Death by papercuts

Mines an experience not an opinion.

@aussie_sassy wrote:

@blossom‘ wrote:

Who and what actually defines emotional abuse ?
Each and every one of us has a different reaction to ‘words’ .
As long as the abuse doesn’t become physical, I guess there’s not much to worry about, unless that is, that the person on the receiving end of the abuse is depressed, in which case the person should get help from his/her GP to cure his/her depression as ‘words’ have not to date killed anyone who is mentally sane.
I don’t want to seem insensitive, but I guess it’s about time people should ‘man up’ and stop whining.
If one feels belittled by words of an abuser, it means he/she had no self esteem to start with, it’s not the abuser who makes one lose one’s self esteem, one has to already be mentally fragile to experience belittlement.
I actually agree with the definition of domestic violence:
If you are not in fear of your life, you are not suffering it.

I agree with Melody this is utter rubbish. Nothing more needs to be said.

I agree with Melody and with Sassy here. Blossom you have obvioulsy never had to suffer any form of abuse in your life if this comment is anything to go by. Fine, fantastic for you, you’ve lived a happy carefree life…..but why dont u try for one minute to put yourself in someone elses situation and then see how hard it is to “man up”. You need a serious reality check

Where did anyone get this sentance from:

Definition of domestic violence:
If you are not in fear of your life, you are not suffering it.

Domestic violence, also known as domestic abuse, spousal abuse, battering, family violence, and intimate partner violence (IPV), is broadly defined as a pattern of abusive behaviors by one or both partners in an intimate relationship such as marriage, dating, family, or cohabitation.

Domestic violence, so defined, has many forms, including physical aggression or assault (hitting, kicking, biting, shoving, restraining, slapping, throwing objects), or threats thereof; sexual abuse; emotional abuse; controlling or domineering; intimidation; stalking; passive/covert abuse (e.g., neglect); and economic deprivation.

Alcohol consumption and mental illness can be co-morbid with abuse, and present additional challenges in eliminating domestic violence. Awareness, perception, definition and documentation of domestic violence differs widely from country to country, and from era to era.

Domestic violence and abuse isn’t limited to obvious physical violence. Domestic violence can also mean endangerment, criminal coercion, kidnapping, unlawful imprisonment, trespassing, harassment, and stalking.

To be told to “man-up” can be (sometimes) accaptable on the internet as its strangers and banter can be mistaken for bullying but never should be said in real life to someone who is suffering in one way or the other.

Christmas is the time of year when there are the highest number of relationship break downs, abuse etc, all down to everyone being thrown together for a longer period of time as ppl are off work and also the stress, financial strain etc that christmas brings…

So with that in mind… Happy Christmas everyone