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I was gobsmacked today to read that a boy of 12 is being prepared for a sex change operation. During the summer holidays his parents transformed him by putting him into a dress and pigtails for the September term. His name has been changed by deed poll.
Is it possible at such a young age to know you want a sex change?
Is it possible even at such a young age to even understand it?
Although the full story and history has not been disclosed and I’m sure the parents havn’t taken the decision lightly, surely its incomprehendable to even imagine.
hmmm not sure they really do at that age . . but better then than wait till you’ve been married 15 years, had 3 kids and then drop the bombshell :roll:
Yes it is possible to know at such a young age…many transexuals say that they always knew they were in the wrong body, that growing up the wrong sex was so confusing and upsetting, and the onset of puberty was very traumatic. I don’t think any of us can imagine what it must be like to be in a male body but feeling that you are really female or vice versa.
Many cultures embrace these people, indeed even revere them. The Native Americans referred to them as “two-spirit” people. Others ridicule, with most of the ridicule usually coming from ignorance, confusing someone with gender identity issues with transvestites, paedophiles and so on.
Anyone who takes the step of changing physically is going to go through huge changes, not just physically. They have to go through a high level of screening before doctors will even consider it, including living as the other sex for a period of time. I think to see this through to completion you have to be pretty determined and courageous, and even when the surgery is complete they still have to face people who will judge and ridicule them.
I hope it works out well for the child and that they enjoy their life as they feel they were meant to.
I agree mostly with you Jen . . but . . for some its more the fantasy of being female . . and after the change they take being female to the extreme . . .
If you go private you do have a psych consult but even then it doesnt count for anything, you can have the op almost straight away . .
What doesnt get reported on is the effect the tansexuals decision has on family members and close friends . . they are actually quite selfish about everything afterwards and . .
no . . nuff said . .
:x Oh for Gods sake………no, i`m not even gonna entertain this nonsense :x
Whilst i understand everything you are saying Jen and what Sus is saying, I still feel albeit from personal experience of my 3 at that age it cannot be possible to make such a drastic decision. Yes we hear time and time again how youngsters felt trapped in their bodies from such an early age…either feeling in the wrong body or being gay.
The fact it takes some men so many years down the line to finally admit they are unhappy also shows even they themselves don’t take the decision lightly and possibly feel that it is just feelings whilst growing up and decide to give “normal” life a go. Hence marriages and children.
My 13 year old is over 6 ft as ive said many times and im sorry for being repetative but he is quite immature in many ways and boys as a fact mature slower than girls, and it is a boy who wants to become a female in this case.
How sad ….. Well I suppose there’s for & againsts here.
Personally, I think we hear about & read stories of peeps that feel that they were born in the wrong body at an early age but do nothing & live a lie often marrying & having children before coming out & ripping loads of lives apart so maybe it’s not such a bad thing from that veiw.
On the other hand a 12 year old making such a radical decision…. that bothers me.
On a positive note start the councilling process because it must be an absolute minefield.
As for the hormone treatment & surgery well I think maybe that decision is best left for a while. The poor kid has only just started puberty & hormones are raging anyhow.
In any event a difficult debate.
I think what is important here is that the boy has the full backing and support of both his parents, and I can’t imagine it’s a decision that’s been taken lightly by any or either of them.
There are so many sad cases like this, where the man or woman feels trapped in the wrong body, and don’t feel that they can talk to their parents or anyone else about it, because of the stigma that comes with it i’d imagine. So they spend their lives in this secret world they’re forced, in a way, to create. There are others too of course, who resort to taking their own lives because it’s the only way out for them.
One of the papers is reporting that no surgery can be carried out until the boy is 15 anyway, and gone through puberty. He has support though, and at this time I think that’s very important.
@gazlan wrote:
:x Oh for Gods sake………no, i`m not even gonna entertain this nonsense :x
not even with a song or a dance routine ?
not even with a song or a dance routine ?
Put whitney houston on the stage, i might reconsider…….emphasis on the might
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