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I spent too many unhappy years trying to make my first marriage work, but for it to succeed you both have to want to work at it. I should have got out sooner but I didn’t…why? Low self esteem, pride and not wanting to admit to my parents that they were right when they tried to stop me marrying him, but also being brought up to believe that marriage was not to be taken lightly and that marriage was for life.
By all means do your best to make a relationship work, but when the time comes that you realise that it just is never going to get better and what you have isn’t enough, take your courage in both hands and make a fresh start. Never let another person erode your self esteem to the point where you think this is all you deserve, for you deserve so much more. And that goes for men as well as women.
I disagree with kent – I did fall in love, and I did love him, and it just went cos of the treatment I was getting – I don’t look back at anything happy, apart from the time I had with my kids! For instance I can’t stand watching old videos of them when he is in them. No fond memories at all!
However, my hubby doctored my videos and put them on a cd for me, so I can watch them without seeing the f’ing b’strd, who won’t allow them into his house now cos his new wife is jealous of them fgs!
I know peeps are gonna think there is a fine line between love and hate, they are probably right, but I fell out of love with him years ago, and well before we split up.
What I hate is what he has put my kids through! Anyone else had this type of experience?
Fidelity . . Kid yourselves not, it’s all about SELF CONTROL !
Kenty I couldnt agree with you more :)
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