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I think it is different if other peoples kids are in your home – they tend to be more respectful, all I have had to say in the past is “if you do that again/if you even think about doing that”, “I will tell your mum/dad” – that did the trick! :D
As for out and about, I did jump in between a guy and presumeably his g/f, and got a shiner to prove it – not going to do that again, but, I have rung the police since if I see a scene escalating.
On the other hand – when my son was about three and a half he opened a door for two old ladies – neither of which said thank you – he wondered why they were so rude – I went up to them and gave them a right stripping down, I can tell you!
Nice thread jen
I think its easy to walk past with your head down, but i would have to intervene if it was serious. Luckily im tall so kids are scared of me. 8)
Some scenarios where I have told off other ppls children….
1) 4 boys from year 5 climbing on a wall with a 30 foot fall on the other side. I told them off and stood and waited for them to climb down. This horrified my daughter as she was in their class at school
2) a child in my street decided to play chicken and stand in the road with arms outstretched in front of a bus… i opened my front door and yelled at him to move and stop being so foolish
3) A little girl wandering around a shop trying to talk to me… I told her to go and find her mother – her mother glared at me from across the shop for talking to her child so i shouted to her that I was making sure she was able to find her again, she shut up after that.
The fact of the matter is many parents allow their children to do things that others find totally unacceptable. Its all about principles and morals. I would never allow my children to wander off in a shop. EVER. But to some its fine.
It is difficult to know when you are being a responsible person and acting out of safety or being a meddling busy body and should turn a blind eye. I like to think I am the first.
@melody wrote:
Some scenarios where I have told off other ppls children….
1) 4 boys from year 5 climbing on a wall with a 30 foot fall on the other side. I told them off and stood and waited for them to climb down. This horrified my daughter as she was in their class at school
2) a child in my street decided to play chicken and stand in the road with arms outstretched in front of a bus… i opened my front door and yelled at him to move and stop being so foolish
3) A little girl wandering around a shop trying to talk to me… I told her to go and find her mother – her mother glared at me from across the shop for talking to her child so i shouted to her that I was making sure she was able to find her again, she shut up after that.
The fact of the matter is many parents allow their children to do things that others find totally unacceptable. Its all about principles and morals. I would never allow my children to wander off in a shop. EVER. But to some its fine.
It is difficult to know when you are being a responsible person and acting out of safety or being a meddling busy body and should turn a blind eye. I like to think I am the first.
it just takes that one second eh mel ? look at the Bulger case ( shudder) .
on a lighter note i once told the wee girl across the road to get out a hole the gas board had dug, there was an ominous smell of gas. to this day she wont talk to me and my grandson plays with her kids. It must have worked.. my telling her off ! But what is sad too is the other side of the coin,, a male friend of mine, himself a grandad saw tis wee girl have an awful fall,, she was screaming and covered in Blood, but my friend felt as a man he could not approach her.Hitting children is “frowned upon” as apparently such violence breeds more violence and teaches kids that violence is ok.
If this is true, why are kids arguably more violent these days then ever before?
@panda12 wrote:
Hitting children is “frowned upon” as apparently such violence breeds more violence and teaches kids that violence is ok.
If this is true, why are kids arguably more violent these days then ever before?
lol . . google war games :shock:
These kids are bombarded with these games. Compare the graphics to real images of war and instruments used in it by young soldiers
I googled war As Well
When I brought up the subject of discipline I wasn’t thinking of hitting children, it was verbal discipline that I had in mind.
If I get a chance tomorrow I’ll type up the event that led to me asking the question. It wasn’t actually the behaviour of the child that was the issue for me, it was the behaviour of the adults.
This is an example of discipline that a friend of mine did to her son………………She took him shopping with his older brother………saw him pick-pocket a magazine……….went up to the security guard and told him……..(also told him that he was her son and and could he frighten him to death)…………..so the security guard arrested him, only for an hour, but the lesson was well and truely learnt and the older brother wouldn’t do it again (if he had) either! Good on her is all I can say! :D
Disciplining children
Perhaps we can learn something from our cousins the Semites. :x
@gazlan wrote:
@panda12 wrote:
Hitting children is “frowned upon” as apparently such violence breeds more violence and teaches kids that violence is ok.
If this is true, why are kids arguably more violent these days then ever before?
lol . . google war games :shock:
These kids are bombarded with these games. Compare the graphics to real images of war and instruments used in it by young soldiers
I googled war As Well
Funny how whenever I post something, you’re there like a shot.
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