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Does it bother you if someone you seem to have got on well with online suddenly goes the other way? Do you try to sort it or just accept what’s happened as after all they may just be ‘a name and words on the screen’?…….How important is this to you?
yes it would bother me if it was someone i knew well, the names and words on a screen argument doesn’t stack up with me, those names were chosen by real people, those words are typed by real people with real feelings. But if its just a passing chat room/ board acquaintance, a hi and bye, the odd hows the weather person, then no it probably wouldn’t bother me too much, unless i had obviously done something really offensive to them, then i would try and at least apologise and explain the intention wasn’t to offend, as wether i meant it to or not, it obviously did offend them for some reason.(this does exclude any nutty keyboard warriors mind u, they can swivel :lol: )
@tinks wrote:
Does it bother you if someone you seem to have got on well with online suddenly goes the other way? Do you try to sort it or just accept what’s happened as after all they may just be ‘a name and words on the screen’?…….How important is this to you?
Depends how well you know them or think you know them. I’d try and find out why, though, then probably say, “ah, sod it!” :D
Seriously though, on here, anyone can be anything they want to be. If they turn, maybe it’s all caught up with them.
@tinks wrote:
Does it bother you if someone you seem to have got on well with online suddenly goes the other way? Do you try to sort it or just accept what’s happened as after all they may just be ‘a name and words on the screen’?…….How important is this to you?
That would depend who it was.
I suppose we are all of us likely to react the same way online as we would in real life. My reaction to a fall out with a mate would be to try heal the rifts. That usually works with close friends, but the odd person has let me down so badly i’ve walked away for good. I would do the same with online friends. Trust is an important part of friendship and the internet throws up the “trust no-one” viewpoint all the time! It is only ever “names and words on a screen” if you don’t really care about the people who type them.
As you go through life you will naturally discard friends and make new ones. Most people have only got time for a handful of close friends in their life.We have to accept that we will lose contact with some people as we stop having anything in common.
Ive done it to people, i admit it, and they have done it to me.I felt some guilt but tbh they were better off without me if i thought that way about them.
I would never go to a school reunion as if i wanted to keep in contact with the people i went to school with i would of done over the past 30 years. Plus dementia is setting in now and i cant remember who they are anyway. :lol:
@a certain sadness wrote:
As you go through life you will naturally discard friends and make new ones. Most people have only got time for a handful of close friends in their life.We have to accept that we will lose contact with some people as we stop having anything in common.
Ive done it to people, i admit it, and they have done it to me.I felt some guilt but tbh they were better off without me if i thought that way about them.
I would never go to a school reunion as if i wanted to keep in contact with the people i went to school with i would of done over the past 30 years. Plus dementia is setting in now and i cant remember who they are anyway. :lol:
i like your honesty acs
hmmmmm interesting – I tend to speak/type my mind, and so, find, that I have offended people with no intention at all. I have apologised, and they do not reciprocate – however, in ‘real’ life, buy them a glass of wine and say sorry, I really didn’t mean it, how it came out, works – it doesn’t in here!!
@anc wrote:
hmmmmm interesting – I tend to speak/type my mind, and so, find, that I have offended people with no intention at all. I have apologised, and they do not reciprocate – however, in ‘real’ life, buy them a glass of wine and say sorry, I really didn’t mean it, how it came out, works – it doesn’t in here!!
yes………..seen that over the years in here too anc
I was upset…
@tinks wrote:
Does it bother you if someone you seem to have got on well with online suddenly goes the other way? Do you try to sort it or just accept what’s happened as after all they may just be ‘a name and words on the screen’?…….How important is this to you?
If you make “friends” with someone and share personal details then yeah it would matter to me, it would do my head in wondering why suddenly they have no contact etc.
Ones i count as friends would know as such and yes it has bothered me, wondering what went wrong and how come we dont speak anymore?
If i had a problem with someone i’d say it to them, let them know its not working out and that i no longer wish to keep in contact with them, i wouldnt just ignore them as that is just rude among other things.
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