the same way.

Everyone knows I’m the numpty Alcoholic that Trolls the room. Evryone knows that I’m the numpty alcoholic that started chatting to Mario,who was upset by him and fights with him in the room. Evryone knows I have been banned and gagged many times.I can say the bans mostly have been fair, because the guides and hosts have had no other choice.However when I came back after staying away for  well over four months, the goading and grief I got when I went in the room was so bad that the favourites of the room were just intolerable,not just to me but to others.People have been kindly talking to me in pm consoling and helping me along the way.People who never say a bad word about you NS or anyone els.The other guides that I have seen in the room have been fair and nice.

I have no idea how you cope with what you do.I do know this though that buy talking in a room as the host of the room about certain chaters,egging other chatters on to pick on people talk about them, take their name through the mud.Jus can not be right.Im not talking about chatters like thin ice or Jocker.Im talking about other Women, that you don’t like so then the nasty favourites slag people off., tell lies about them and harass them.Even in their own homes, by phoning them.You know very well  how peoples lives are going.You are very much in the loop.I know this because I’m not the cleverest person in the world but have watched how people get demoralised and hurt, by the bullying of you and NS.

Numpty drinker alky anything you want to call me, because you have,I don’t care.I do care though about the nice people.The people that have understood what a kind word or some understanding means.What it can achieve.I honestly hope that things change.I have came in to jc for more than seven years.I really thought in my silly head when I came back ,you would see how id changed my life and how I was coping you would have had the balls to turn to the favourites  and say give her a chance.Nothing was further away.

I absolutely love coming in when the room is good so always nice to hear people say hi Jamie,and have a laugh.Oh I will be changing my name and ip, and I will come in the room.I wont let on who I am.I have lost respect for you.

Hello everyone…With the risk of being disliked myself I have to mention something.

Im aware that some people who use a chat room..( not just this particular chat room ) cant or find it difficult to get out and about or use it as company but quite frankly I find it rather sad that some chatters have too ( what appears ) be constantly with every every waking moment be logged into the chat room like its the only thing in life they have…Before anyone goes off on one I would even go as far as to mention that it’s an addiction.

I usex to use chat myself abd back in the day I found it rather nice too be abke to chat to individual’s but from what I’ve seen of late I’m counting my blessings that I have gainful employment and my time is taken up by that and other things.

Quite frankly if anyone feels the need to get defensive then knock yourself out but for goodness sake take up a hobby or if and I mention if you’re able to get out and about and you’re young enough then GET A JOB!!

Just off to ring a therapist too see if they can cure some people of the addiction they have.

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rudeboy