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Gud on her I say……….I hope it works out for the girl.
you should never give up anything for anyone.. as soon as somone wants you to change… fu*k them… be yourself and do what you like doing, if they got a problem with it, then its there problem, and not yours
@soulie wrote:
you should never give up anything for anyone.. as soon as somone wants you to change… fu*k them… be yourself and do what you like doing, if they got a problem with it, then its there problem, and not yours
Yeh that’s rite to a certain extent soulie…..but relationships are all about compromise too……I just wish gemz well that’s all….not sure she’s gona find happiness with him, but I admire the girl for trying :)
no, its not right in any relationship… this so called thing called love, is loving each other for who they are.. you can’t say to somone, i love everything about you.. apart from ect ect.. so can you please refrain from doing that
gemz life and friends are online, if a girlfriend of mine told me that i was’nt allowed to spend time with my mates, i would tell her my friends are more importent, and think less of the girl
@angel* wrote:
@soulie wrote:
you should never give up anything for anyone.. as soon as somone wants you to change… fu*k them… be yourself and do what you like doing, if they got a problem with it, then its there problem, and not yours
Yeh that’s rite to a certain extent soulie…..but relationships are all about compromise too……
That’s so true Angel.
If the computer is causing problems, and both Gemz and Scott know for a fact that it’s the computer, then YES, i think they should stay off it.
I know that you shouldn’t change for a partner, or expect a partner to change for you, but i think to a certain extent, if your relationship is important to you both, then it’s something you both have to agree upon.
We’re all different though, and we all believe in different things, but i agree with you both on this one.
@soulie wrote:
no, its not right in any relationship… this so called thing called love, is loving each other for who they are.. you can’t say to somone, i love everything about you.. apart from ect ect.. so can you please refrain from doing that
gemz life and friends are online, if a girlfriend of mine told me that i was’nt allowed to spend time with my mates, i would tell her my friends are more importent, and think less of the girl
In every relationship, both on and off – line, there will be friends who will try their hardest to cause trouble. I’d have the sense to realise if someone was trying to cause sh/it. I know you should never dis your friends, BUT, if in a serious relationship, and especially if there are kids involved (Like there is in Gemz’s and Scott’s relationship), then you have to draw the line somewhere.
I’ve never expected a partner to drop a friend, although quite recentely, i found out that i had been accused of doing Just that! I have tried to make partners realise when a friend of theirs is trying to cause trouble between us, and if it were the partner trying to make me see that, then i would take it on board!
also on the other foot, if you got friends like that also, then they are not your friends
life is simple, enjoy what you have.. be yourself, and make friends along the way, don’t be somthing else in order to keep friends… girlfriends… just play it as it is
I do agree with u to an extent soulie hun…..no one should try and change another…..but even from my own personal point of view my relationship changed somewot with my hubby cos I was spending all of my time online…….not that he minded or ever told me to stop, but I realised that I wasn’t really being fair……in a relationship you have to compromise and do things that you dont always want to do….that’s the name of the game……and if I had to choose between my husband and the internet, then I’m afraid my husband would win everytime…..I’m not sayin I haven’t made some wonderful friends on here…..but you have to ask yourself wot’s really important and wot your priorities are in ur life, i don’t no the whole story with gemz and scott and i dont wanna no, it’s none of my business, i just wish the girl happiness that’s all, we all deserve to be happy in life :) xx
its all about compromise not changing someone
if you love someone you will compromise and try to work things out.
gemz has said she’ll stop going online so much and scott has given up something.
if theres something causing harm in a relationship shouldnt you try to rectify the problem as best you can.
if me coming on line was causing problems in my relationship then id stop coming online,simple as that. its not about me changing just knowing that sometimes you gotta do things you dont necessarily want to do to help a relationship survive.
good on her id say.
but i bet she aint away for long :lol:its not just the coming online though, its the miss trust he has in gemz… maybe fair.. maybe not.. but if i’m with somone and they tell me, you are not allowed to go out with your friends for 3 months, i’ll just say… feck it.. you don’t tell me what i can and can’t do.. maybe 3 years ago, i would have done what she said.. not anymore though, spent too much of my life being controlled within a relationship.. its not helthy
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