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well it was Fathers day yesterday, and got me thinkin….
my lass doesnt see her father, through no choice of hers, just the way its pan out…
she said to me yesterday, oh I don’t need to bother gettin a fathers day card mummy as I don’t see my daddy…. and went happyly through her day,.,,, ( or did she..?? )it got me thinking,…. he father has 2 other sons whom are alot older than my lass, so obvisouly he would of got cards, and I wondered does he actually think of his daughter on this day…?? and how can a man whom is a father already, live with himself in not seeing another sibling…??
any folks out there Fathers whom don’t see their kids…?? is it through your choice..?? do u forget about the kids through time…??
from a Mothers point of view i couldnt even think about not having my kids with me, so how can a man live with it.,..??
Sad thing its Mother can do the same Mary. Personally i would rather die then walk out on my babies. My husbands biological father walked out on him at 2 days old as he was 3 months premature and weighted 2lb14oz and they said he would never live or if he did be brain damaged. Luckily neither happened and he was fatherless but another man took his fathers place at 6 months and he turned out to be useless aswell he went when he was 15 and sees him on a hop and a catch. His mother also needs to be questioned for her role!!
Anyone can be a parent but it takes someone special to be a mummy or daddy xhi mary pet
my daughter doesnt see her father either, his choice. hes never seen here ever. hes seen a pic and knows shes around but he choose not to see her or have anything to do with her. but he too has 2 other kids who are now grown adults and he will have got cards from them. i think hes a grandad now as well so im sure his day was special (ha ha)
tbh i dont think he even gave our daughter a second thought yesterday, maybe when she was a baby he did but after 11 yrs i dont think he even thinks about her.
i know my daughter didnt think about him, she chose to give a card to my sons dad, who although he hasnt been a fab dad either has always been there for her.well, I blame myself the most, as ive said before on different threads, atfirst i did stop him from seeing my lass, and at that time i thought i was doing right, inwhich with maturity and a better understanding of life. I know now, and now being rather late. I did wrong. Over the past 3 yrs I have tried my best to rectify this mistake through contact with his family etc, my lass and me even met him, and he took her numbers etc and promised to call…. as u’ll guess the calls have never came, so just 4 mths ago I tried again, not hard to track his family down as they run 2 pubs locally… lol ive even tried gettin the karaoke gigs lol cheek eh lol … inwhich i was told after going back and chasing up yet again, that they don’t wish the past dragged up again…
so ive havent told my lass, Mr Wolfie said there’s no point in upsetting her, …
what I don’t wish to happen is when she gets to the teenage years… to throw into my face as ive been honest with her… you,… stopped me from seeing my dad… its your fault…. etc… the battlelines drawn up…. God i just remember back what I put my own mother through lol givin me the willies lol
GB, she idolises Mr Wolfie, and he’s been extremely important to her over the last 3 years… and he gives her just as much attention as he does his own 2 girls and the wee barra…. I think when she realises you can get cards for someone special on fathers day… she’ll ask to get Mr Wolfie one…
I just wander back to saying if only…. then she might be actually be having a relationship with her daddy now….
I dont think you should beat yourself up over it fact is yes you shouldnt of kept him away from his daughter but the one at fault is him why???? If someone told you to stay away from your daughter would you? NO if he wanted he could of seen her he could of took it to court couldnt he so dont beat yourself up ok (((((hug))))) x
I noticed in the shops a lot of cards which had the writing ‘You’re like a dad to me’ which is quite sweet (and reflects the society we live in today I guess) and anyway, it takes more of a man to look after someone else’s child as they would their own. =D>
I don’t know anyone in my immediate family or friends who doesn’t have their Dad, so I suppose I can’t really comment on the situation :? – what I will say though, is that I agree with Mary on the fact that I couldn’t imagine life without my kids, and therefore can’t understand how others can just walk away.
i haven’t seen my dad since i was about 4, and never been curious or thought about him on fathers day… it wasn’t my dads choice not to see his kids…mother got custody and he just faded away…anyways fast forward about 17years and he’s just come back into my brothers lives(he’s a stranger to me so i decided not to meet him) and seems really happy to be getting to know them….so i don’t think most fathers forget about the kids they have that they don’t have contact with
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