Fifty Shades of Grey……….

Gawd, I hope it doesn’t come out before Xmas pmsl, as if?!!

@mrs_teapot wrote:

This reminds me of the fuss when Lady Chatterley’s Lover was published in paperback… as a little girl I remember my mum made a brown paper sleeve for her copy so no-one could see she was reading it…. how times have changed :D

It seems people read it on their kindles now . . . . . .

@cath 55 wrote:

one of my biggest worries is the amount of women who are raving about it , will it make those men with dominant tendencies jsut do more thinking its all ok cos of the hype? excuse themselves saying well its what women want?

I am not a prude and role play for instance in any bodys world is fine but beng controlled and dominated in general life is not in my opinion….

some say its a love story………well for women who liive with domination/controlling any love is better than none maybe?

of course, there are those that do like it i dont take that away from them but thinkk about it ladies , your man comes home , asks you if you have been out, you forget you popped to the shop earlier for a pint of milk or ciggies or whatever…….. you answer no…..he finds out later u did go out………..result? punishment.

its excapism for some maybe this book and i dont take that away from the author her sales team have done an excellent job of course and enjoy the book if you are reading thats just my 10 penneth worth .

I agree ! I know strong women/lassies ready to try all that bondage malarky. what folks do it up to them. I worry more for the more vulnerable women. and excuses for domestic violence. Of assuming it is therefore okay as they said it was ” erotic fiction” in some cheap chick Lit book ?

My take on this is that there is a huge difference between domestic violence, people who emotionally and/ or physically control people, and people who engage in any kind of roleplay, infact the dom/ sub role is very complex and the dominant person is extremely mindful of their submissive other half, it isn’t how its sometimes potrayed, with a beating when they do something wrong, the dominant knows the person extremely well and only takes them to whatever levels they want to go, they are often far more caring, thoughtful and indeed uncontrolling than people realise. They are in effect dictated to by what a sub wants and to what degree, so in fact the sub calls the shots ultimately. Agreed like anything there are extremes.
A sub / dom life style is different to a sub / dom sex life too, as i said it can be very complex.
I personally think the people that control others through their singular choice, with the mind and emotions are as dangerous, they are often insecure selfish people who are trying to control people against their will, which is the polar opposite to any sub / dom relationship.
Its a very interesting psychological investigation that you talk of, i havent read the book, yet, i may i may not but i’ve been told their are many other sides to it besides this.
But i will enjoy hearing all your takes on what the book actually meant to everyone.
And no before anyone asks i am not in a sub/ dom relationship except when i want something mended then i can be very dominant, or is that nagging :lol:

Ok I read 6 chapters of book one I doubt I will make it to the end,,,,,I’m mad with myself because I bought all three books…. cannot imagine what goes on in that room (people who have read it will know what I mean)… thing is I dont think I want to know. OK I’m boring…. I prefer a good yarn.